Do you really want an honest answer?? Also, are you trully willing to look at yourself and THINK??
Most of relationship problems stem from simple "Selfishness", think about it now!! Don't fly off the handle, really THINK it through and you will see that "Selfishness" on your part or your partners part, is the "Root" of your relationship problems.
After accepting that selfishness does exist here, the next thought will be to "Rationalize" that selfishness. "Well....he or she, did this or that" and with that you declare your "Right" in the matter.
"Well...I'm horny!!" "I want this or that" "He never does this or that for me!!" And if he or she did that in truth, check the "Selfishness Factor"!! It pops up everytime.
How about this, before you get in trouble. "Could WE possibly do this??" Or "Can WE make this happen about such and such"?? You have to sit together and agree to THINK and FEEL and BE as a single mind. Not two people struggling! Especially not AT each other
2007-05-28 01:53:55 · 11 answers · asked by dontwobears@sbcglobal.net 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Delux-version....this is not about arrogance and your comment was a little rude. But, that's okay, a lot of people need to sit back and re-evaluate HOW they think about their Relationships. Evidently, this is not pointed at YOU, but there are those that on occasion need a little advice. That is if you look at all the differant problems stated in YA. My Thoughts. No antagonism meant. God states we need to admonish those that are wrong or mis-led, whether by ignorance or naivity.
2007-05-28 07:16:43 · update #1
Thank you "Happygirl" you got the idea that I was working to express. It trully is "A 100% from me and 100% from you" Lord have mercy, things would be so differant in this world...Right???
2007-05-28 07:19:33 · update #2
At first I thought you were new here and just didn't get the gist of how things work. This is where the questions are posted and not the cookie cutter answers for all relationship problems. But, then I see that you're at Level 2. So you know how things go??? So maybe you're just venting? Something terribly wrong happened? Your advice isn't bad, it's just not appropriate for everyone. I know that you know that not one answer can fix everything. So.....Kudos to you for trying, at least your heart is in the right place. I'm still leaving this question a bit confused though! I take it back, I looked through all your questions....They are all like this! You don't have a clue on how to ask questions! You know what? I very rarely go to someone who thinks they know all the answers. That's not a wise man. That's an arrogant man. How many times does God say he hates arrogance in the Bible?
2007-05-28 02:16:10 · answer #1 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like her and didn't know she was in a serious relationship: 1. She doesn't actually care about the person she is with, because she didn't care to mention him once. 2. You don't know much about her personal life at all. 3. She cares about her boyfriend, but is unsure of the relationship and may be developing feelings for you, so she didn't want to ruin her chances by telling you she's taken. 4. Any of the above. Also, what do you mean by "pretty much just as friends"? If there is flirting going on, there may be a slight attraction there, do you feel like you can carry on an interesting conversation with her? If she laughs a lot when you are with her, that is a good sign. But I'm talking about a real laugh, where you actually made her forget any other troubles and be unconditionally happy for a moment, not a fake laugh. Also, if she's ever whispered a secret in your ear, she wants you. I don't think any girl would do that to someone they weren't attracted to.
2016-05-19 21:53:09 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so you don't have a question just some relationship advice. Great, except you know, the whole single mind, being as one metaphor? It's really gross. I love my husband because he is a different person than I am and because he is this different person, he has interesting experiences and ideas of and about the world. I would much rather be two seperate and struggling individuals who can and choose to empathise with each others wants and needs.
Okay advice though for those who need it, aside from the bad metaphor that gives me the image of siamese twins attached at the skull.
2007-05-28 02:01:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you 100%. I think the reason marriages fail is because one or both of the partners doesn't take responsibility for his/her actions, AND views marriage as disposable.
If each partner would TRULY give 100% and be giving, there would be no divorce.
2007-05-28 02:32:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Compromise and communication is the basis for any long lasting relationship to stay that way
2007-05-28 02:13:23 · answer #5 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Errmm...I guess your significant other wears the pants in the relationship, eh? And this question is your way of rationalizing it? I'm glad I'm not you, my wife would have dropped my butt before our 3rd date.
2007-05-28 02:02:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So whats your question. You waste space giving answers. Do you think that much about yourself.
2007-05-28 02:03:51 · answer #7 · answered by steinerrw 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i suppose u have an almost perfect relationship??..!!! well, good for yah.
Tnx for the tip. This may come handy when i need it.
2007-05-28 01:57:34 · answer #8 · answered by jables 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thanks for the advice. None of it would have applied in my case. But it was sweet of you to give anyway. Thank you.
2007-05-28 02:12:46 · answer #9 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats why i lost her!!
2007-05-28 02:00:02 · answer #10 · answered by be happy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋