I have made a bad choice by cheating on my wife and I told her because she was concerned how my car got broken into and I came out and told her everything. We are 21 and I really want to be with her. I have sex problems that stem from past issues (no excuse). I need to find people trying to help. If you have on intentions on helping then dont write. I dont need any better peoples responses. I love my wife and want to find out about outside help (professional). Thank!!
2007-05-20 07:55:17 · 11 answers · asked by New Mama 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marriage counseling is the best bet for you. Unfortunately, you have betrayed a certain amount of trust there and you both need to be willing to work at it to regain that amount of trust.
Even if you can do that, chances are your marriage will not be the same. a relationship is based upon the trust that you both put into each other. You will have to be willing to prove yourself to her again, and that may mean a lot of work on your part.
Think before you act... that's the best way to prevent this from happening again. "Live your life as if you have lived it before and have the chance to change the mistakes that you had made before." -- Viktor Frankl
2007-05-20 08:01:26 · answer #1 · answered by monarchfly7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some spouses view cheating as the end to the marriage and divorce is on the way---no if, ands, and butts. There is no help.
Marriage and Family Counselors can be find in the yellow pages of most major cities.
I do not know the success rate of repairing marriages when their has been infidelity, followed by counseling.
Rebuilding trust is going to be very difficult.
I wish you both the best.
2007-05-20 08:11:13 · answer #2 · answered by oldcorps1947 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is help for you!!! so what who said that at twenty one you cant fix things. U both have to go see a councler, you NEED to resolve your past problems with a psychitrist through theorapy and restore the hormany between you and your sweetheart. She will be hurt and upset but if she truly loves you she wants you back more than you want to restore you relationship. Sit down and talk make sure she is willing to work on it with you after all that " in sickness and in health"
Good Luck !!!!!!!! Everything will work out for the best coming from a professional
2007-05-20 08:06:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have a picture of a girl for your profile, just wondering? Anyways, if you loved your wife you wouldn't have cheated on her in the first place, what if your car never got broken into- where you ever gonna tell her what was going on? You can try marriage counseling with her and alone but if I were her I would leave you.
2007-05-20 08:01:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very young and have shown some wisdom in asking for help. You need to find a mediator or therapist to whom you both can go. Just make sure that the person you seek is PRO marriage. There are some therapists who are not. Be careful. This will give you a neutral person who will take your side and hers and more importantly TAKE THE SIDE IN REBUILDING YOUR MARRIAGE.
2007-05-20 08:02:37 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-18 04:58:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look in your area for help groups or a professional to help you both understand how to resolve the issues individually and between you both. She may have a larger problem in the ability to forgive you.
Than you may have on why you felt the need to carry out your actions of infidelity and deceit
2007-05-20 08:12:37 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to guys is NEVER confess that you cheated on your wife. If you feel guilty then be VERY NICE to her and treat her EXTRA special. If you are dumb enough to confess and if she agrees to stay with you, your woman may harbor anger at you and she will be a complete be-yotch to you (killing the marriage) or she may seek a revenge affair...
KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT! As for a professional have you ever heard of the yellow pages? If you find a shrink buy one hour and see if you like them. 80% of them are quacks so shop around until you find a decent one...
2007-05-20 08:38:23 · answer #8 · answered by Felix 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off what you need to do, is to pray to God and ask him to forgive you and accept him into your life and ask God to help heal your marriage. But you and your wife could benefit from marriage counceling. But you BOTH have to be willing to go to counceling and BOTH have to be willing to do what the councelor sugests.
2007-05-20 10:22:39 · answer #9 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try the yellow pages under marriage counselors.nobody on here can help you.
2007-05-20 08:03:26 · answer #10 · answered by susan e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋