I have been married for 2 yrs this July. In 2005 my husband proceeded to break my 42 inch tv by kicking a hole through it when I came home at 1:30 in the afternoon after a teacher luncheon. During a screaming match I had with him he pushed me. I responded by calling the police. He was arrested and served with paperwork for a protective order. Two days later I found I was pregnant, I allowed the protective order to be dropped and allowed him to move back home. Two months later I lost the baby and went out with a girlfriend I came home and he verbally abused me severely and I threw a pillow at him. In retaliation he called the police and I was arrested and served with assult and served with emergency protective order paperwork.
Everything in my house was fine until last week. I had another miscarrage and went to a cook out at girlfriends house. He was irrate and would not let me leave the house when he became verbally abusive. He broke the tv again. Help any hope.
2007-05-28 14:14:07 · 25 answers · asked by tracyeefoster 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all, Why are you not on birth control!? There is too much drama and domestic abuse going on here. You need to stay away from eachother.
2007-05-28 14:21:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you thinking? You should not be trying to have a baby at this time.....you have a verbally abusive and emotionally abusive relationship and a child should not be brought into such an unstable relationship. This man has become violent several times and he is not going to change. You should see a counselor because he will beat you down til you don't have the courage or self-esteem to think you can make it on your own. This guy is a loser...dump him because lepeords don't change their spots and you are just biding your time til he has another rage and more emotional and physical abuse.
2007-05-28 14:35:01 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not without counselling, which should have been manidatory as part of your arrests. Depends on the state, I guess.
Not to sound like your father, but you should be using some sort of birthcontrol, because it kinda sounds like you went back to him because of the pregnancy.
The tendancies toward violence makes me very nervous for your well-being. Sometime apart along with some professional help would be the best move.
Really hope you can work things out, but at the sametime you need to be strong enough to say "enough is enough" and make a break. Wish you lots of luck.
2007-05-28 14:28:09 · answer #3 · answered by Tim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't buy another TV. But spend the money on a divorce lawyer instead. Get out before the guy beats you up so severely that you end up permanently disabled or, worse, dead.
Promise you'll leave? OK???
And then heal. There are lots of great guys out there. And you'll find that great guy that's perfect for you and then you'll get pregnant for real! With a baby that really wants to stay and be your little daughter or son.
Good luck!!!
2007-05-28 14:23:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is an abuser and this is just the start of it. Get out now before it gets any worse. Classic pattern, starts with verbal abuse, breaking things, then pushing, next he'll hit you. Do some reading on abuse and you'll see the pattern. I'm all to familar with it having grown up with an abusive father.
2007-05-28 14:39:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a job for counseling and anger management. NO WOMAN DESERVES TO BE HIT OR VERBALLY ABUSED
If you are in danger, GET OUT, don't wait, dot take time to read this , just go!
Anger comes from many sources, the anger he has towards you may not be something you did, or didn't do.However, anger needs to be controlled, today the TV tomorrow you?
the police have already been involved. don't get the coroner in on it too.
professional help dear, get it.
2007-05-28 16:36:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just a very toxic enviornment...I don't understand why anyone would put up with that. Why don't you just leave?
P.S You do realize you wrote I threw a pillow at him, in retaliation he called the police and I was arrested. Last time I checked throwing a pillow at someone isn't a criminal offence...otherwise I would be in for life!!!
2007-05-28 15:33:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
and you with him why ?
first off my hats off to any guy who can kick in a 42" tv ( glass tube right ? ) as the tube is at least 1 1/4" thick!!
other than that
he is not worth being with
you are also as bad as he is
maybe the 2 of you are toxic emtional bookend
but that does not mean you should be with each other
you need to be divorced as soon as possilbe
and then go into therapy to work out any anger and low self esteem issues you may have
good luck
2007-05-28 14:21:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both of you need some serious couch time, but in the mean time one of you needs to divorce the other. Fact is neither of you is a good match for anyone let alone each other. He has serious anger management issues and you need to leave him today and don't ever come back. Sorry to say but that is what I would tell him too about YOU.
2007-05-28 14:19:49 · answer #9 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer your basic question, No there isn't. Girl, leave now. This is a man that wants nothing more than to control your every movement. He's not a husband, he wants to be a jailer. His temper, and violent rages show he has no real control. Get out before you're six feet under.
2007-05-28 16:13:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems there is no common bond or love here. How long will you say til he hurts you? Time has come for you to move on here and leave him with his violent tendancies. This definitely is not good for you. You dont say if hes the cause for your miscarriages or not but this guy will do damage to you and its not worth it. It would take a very long timein counseling to help this relationship so youre best bet is to get out and move on,for you safety
2007-05-28 14:26:25 · answer #11 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋