2007-05-07 05:05:57 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband's ex does that and I think it's easy for her to make him look like the bad guy. Also it can be a way for her to keep a close relationship going. She may still have feelings for you!
Good luck! And if you have a new relationship watch out cuz it will make her very uncomfortable (that's a nice way to put it).
2007-05-07 05:12:39 · answer #1 · answered by Lakin J 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Umm because she did not have the kids on her own and even though you are not with her anymore they are your children. It is a 50/50 relationship when raising well rounded children. It is immature to think that they are only your responsibility when they are with you. They are your responsibility even when you are not around. If this bothers you that much then take the kids more. Than she won't have to call you. They will be with you and you can make sure they are good. Maybe they are acting out on purpose for needed attention. Sorry if this sounds harsh, but it is reality.
2007-05-07 05:14:11 · answer #2 · answered by renee125 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps because even though you're not together, she still wants you to be involved in this discipline. You don't say how old the kids are, but maybe she needs your help in getting through to them that they need to follow the rules. United you stand, divided they fall. My kids tried to work their dad and I against each other, but when he backed me up on behavior issues, and they figured out they couldn't get away with certain behavior, life was much more pleasant for all of us. The kids need to understand that even though you are divorced, you still both care about them and their behavior and that just because you aren't there, doesn't mean that you think it's okay for them to act up. It's tough, but we all live thru it and can have some great kids grow up as the outcome. Good luck!
2007-05-07 05:12:48 · answer #3 · answered by classic1957gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is just proving what divorced fathers have been screaming about for decades, while they are preventing us from seeing our kids, that children also NEED their fathers.
Obviously she is unable to discipline them. Either she does not know how, or has some immature fear of being mean to them.
If you are on good terms with her, have a long chat with her about the importance of her learning how to discipline them. Children need discipline and they need to get it from their parents... not from a teacher or the police. If you do not make her understand that she needs to step up to the plate, then explain to her that she can choose to 1) discipline them now while she can, or 2) visit them in jail when they are older.
The roll of disciplining falls to BOTH parents, not just the father. She needs to understand this. It is not just about the parents, but also that the children need to know that she also is the boss and what she says goes, because she knows best.
If you are on bad terms with your ex, make sure that she is not calling you to have you scold the children so as to turn them against you or alienate you.
If you have no other choice, then continue to help her when she calls her, even if it annoys you, because your children's best interests are at steak. Just make sure to be firm but gentle with your disciplining. Your children will appreciate it when they are adults.
All the best.
2007-05-07 05:17:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because she cannot handle the situation and wants you to do the discipline, when it should be the both of you disciplining the children.
What you must do is not get upset but tell her that you want a call when the kids are being good as well.
2007-05-07 05:10:09 · answer #5 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because kids usually listen better to their Father than they do the Mother. She is frustrated and needs techniques on how to make them mind her! You two can watch the Nanny shows and learn how you can both keep them minding without spanking. It's best if you both use the same discipline techniques to keep everything consistent for the kids! Good Luck!
2007-05-07 05:10:39 · answer #6 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because she needs your help with raising them. Usually, the mother is the protector and a threat from the father works good to discipline the children.
2007-05-07 05:18:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has obviously not gotten over you and its her way of trying to communicate more often. If you still have feelings for her too, I'd say play along and enjoy the attention. But if you're over her and are seeing someone else you probably might want to tell her or just ignore it.
2007-05-07 05:11:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She stinks at disciplining the kids and thinks that by calling you, it's a way of scaring the kids hoping that they will listen/behave for her..
2007-05-07 15:52:41 · answer #9 · answered by Diggs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, are you serious?
Because you're the father! Maybe she feels like the kids will listen to you rather than her...just help her out..she needs you.
2007-05-07 05:17:37 · answer #10 · answered by Jocelyn's mommy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋