My ex-husband constantly focused on money. I worked all throughout our marriage. Yet, I could not spend money freely.
He controlled how and where we shopped. I had to hide and do things for myself.
He also had standards in terms of how much various grocery items had to cost.
As I am meeting more men, I see that they also think in terms of money.
Do most men think in terms of money? I am not an extravagant spender. I do think twice before I spend money.
2007-05-28 14:20:21 · 16 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Um . . . your ex was not a healthy guy. That's not a partnership. That's a controlling relationship, and usually, those kinds of relationships either end or turn to violence.
My boyfriend does not think in terms of money. He's a spender. So am I. We've had to negotiate on money to come to an agreement on it. But he's not focused on it. His brother is, and his father is not. I'm the one who does the bills, and I'm more concerned about paying off debt than he is. So, I'm more focused on money than him, though it is not my primary focus. His mom is the same way I am.
It's a personality thing, not a gender thing.
2007-05-28 14:27:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Money is how men are judged. It is a universal measure of their success. Money is to men, how beauty is to women. It is their obsession only because it is so important to how they fit into society. There is a lot of pressure on men to be successful in their careers and make money. This pressure is at least as great as the pressure put on women to look beautiful. Money also increases their chances of finding a suitable mate, for reproduction. Does this sound superficial? Of course. But that's how the world works. Whether they admit it or not, women find rich men more attractive. Personally I think money is important, but too much focus on it is unhealthy and counterproductive (does not lead to happiness).
2007-05-28 14:28:17 · answer #2 · answered by scottrc5391 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a guy money=having to work harder=having less time to spend with the family.
So yes, keeping a balance between work and money is very important, therefore keeping track of where the money goes is important too.
Money is a tool. It's used to accomplish tasks and feed the kids. But it has to be used responsibly.
IF you feel your ex is not acting responsibly, you may be unable to do anything about it. He is your ex.
Other men are probably going to be similar to your ex.
Male or female - who wants to spend all of their time working after all!!
2007-05-28 14:41:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No men are not like that I was married to extremely generous men and they never said a word about the money I spent because I never felt into exaggeration.
Maybe you`re over spending that is why they all end up wanting the control back.
2007-05-28 14:30:10 · answer #4 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think money is really important to men. but what your ex husband was doing was a controlling abusive behavior. it should be up to BOTH of you how to spend the money, not him bossing you around all the time about it.
2007-05-28 14:28:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were working and couldnt spend your money freely then thats your own fault. You let him control you. Stop being a victim and choose a respectable guy does not focus on money.
2007-05-28 14:26:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, keep control of your money and your bank accounts at all times. Do not put some guys on the account. You make the money, you control your own money. It's that simple.
If you buy a house/apartment, do not put some guy on the title too. What's yours is yours.
2007-05-28 14:30:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I spend money like water and my husband never objects to it. Only people (both men and women) who miss something in their personality have desire to control.
2007-05-28 14:38:00 · answer #8 · answered by Mara 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes
and you are a spender
whe na guy first goes out with a girl it nothing but a long expenditure list of gifts, wining and dining..
once dating however you think it would settle down
it doesn't
and then once married a guy hopes it curbs back
it doesn't
soon the guy has to pull in the reigns in order for him to even start saving money
odd how women want seciruty in the long term but generally are clueless as to how to get there
yet they expect the finer things in life from a guy
but their money is considered mad money.. and to be spent only on themselves.. where asa guys money is considerd bill money and shower it on me money..
2007-05-28 14:25:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband is not obsessed with it. He makes good money. But, I can't speak for the rest of the men.
2007-05-28 14:24:06 · answer #10 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋