I try to be nice to my husband's ex and she just flat out refuses anything to do with me. I stay out of the child support/visitation arrangements between she and my husband because that part isn't any of my business. It's between the two of them to work out just like it would have been if he and I never married. I try to include her daughter in things, and she gets angry about that. I mailed my step-daughter a birthday card in August and signed it from her sisters (my husband and my children) and the witch called me a week later to say that she would prefer I said "Half-sisters." I don't ask my husband to say anything to her because there should not be extra strain on their relationship for my step-daughter's sake. Earlier tonight, I called the woman to ask her to do a favor for me so I could do something from the girls to my husband for Father's Day and she got crabby again. I don't want to say anything that will add more stress to the situation..
2007-05-28 12:51:06 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Here are the details about the phone call we had today.
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2007-05-28 12:51:19 · update #1
sounds like you are trying to be the adult, and she flat refuses to cooperate in anything. i would just let her be. the step daughter is the only tie you have with her, i would just come to terms that she will never grow up, and i applaud you for trying. more than most women would do!! good job you, though
2007-05-28 12:58:36 · answer #1 · answered by poodle mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Continue to maintain a kind tone with her and continue to include your step-daughter in things. They may make her annoyed but it's for the benefit of your step-daughter and your husband that you continue to be civil.
2007-05-28 19:56:30 · answer #2 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have gone above and beyond. This woman is angry and unfortunately it is hurting the child. There is nothing you can do about it. Your husband has to be the one to tell her to calm it.
2007-05-28 20:00:14 · answer #3 · answered by Panda L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like she doesn't really even want her child with her father, much less with anything to do with him. and she doesn't want her child associated with it. in short, she's being a childish snot, with a stick up her rear. there is no getting along with people like that, there is putting up with them. if you are kind, and stay kind, for the child's sake, the child will notice. she may be hard to put up with, but for the child, it's worth it.
2007-05-28 20:01:38 · answer #4 · answered by Mary Liz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sound like a wonderful stepmom.keep doing what you can to include your stepdaughter in her dads life she will never forget neither will your kids or husband.his ex is jealous thats her problem and there is nothing you can do to change that.good luck.
2007-05-28 20:15:53 · answer #5 · answered by dixie58 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋