after an argument with my bf i start packing ready to leave. Is that wrong?

Answer 1

Yes sweetie you cannot always threaten to leave and run away from the problems. You have to stand your ground and constructively get your point across so that your boyfriend understands what you need from him and what he needs from you.You both have to be able to stay and work things out together. What is there between you if things get tough and you can't draw on the love in your relationship to get you through? You are both together because you have deep feelings for one another and care about one another......you both have to take the bad with the good and not let anything tear you apart. You are best friends and you have to communicate on an understanding level and not let anything come between you. There are skills out there written in books on how to fight and argue about something appropriately and you could both learn how to get your point across without making things worsefor each other. You are mates possibly testing the waters for the long haul.Don't let the world and the things in it take you down .....stand on the love that you are both building and learn how to fix the cracks in the foundation and build that meaningfull life that you both deseve. Best wishes to the both of you sweetie.

Answer 2

I think it's wrong if it's only an argument. What if you were married to this person? At every sign of trouble are you going to run? Commitment is about staying with someone throughout the good times and the bad times. Every couple argues, it's how you resolve the problems that will make you stronger as a couple. Running from the problem will never solve anything. It may be something you will regret at some point because as someone else stated eventually he will tire of the drama and let you leave.
I think that unless you are planning to leave permanently it's wrong.
If he is abusive though then you should have left the first time he abused you.

Answer 3

Any argument? Or really big ones? if you're packing a bag more than once or twice a year there's some serious issues to deal with. If you're packing once a month it's probably a doomed relationship. If it's once a week, then why are you still there?

It's not wrong, but unless you're just doing it to make a point, it's a really bad sign. Heck, if it is just to make a point it's still a bad sign.

Answer 4

Based on a lot of your previous posts I think you need to pack and go. Why are you staying in a relationship where you are always unhappy or the bad times are becoming more frequent than the good times?

Answer 5

It's very childish and it seems like you are running away from the problems that you are facing. It is better to wait until both of you have calmed down and then discuss it in a mature way. Give yourselves time to think about it and then decide on the best course of action.

Answer 6

Was it a bad argument?

Do you threaten to leave after every argument?

If you are going to pack, be prepared to leave, he isn't going to want the drama after every little argument.

Answer 7

It is and it isnt. What is your relationship like? Do you pack a lot? Are you waiting for the one reason to call it quits so you wont feel guilty? You need to talk to him and decide what would be the best for both of you.

Answer 8

Do you want to leave the relationship? If so, then keep going. If not, talk WITH him and try to work things out.

Answer 9

Depends, do you want to fix the problem or just play all or nothing(nuke your partner,lol). You should give yourself some wiggle room before painting yourself into a tight spot.

Answer 10

depending on what the arguement was about, it could be the right answer. if he cheated on you and you are aguing about it, then yes that is legitamite. if you're leaving because he won't pick up his laundry or some other quirk about him, then I'd say work it out. talk it out if it's discussion worthy.