When you hurt your spouse and children in that way - can you ever be truly happy with your new life? Is it possible to simply walk away from one life into another and not look back other than to spend time every other weekend with your kids? Can you truly start loving another person so much you are willing to risk everything you have built with another person - your spouse - to be with this person? Or is it pure selfishness?
2007-05-20 07:55:15 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-05-20 08:18:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the grass is always greener on the other side. if you are in a bad marriage and are unhappy and know you will be unhappy regardless of anything then you are better off to walk away. just because people cannot live together doesnt mean children have to suffer, many people co-parent and are not married.
if you want to leave your marriage for someone else, thats a different story. sure, it seems better, but remember, you havent lived with this other person, you havent had the same stresses, etc in life then you have had with your spouse.
people often say its just selfishness, i dont believe that. its much better to walk away then to sneak around your spouses back. make a choice and stand by it. you cant have both...
good luck!
2007-05-20 15:01:18 · answer #2 · answered by chantel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not always selfishness. If your spouse has always been a cheat and abuses you emotionally or other ways it's impossible to love him and easy to fall for someone who treats you well and loves you. I don't have small children, my youngest is 15 and has his own busy social life. I would not SIMPLY walk away. But sometimes it seems to rob my sanity to be treated so badly so I'm considering leaving. If that's being selfish then, so be it. I've lived my life for others for 21 yrs. Now it's my turn.
2007-05-20 15:11:55 · answer #3 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think no because you built something real and to throw it away by walking away won't make the pain go away. I would say it is pure selfishness only because I just did it and I feel like a part of my heart will walk away if I can not fix my marriage I love my wife and daughter so I feel your pain.
2007-05-20 15:01:49 · answer #4 · answered by New Mama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't ever imagine opening up to a knew person and being able to give all that i already have to another, it wouldn't seem right, or even Possible. It's probably just a selfish lust for **** and a ss or something, i couldn't imagine Actually loving someone and being able to do that.
2007-05-20 14:58:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Boy this is a Tuffy.
I am in your shoes kind of I talked to my Lost Love after 28yrs
I am married 20yrs 4 kids youngest 6, oldest 18.
I guess its our happiness or everyone Else's.
I have never lost my Love for her and I think she might feel
the same. She to is married no kids 17 yrs.
I think maybe just see where it goes. (with no sex)
But will this effect or kids in their lives later ( with divorce)
I thought I married for life I am 48.
maybe right a list pros and cons?
I think where stuck Dude Raise our kids and Die.
2007-05-20 15:18:48 · answer #6 · answered by IveLostMyMind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you will never be happy after cheating and then leaving. That is definately not how God intended it. My dad cheated on my mom and they got divorced and he moved out. He got so depressed once he realized what he gave up to give in to his own selfish and sinful desires. He was an alcoholic but I never once saw him take a drink in my lifetime and he totally lost control over his disease and as a result of that he ended up dying of liver cancer years later. I suggest ending it with your mistress and get right with God. Once you have straightened out your relatonship with God and asked for forgiveness and you put your focus on him maybe things will get better with your current wife and their may be hope for you and your wife and your family. But what ever happens you will never be happy and you will always have a void in your life unless you give your life over to God.
2007-05-20 15:26:08 · answer #7 · answered by 3J&2A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If one is able to do that, either there were never true feelings of love in the first place.........OR one is heartless and lacks morals to boot. AND if one is able to do that once. What prevents another occurrence???
2007-05-20 15:02:37 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋