I met a girl...?

Question

This may or may not happen often, but here's my story... To begin, I'll start by saying that I'm in the military. I met a girl at a club on base that I've been seeing for a couple days now. By "seeing", I mean we've been dancing and having a good time together, keeping it clean. The problem is, she's married. Despite the ring on her finger, we flirt back and forth like shes single. At the end of the night though, I respect that ring and it goes no farther than a hug. It's the morally right thing to do, but its obviously hard to deal with. I'm not in love with her, but every time she mentions her husband in a story where he neglected her or took her for granted, my heart just sinks. Of course, right now is the time that need to make a decision on whether to see her anymore. I'm sure the answer to this is buried somewhere in a romance novel.. What should I do, and how would I go about doing it? I'm open to emails, please contact me if you feel you can help me out here. Thanks

Answer 1

Sounds like you two have a great connection . Her marriage is over . She must trust you to tell her private things . What she needs is a good friend 1 she can trust . That is what is missing in her marriage & w/o that you have no marriage . If you like her ...care for her hang in there she will need the support you can give her . Friendship is a precious thing don't blow that or take it lightly. She is very vunerable now so be a rock for her . You r not the cause of what has already happened in her life . Sometimes we need to look & see whats around us if we have been trapped inside 4 walls ..... Shes trying to climb out of the cage he had her in.....

Answer 2

This is how must affairs start, in case you didn't know. If you respect that ring on her finger, then you need to stop things right now, and not let things go further. This is what will happen if you don't: you'll find yourself caring for her more and more emotionally ( an emotional affair), she'll start to feel real good in your arms during your "innocent" dances and hugs, then your resolve will dissolve, and you'll end up in bed together.

I have a friend who is exactly in the same predicament as you. It started innocently as friends, then the friendship and the feelings grew, and now they are too attached to each other to break it off and walk away.

Answer 3

Where is your moral meter? You know she is married and nothing can come from this but grief. Stop spending time with her, she will find someone else who doesn't have the same moral meter. You are a pawn for her. Don't take it seriously. If you need a girlfriend, find someone who is available without husbands or baggage and put an end to her. Don't take her "guilt tickets" and make them yours.

Answer 4

I simple advice to you stay away from this married woman. Put the same shoes as husband's. How would you feel if your woman was cheating on you? Never mess with a married woman.

Answer 5

stay away from her, this is something she has to deal with. whether her marraige works out or not is up to her and him. I wouldnt get involved she already has tooo many issues. She may end up hurting you, besides what if she was your wife and doing this to you. there are always two sides.

Answer 6

Simple, she is married and you need to stay away from her. If she is in a bad marriage, then she needs to end it on her own and then move on. In that order.

Answer 7

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