Marriage & Divorce - 20 May 2007

2007-05-20 11:04:09 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife of 3 yrs left me 2 weeks ago, because I was verable abusive. I've been crying everyday, and I don't know what else to do. She finally called me and told me there was no hope of working things out, then she called me back and told me we could try to work things out, but since then she hasn't called for 2 days. I can't breath without her and i'm so confused what she wants from me. I sweared I would change but I think I've done to much damage to her. If she is serious about giving me another chance, why doesn't she just come home, or at least call me? How much suffering should I take?

2007-05-20 11:02:27 · 16 answers · asked by Steve S 1

When my husband divorced in 2000, part of MSA (Marital Settlement Agreement) was that he was responsible for 1/2 of his daughter's reasonable college expenses. Of course we want to help her go to college, but don't want to be taken advantage of by his ex-wife. She has decided where the daughter will live, made all these other plans for the college years without any input from the father.
If you have some solid advice to help us make sure we aren't paying too much (she has a 100% scholarship plus other graduation scholarships). We'd be most appreciative.

2007-05-20 10:56:40 · 4 answers · asked by Carol D 5

2007-05-20 10:55:23 · 15 answers · asked by helix 3

Me and my wife seperated on Febuary 2 2007. We got into an argument and I told her either I would leave or she should. So she left with the kids. She has tried numerous times to get back with me but I wouldnt have it. I finally had a change of heart and now she says she is happy on her own. I asked her if she was 100% positive if she wanted to divorce and she said (I think we need to make this permenent.) Thats all she says. And she is stickin to her guns about not coming back. Should I keep up hope or just give up? All this was caused by her cheating wich led to me cheating. And neither one of us can get over the pain of the cheating. But I am willing to get help. I am not bothered by what she has done in the past. I have forgiven her and those other men and myself. I just need to know what to do.

2007-05-20 10:53:01 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-20 10:51:49 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

me and my man for 11years with 2 kids broke up for a month in that month i found out he was seeing someone but didn't know who. I alwyas asked him if he was and would deny it. well after being apart for that month. we decide to work things out. when he moved back in i had told him to tell me who was he seeing before it comes out. of course he didn't. well 2 days later. as we were watching tv i hear a knock on my door it was the girl he was seeing. as to my suprise the girl was someone that used to mess with his friend and lives around the corner from our house.we are together but now am feeling that i might of made the wrong desicion. should I work things out or end it. is it still cheating even if we weren't together.

2007-05-20 10:23:17 · 12 answers · asked by dimples 1

2007-05-20 10:11:06 · 16 answers · asked by just wondering 1

my husband and i seperated we both agreed on it and we have not spoken to each other for the whole two months im feeling pretty good now but ive heard from a few people hes d oen terrible not looken good and looks depressed so i called this morning and left a message on his machine and said i was gonna call him tonight at 10 pm and if he picks up the phone then we can talk im worried about him did i do the right thing here there was no cheating involved just our fights got out of control please give me some good advice ty so much jewels

2007-05-20 10:10:48 · 22 answers · asked by jewels 2

and no they dont know about each other.

2007-05-20 10:10:21 · 22 answers · asked by Dan 1

paragraph below???????
______________________________________
Husband who gets lots of sex from his wife:
* Happy
* Smiles* Goes to work with a smile
* Comes home with a smile
* Spends more times with his family.
* Spring in his step

Husband that doesn't get sex from his wife:
* Cranky
* Feels unappreciated
* Gets addicted to online porn
* More likely to cheat
* Cheating results in divorce
* Divorce results in a broken home with messed up kids
* Husband remarry's / mom get's an absuive boyfriend
* Kids suffer
_______________________


How can being naked and secretions all over the sheets and an used condom have some kind of special meaning????????

Not only that you have to bathe and change the sheets .Why all of the trouble ????????

2007-05-20 10:10:16 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-20 09:48:34 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

i just left my husband of four years and moved 1800 miles away. there were elements of domestic abuse involved,he beat me pretty badin december, but i'm a big girl, and don't consider myself physically abused. but he would constantly keep love and sex from me as 'punishment', would be gone all the time, and now that i'm actaully gone, he's doing everything in his power to make himself out to be the victim. i just want to start over, me and my kid left everything behind for the sake of our safety and sanity. why, then, does he be all nice one minute, for almost two weeks now, then calls me this morning and threatens me with this and that, tells me i'm a piece of crap and no one loves me and i'm incapable of being good to people. i just want to heal from this and move on. but i have no idea how. i'm scared to death and feel like the piece of crap he tells me i am. where do i begin?? how do i start??

2007-05-20 09:47:18 · 26 answers · asked by sarahjonas 1

Anyone out there paying alimony? What does it cost, as a percentage of your income (not including child support)? For how many years did the court order you to pay?

Any help you can offer is appreciated. Thanks! :)

2007-05-20 09:37:53 · 7 answers · asked by kagerousan 4

IF a guy "fakes" getting off, why would he? Please serious answers - i have questioned regarding other things relating to this but still are unanswered .... that area in my life with husband was NEVER a problem until he used coke a few times and now it's not the same. I'm not positive he still uses but sexually it seems like it. Please guys help out in this issue??

details.... husband used cocaine, i found out because of the sexually problem and other signs of course, he suppose to have not done coke since january and other than him not being interested in me(although he says he very much is), or when we do he sometimes goes limp, and i can tell if he has ejaculated or not. I have been with him almost 20yrs, we have 3 teenagers and i think know the difference. Other than this sex issue, he has NOT one other sign of continued use. Could the coke have messed up the ability for the blood to circulate correctly or what? I took mant sociology class

2007-05-20 09:32:28 · 6 answers · asked by Kiera 2

Recently my husband has been hiding his phone, or he'll take out the battery when its out in the open. & everytime he gets online he makes sure he deletes the history? Wouldn't you think your husband was hiding something if he was doing this?

2007-05-20 09:24:08 · 34 answers · asked by * lovemykids * 2

I have been diagnosed with HIV last summer. It is getting worse every day. My tried to suck the blood off my finger when I accidentally cut it yesterday I avoided it but then she said to me that if I really loved her I would transmit the disease to her and so we can have a shared destiny. I love her above anything on this planet and now I am stuck in this dillema. How do I talk her out of it?

2007-05-20 09:13:18 · 37 answers · asked by John W 1

i think my boyfriend is cheating on me with his ex wife and he told me he was going golfing this morning and i dont beleive him

2007-05-20 08:57:27 · 4 answers · asked by roni n 1

2007-05-20 08:51:15 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-20 08:47:17 · 7 answers · asked by Abureem 1

The guy im engaged to doesn't like to talk about sex, why is that? Because everytime i bring the conversation up, he says he feels uncomfortable with it and he gets mad at me.

2007-05-20 08:46:26 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

My friend and i have been close-the closest out of all of our friends and we can talk about everything. For the past three years, he's secretly liked me. I've never looked at him like "that" 'til just recently (long story). He's the "shy guy type" and has never really been in a relationship. We hooked up but decided to not go out due to many reasons - don't wanna ruin a friendship, we're young (20's), etc...

The transition wasn't easy - wanting to be back to best friends again but it's hard knowing that you have great potential for you two to be in a loving relationship. We're still good but it's not "the same" but i just realized that we're not the same people we were when we first met. Individually, we've grown up so much. We used to such "kids" and now we're slowly becoming "adults" with responsibility, we're both changing. I also hope that this is just a transition between us and i need to be patient with these "baby steps". I don't wanna lose him & our friendship, it's special

2007-05-20 08:39:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

He refuses to ride with me sometimes because he knows the music offends me, but he still wants to listen to it. I don't want to stop him from having his own interests, but I don't want to be around anything as offensive as his music either. What should I do?

2007-05-20 08:35:19 · 13 answers · asked by Lil'Bit 1

Have you ever purposely avoided a man you were attracted to because either you or him were unavailable. If so, are you glad you did. Is that the best thing to do?

2007-05-20 08:28:14 · 13 answers · asked by YBMEUBU 3

First off, I live in Texas and am only common law married. My boyfriend and I have filed our income taxes together as married for the past 3 years. Exactly how much time and money does a divorce usually take? Does he need to agree/sign for us to be divorced or is it up to a judge? And can he possible take away my car because he has spent money on it (maintence and modifications)? Or would I need to reimburse him? Thanks! Any opinions/thoughts/responds very much appreciated.

2007-05-20 08:24:33 · 5 answers · asked by Jackie 2

my fella has been seperated from his wife now nearly three years, i met his 6 months ago and fell pregnant straight away (was on the pill and was an accident) so we discussed it and decided to do the right thing, i moved in with him with my daughter and his daughter and we agreed we would get married and make it all right as the relationship is also good and tho an accident aborting was unthinkable. The trouble is he is not divorced from his wife, she texts all the time and visits and he has no backbone to tell her to go away (the kids arent hers). He says he is going to see a solicitor every week to sort a divorce but it never happens. Were happy together I trust he wants to do right by me but hes too scared and too much of a nice guy to hurt her by even asking her for a divorce initially. So im now 6 months pregnant and he is still married, she is always on the scene and today in a moment of madness i destroyed their wedding pics which was on a cd..... was i right?? and should i tel

2007-05-20 08:17:12 · 24 answers · asked by dill 1

Can you remember your 1st anniversary and what your husband did for you? Or husbands what you did for your wife?? :)

2007-05-20 08:07:54 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I made the mistake of involving myself in a group called standers who believe that I have to wait for my ex to come to her senses. I say there is a difference between forgiving her and waiting for her (reconciliation). I am not waiting for her to realize she made a mistake, in fact, I don't believe it matters.

If she does come to her senses too late, then what is that to me? The Bible talks about the foolish virgins who lost out on their chance to enter the kingdom because they were not prepared. I think many prodigals (like my ex) are going to discover that they've repented too late. Not that I want this but, I a don't have to wait. Life is too precious to wait and put on hold for someone who willingly has given their marriage to divorce.

2007-05-20 07:59:20 · 17 answers · asked by ? 2

I have made a bad choice by cheating on my wife and I told her because she was concerned how my car got broken into and I came out and told her everything. We are 21 and I really want to be with her. I have sex problems that stem from past issues (no excuse). I need to find people trying to help. If you have on intentions on helping then dont write. I dont need any better peoples responses. I love my wife and want to find out about outside help (professional). Thank!!

2007-05-20 07:55:17 · 11 answers · asked by New Mama 1

When you hurt your spouse and children in that way - can you ever be truly happy with your new life? Is it possible to simply walk away from one life into another and not look back other than to spend time every other weekend with your kids? Can you truly start loving another person so much you are willing to risk everything you have built with another person - your spouse - to be with this person? Or is it pure selfishness?

2007-05-20 07:55:15 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous