When my wife and I have sex, I cannot have an orgasm. I am attracted to her, it just takes me so long. I always have to finish myself off, and she gets upset. It used to not be so hard, but here lately its almost impossible. She gets so upset, and I dont have any explantions for her.
2007-05-28 01:19:51 · 18 answers · asked by Chet the Body 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your mind is probably thinking of a million other things. Maybe you are tired. Try relaxing for awhile & get everything out of your head.
2007-05-28 01:23:25 · answer #1 · answered by Aussie 1 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do you have a lot of stress in your life that has you bummed out and you aren't really able to relax? Are you on any medication that could cause this to happen? Go to your doctor and get a check up and discuss the problem with them and see what they advise. Let them rule out any health problems first and if that is all clear, work on the stress so you can concentrate on that beautiful woman that loves you. Maybe you both can go to a therapist to try and work together to figure out how to communicate with each other when things are rough for either of you so things will be more pleasurable in the bedroom. Good luck to you ~ just don't give up hope :)
2007-05-28 08:31:40 · answer #2 · answered by KittyKat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hard to say without more info ,do you maturbate alot ? ,this can be a bad thing in you do it alot, you get use to the tighness of the hand and sometimes a vagina dont give same feeling , but its really hard to say without more info , she cud finish you off in another way , but she has to let her mind accept this , to many people get caught up in the its suppose to be this way or that way and it dont have to be ,two people can share great things and if one way dont work then try another ,why not , its like if a penis is not big enough for a woman a person can use tounge or a toy ,thats an example , people just got to get past the supose to b' and just enjoy each other and find what works , dont know if any of that helps, dont have all the info , if it becomes a real issiue theres alway coucil
2007-05-28 08:29:33 · answer #3 · answered by stevie g 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
After years of a marriage where I could never have an orgasm with my husband, I figured out that he was not appealing to my freak nature. After divorcing and meeting my now partner of five years, I figured out that my strong Christian upbringin prevented me from accepting that the strange tendancies I had dreams about were the things that allowed me to orgasm.
I like to be restrained to some degree, spanked, things that most of my life I thought were disrespectful during sex. I love to watch porn while having sex that really gets me, which my husband would have strongly prohibited while I was married.
You need to find whatever it is that gets you, and have your wife help you achieve those desires. You might try a lot of things that are very different from your regular style, but just try them. A healthy sex life with a person you love and cherish is NEVER wrong in any way. Some need S&M some need varying degrees of different things. Your wife loves you and wants to be a part of your orgasm as much as you want to be a part of hers.
2007-05-28 08:28:09 · answer #4 · answered by norwooddrafting 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you on any kind of antidepressants, illegal or legal drugs? You should speak with your doctor- there are medications that can assist you with this- or it may be a sign of a greater medical condition.
She would be VERY happy to know you are doing something about it, even if it doesn't result in you being able to orgasm- her frustration is likely over the fact that you haven't YET seen someone.
2007-05-28 08:32:12 · answer #5 · answered by iampatsajak 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't masterbate for awhile or start before her. Trying something new always helps. Talk with her about it and she will feel better. You don't need to see a doctor it is just normal stress.
2007-05-28 08:28:31 · answer #6 · answered by jeremy_112582 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My mind races............I have started callilng out my husbands name over and over and it focuses my attention SOLELY on him.
Try squeezing your legs together while you are in the act. Helps my husband if we are having a "quickie".
She can also try Kegel Exercises to make her "tighter".....They REALLY work.
I can understand how she feels, but I can also see your side of this. Must be terribly frustrating on both parts.
2007-05-28 08:28:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Please visit the doctor . Lot depends on your mental condition and confidence as most of the sex related problems are mind related but not physical . What ever may be the case both of you can visit the doc. asap
2007-05-28 08:36:24 · answer #8 · answered by coolguytoask 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My first thought is , are you on amy medication? If not, you need to go see a Dr. My husband was on med. that made him do that.
2007-05-28 09:19:35 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are all kinds of problems you could be suffering from. Consult your Dr.
2007-05-28 08:59:36 · answer #10 · answered by steinerrw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋