What can I do, I am filled with rage and sadness.
2007-05-28 02:49:21 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can be there for your sister (thats so great that you care so much about her that it makes you mad -im an only child an have always wanted support like that!). I would DEFINITELY tell your sister she needs to get out of that picture right away. I mean 1 time cheating is something that maybe, MAYBE you can get over but 12 times and with her friend! He has some serious problems and for your sisters sake you need to get her out of there immediately!! God bless you both!
2007-05-28 02:53:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help you how. This is not your primary relationship and you are overreacting. Appropriate response to this type of news is empathy for your sisters position. Rage has no place in that support system. Your sister has a choice to make and the best thing you can do for her is not stoke the fire. Calmly allow her to bounce her thoughts and feelings off of you until she comes up with a reasoned decision.
2007-05-28 10:05:50 · answer #2 · answered by Healthy Lifestyle Geek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister needs your support and all the love and understanding you can give her. Have her call a counselor that can lead her in the right direction and to help her through the pain and anger of all her emotions. Also make sure she sets up an appointment with her doctor to be tested for std's.....keep her safe! He sounds like a philander / sex addict. I know you realize what your sister needs to do about him and she has to make this choice. Make sure she takes care of her self ...I am sure she is totally devastated and confused so just continue to watch over her. She is lucky to have you right now sweetie.
2007-05-28 10:22:03 · answer #3 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stay out of it and let your sister decide what she is going to do. You be there for her to listen, cry, and be mad with her but let her decide. She is the only one that can do it. Hopefully, she will leave him before she invests any more time with a cheater. He won't change. She will just have to learn to adapt and hope he doesn't bring home some STD to her. She deserves a husband that respects and loves her. I hope she calls a divorce lawyer tomorrow. Good luck and be there for her. She will need you.
2007-05-28 09:55:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
gee,what a shame,I feel very bad for you.is it possible for you to hold a family meeting?you know get everyone who is involved in this fracas together and hold a pow wow so to speak ,voice your opinions and get things out into the open.tell your brother in law that you and your sister are exremely upset over this and that hes let the whole family down with his outrageous behaviour.tell him that this kind of crap will not be tolerated anymore and that the one person that is hurt by this is your poor sister.I dont know if this will even things out for you but hey,is worth a try. good luck to you and your sister.
2007-05-28 10:03:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do anything personally because that is their business. However you need to tell your sister you are their for her. I would give her some good advice. I wouldn't give her advice that you wouldn't live by.
On the other hand she needs to kick is azz to the curb. Hey it's easy said than done, but dang 12 times I think it's time to go.
2007-05-28 09:56:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's really nothing you can do but be there and support your sister. She is going to need all the support she can get. She needs to get out of the marriage. He sounds like a dog; and no one should put up with that. If he told her, then he is probably proud of it. Once a cheater, always a cheater. He needs to grow up.
2007-05-28 10:14:37 · answer #7 · answered by Sue S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, there isn't muc you can do. All you can do is be your sister's support system. Let her know you're there for her, and you love her very much. Your bro in law is a loser, and tell her she doe deserve better. Just l her know you are there. Other than that, it is best you are not actually apart of their problems.
2007-05-28 09:53:57 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help your sister pack up all his stuff. It is time to take out the garbage.
Be there for her. She will really need you. Be strong and make sure she gets rid of him, he can never be trusted again. Make sure she sees a doctor to make sure he hasn't given her a STD.
2007-05-28 10:02:07 · answer #9 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is not much you can do, the marriage and their problems is between her and her husband. The only thing you can do is to be there for your sister, don't tell her what she has to do, even when she ask you for advice, the only good advice you can give her is tell her that whatever decision she makes you'll support her and you'll be there when she needs you, you can also suggest marriage counseling.
2007-05-28 09:57:53 · answer #10 · answered by fun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋