Marriage & Divorce - 7 May 2007

I just wanted to elaborate on my other question. My wife got pregnant after she decided to stop taking her pills without my knowledge. I wasn’t too happy about that but that’s the way it goes. Have to be happy now. However my wife says to me “I haven’t been taking care of myself. I’ve been drinking, smoking, and I’m on anti depressants. Plus I can’t have a baby when this one is due. I’ll lose my job and we can’t afford it if I don’t work. I’ve made my decision that I want an abortion. If I had one with you I want it to be at the right time and this can’t be it. I’m scared that this baby will have problems because of my not taking care of myself. Listen to this though, she then said “why don’t you get a vascectomy so this doesn’t happen again and if we want another one it has to be at the right time and you can get a reversal”. Something isn’t sitting right. I can’t have another one if I get a vascectomy. Reversals are not that affective and she knows that. There is something going on with a woman that so much wanted to have another child and now is very scared to do so. What is it? Ladies help me read between the lines. I need some advice from the women. I think I know the answer but I want your opinion.

2007-05-07 06:02:03 · 23 answers · asked by survivor 1

My Sister and my Mom are both very upset with my husband. This last Saturday we shared a birthday party for my sisters stepchild 4 and my son who just turned 2. They have a pool, so it was a pool party. (my son can't swim, he also gets terrified with others in the pool) They had a pinata and a bounce house. Well, my son loved the bounce house. Earlier in the day, my sister offered to watch our son so we could eat. During that time my son was left alone w out telling us as another adult let him out back to where the pool was with no one outside. husband looked up at that time and made it to our son before any problems. my husband told me in front of my mom that my sister would never watch our son again. He was a little bitter and moody the rest of the party. My Mom told me she would talk to my husband later about his behavior. Later that night my sister calls upset about comments. I told both of them to talk it over themselves I am 8 months preg. do not need stress. What to do

2007-05-07 05:58:47 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

i got married in alabama and want a divorce but i live in sicily now. do i need to have my ex present in alabama to get a divorce.

2007-05-07 05:32:41 · 5 answers · asked by paden_full 1

My husband and I have been married about a year and a half. We have been separated for 6 months now. I currently live in a different state than him. We own nothing jointly nor do we have children. I want to file for divorce. How do I go about doing that? Do I need a lawyer even-though we have nothing to fight over? Also, do not wish to recieve spouse support. Please help direct me in the right direction. Also, I was wondering if the "apply for divorce online" are legit?!? Please help. Thanks in advance. :-)

2007-05-07 05:32:01 · 12 answers · asked by Becca 1

my father does'nt ever call, but my sister does. I am going through a divorce and my teens want to stay with their father. I have been married for 20 years and my husband says he does'nt love me anymore and wants me out. Should I go to my dads who really does'nt care or my sister's who does?

2007-05-07 05:19:35 · 5 answers · asked by suzyqyoursis 1

2007-05-07 05:05:57 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've read enough questions about husbands looking at porn to where I felt it was time to ask a question of my own.....

Are you one of those wives who thinks she's fat, thinks she's unattractive, is too busy, and only gives into sex after her husband has to talk her into it? And even then it's lackluster at best for both of you?

Are you one of those wives who thinks that 15 minutes of morning sex on weekends once every month in your flannel jammies, bad hair, no make up, and spewing morning breath should be enough to keep your husband satisfied?

Whatever your EXCUSE is for not being more intimate with your husband (bad day at work, kids drive you nuts, etc etc) the power is with YOU! YOU and YOU alone have the power to drive your husbands wild, or drive them away. Any my bet is that your husbands would much rather have an evening of sex with their wives then with their hands.

2007-05-07 04:41:54 · 53 answers · asked by ? 4

its all about her needs.

2007-05-07 04:34:20 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex and I have been divorced for 5 months now. I have primary custody and she gets the regular visitation every other weekend and I waived recieving child support from her. I have had to relocate due to my job. She has been up and down since we first seperated, from wanting the kids every weekend to cancelling her visits with them. Now she wants me to go to counseling with her to discuss the kid situation and has threatened going to court to get joint custody, now, after the fact. She told my oldest son that she doesn't know why I moved in the first place and that she can make me move back. I know that is ridiculous being that she gave me primary custody while my kids and I had been living in another town for awhile. What is she thinking, does she just want to make everyone's life involved in this, miserable, including herself. Venting!!

2007-05-07 04:26:32 · 12 answers · asked by jude 2

I was out of town with my 2 month old baby helping my parents fix their home, so they can retire. When I got back I found a picture of my brother in-law's sister in law with my husband and her phone number on a piece of paper. I waited until I got my phone bill and found her number more than 50 times with some calls for over an hour. I confronted my husband with all my findings, and he confessed he got drunk one night and had sex with her. Then he called her and in front of me and told her they won't speak anymore because I found out what have happened. Then her sister (my husband's sister in law) called him and told him why he was going to stay with me(that bi***) that he should leave me and stay with her sis, that I would have him on lockdown for the rest of his life and how he will stop hanging out with them because of me, he told her we have a family and I'm his wife. Don't know what to do his brother is in the middle of all of this and I don't want to see his brother ever again.

2007-05-07 04:25:50 · 30 answers · asked by EC 1

2007-05-07 04:21:25 · 53 answers · asked by bluevettegirl 1

I have been married for 2 1/2 years but have yet to live with my husband since he is in the service. We have had our fair share of problems...including him cheating on me prior to our marriage, him making the decision to join the service and leave me without discussing it with me. He won't communicate with me on a level that I need. Do i continue to fight for my marriage or find someone who can appreciate me and communicate with me?

2007-05-07 04:20:45 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous

they are talking about marriages or proposals or when they've been asked?

sorry if this question is unclear, i'll add more details if you ask
Thanks!

2007-05-07 04:20:16 · 6 answers · asked by Christie! 2

2007-05-07 04:08:04 · 25 answers · asked by cleo_alter_ego 2

I live in georgia,I pay my ex-wife about 5k per year in child support.Over the past 14 year i have missed only a few times.SHE SAYS ITS ABOUT 3K.Thats fine, but she says she is going to have me jailed.I have been paying a little extra,only about 100 a month.can she do that.

2007-05-07 04:05:11 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

My fiance's ex-wife & soon to be husband will not let his daughter speak about him nor anyone in his family at their home. The daughter is very close to her grandparents & it hurts her not to get to talk about them. Also the mom nor her fellow will talk to my fiance at all. The daughter has expressed a get deal ao dilike for the new beau. We only have a 45min window to call her a day. We used to get to have the daughter's little brother and sister on some weekends and also could get the daughter any time. We have gotten the sibs for 5 years. now we can not have any contact with the sibs and can only have the daughter on the 1st & 3rd weekends. She is going strictly by the divorce papers, that she has never gone by before. The mom has changed a lot since she got w/ this guy her 4 marriage. She's 27 & he's 19 and he seems to be running the show, but when I try to step in and say something she keeps Baylee away from us. My fiance pays his child support. can we do anything?

2007-05-07 04:01:01 · 10 answers · asked by ga_peach64131 3

This is going to sound really strange, but here goes...
Every night his wife wants him to fall asleep "inside of her".
And I don't mean after they've had love. She wants him to put it in and fall asleep. Then she gets mad because he wants love. She thinks he's being selfish, but I think he's just being a guy. I just don't know how she could expect him to get excited, insert and go to sleep. Is this crazy or what?

2007-05-07 03:50:54 · 15 answers · asked by HotGuy 3

We've been together for years, I used to tell him I loved him,but he always acted funny and would say it back,but I don't even say it to him anymore...We haven't said I love you in years unless we are arguing and he will say "I love you i would do anything in the world for you"its seems so genuine,but I come from a family where we said it all the time, he however grew up without his mom she passed away when he was 5 could this be the reason?

2007-05-07 03:49:59 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-07 03:45:28 · 24 answers · asked by boozerc77084 1

My ex-husband wants me to come and stay in his house with our 15 year old daughter until she finishes high school or for about 2 1/2 years. He has sole physical and legal custody of her. He has moved away due to job reasons and left her in his mother's care.

I live in another state. It will be hard for me to pick up and move. I will have to ship or sell my belongings, car and car and find a job in the state where she lives.

He keeps telling me that I am not able to think beyond myself and have only learned to think of myself.

I think that my daughter should start afresh in a new school/ town and then she may do better in high school. I am willing to have her come and live with me. He is not in agreement with that.

If I live in his house, he does not have to sell it. I will probably have to pay him rent and he gets to keep his job. He is stressed out now and having difficulties on the job.

Am I too selfish and only thinking of myself?

2007-05-07 03:43:36 · 8 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

Okay Im with a man who has a child from his previous marriage. They have been divorced for about 10 years now and had a very ugly divorce. Since my relationship with him all i have ever heard was how much the two hate each other. They have began talking to each other about issue that do not involve there 14 yr old child which I found strange but didnt say anything. Now usually she would pick her daughter up and take her to her own home for a visit but for some reason she has made plans to come to our home and visit her child today. She even went as far as to call her ex and ask him what he wanted for dinner that she would get dinner. I find this soooo werid and I told my fiancee I think this is very ackward and want no part in it. If she wants to visit with her child she should take her like she always has to her own home. I made a comment that I guess I should invite my ex husband to dinner to and he got upset with me. Am I over reacting or is this strange.

2007-05-07 03:43:02 · 9 answers · asked by Kim 2

off during lovemaking? Also, do you like your partner to talk to you while making love? Does any of this make a difference? Why?

2007-05-07 03:33:18 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'M 60. i'm so sorry for my ignorance in the past. She's refused to talk or allow me to see her daughter-I did do a lot of bad things-years ago--I've changed. My son, who is a police man, has seen the change and is supportive. Even he can't reason with what was my favorite daughter. It's been five years since I've seen her-her baby doesn't have a grandmother as the paternal grandmother died befor her birth. I am willing to do anything to right my wrong-doing--on my knees if necessary! I love my daughter, and I miss her. I'm a widow-and a piece of my heart is,seemingly forever, gone. Please try to take the time to advise of what to do., as I am willing to do anything!

2007-05-07 03:24:17 · 33 answers · asked by connie w 1

we had a gorgeous home, cars, trips, jewelry, the man spoiled me endlessly. Unfortunately, I was NOT happy and always felt like I had a hole in my heart. I didn't love him, I just loved the fact he could take care of me. I left after 14 yrs and now I teach children who come from poverty, I own a small home, I've cleaned out my closets of all my fancy clothes, I sold my car and now I feel content. It was difficult for me coming from a modest background to live that way, it never felt right. I know women dream of having a life like that but I was miserable. And now trying to find a man who would not feel intimidated by that is difficult, was I so wrong to do what I did??

2007-05-07 03:18:15 · 21 answers · asked by ooolala 2

My almost ex-husband (divorce is final end of the month) called me last night and acted all sweet and wanted to know if I would give him a 2nd chance. I said no and he quickly turned into a mean angry man. He threatened that if he ever saw me he didnt know what he would do and if he saw me w/ another man, he would beat up both of us. I've never been afraid of him before, but the way he was talking last night scared me. I called the police and let them know what happened, but in order for them to enforce anything they would have contacted him and I didnt want him to freak out when he was already mad. I just want to move on with my life and be happy again, and he's not letting me do it. How can I make him move on and realize that there is no chance for us but he doesn't need to threaten me if I wont be with him. I'm really scared that he will hurt me sometime, what can I do to prevent this from happening???

2007-05-07 03:17:50 · 5 answers · asked by Chiquita 3

2007-05-07 03:14:08 · 11 answers · asked by johnny 1

...who is miserable in a marriage less than 7 months into it?

2007-05-07 02:54:31 · 12 answers · asked by Xiomy 6

ok, my ex and i were sleeping with eachother for about 5 to six month after we broke it off. I later realized that i was pregnant a month after we officially stopped seeing eachother, he didnt want to have a child with me (he says) but before we stopped seeing eachother he constantly said to me he wished that he got me pregnant so that no one else could get me. i never could get pregnant, so he thought that something was wrong with himself. he went so long feeling like he couldnt make babies and to find out that his new girlfriend was pregnant, and thats when i broke down and told him. he wanted me to have an abortion and i was going to, i was honestly going to do it just so that he wouldnt think that i was trying to trap him we argued back and forth until 4 months and i just couldnt bare to do it anymore. she is now 11 months he saw her once but said she didnt look like him so he ?'s it we planned to test but ever since his number cut off and i need help so what to do?

2007-05-07 02:48:27 · 8 answers · asked by Yanni 5

My ex-gf and i were dating for 5 years, the last 1 1/2 became long distance bcs she moved back to her country and even though I wanted to marry her, i stalled. We continued going out, but apparently she starting hanging out with an old friend from college 6 months ago, and they got married 4 months later, she is now married 2 months.I had planned on marrying her, obviously I waited too long, and this kills me. However,I think this was a desperation marriage,I think she was obsessed with getting married, and thought I wouldnt ever do it.I just found out from her best friend that she did NOT invite any of her friends to this wedding. Family has money and wedding was big (many people), so that $$ was not problem.She wrote a email to her friends,said she didnt invite them because she didnt want ME to find out about the details of her wedding and ME get more upset. They were pissed off. Ladies, does this make sense? Was she embarassed? This is her wedding! And her friends not there?Why?

2007-05-07 02:46:53 · 5 answers · asked by horace2311 1

Are you for or against gay rights/marriage? Why?

2007-05-07 02:45:45 · 8 answers · asked by Kortni 1