2007-05-07 03:45:28 · 24 answers · asked by boozerc77084 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
U EVIL PERSON, U TORTUER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-05-07 03:48:14 · answer #1 · answered by James 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋
He doesn't respect you, huh, the ring on your finger should be a respect notation. The fact that he took you home to meet his mama is a sign of respect to many men. Had I of not respected my wife, I wouldn't have married her. Please understand that I am not criticizing you but I'm trying to answer your question from a guy's point of view. You should understand that a man shows respect, thinks about sex, shows emotion, etc., much different than women, and YES, I understand that it IS a two way street. Men's sexual enjoyment is stimulated by sight, physical manipulation and involves little emotional stimulation as you probably need. He can't help how he is and probably doesn't understand why you are upset with him. One thing I can tell you though, most men, and probably your husband as well, would kill to satisfy their wives and he is most likely, hurt and frustrated because he can't find the way to your happiness. As you "punish him" for not respecting you, he becomes more frustrated and angry and retaliates, you then become even more unhappy and frustrated and add more retaliation to that and, see where this is going? You weren't real specific as to how he doesn't respect you but I can say that using sex as a form of retaliation or discipline is a dangerous and unproductive way to go about this. I hope you can work this out and find happiness in your life.
2007-05-07 11:11:01 · answer #2 · answered by Gardner? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just say "No. Not tonight." Just because he's your husband does not mean that he owns your body. I think that men sometimes women get confused and think that marriage entitles them to sex regardless of how the other person feels. It's still your body. And it's against the law for him to make you do anything you don't want to do. If he cares for you, he'll respect you. If he's just selfish and wants what he wants....then I would re-think this relationship. Is this really something you want to continue? These are serious questions that you need to ask yourself. Please, do what's right for you. Consider all things carefully before you make a decision concerning this matter.
2007-05-07 10:53:30 · answer #3 · answered by Bunny 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess you need a divorce because if you hold out on him he will get it else were. Why does he not have respect for you? Just a little advice, the best way to win a man's heart is through sex and his stomach. So don't force him to take it from you it's your wifely duty and his right as your husband.
2007-05-07 10:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by bluemist 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you feel your husband doesn't respect you, then perhaps you should seek couple's counseling. Respect is very important in any relationship, especially in a marriage, and a lack of respect is something that must be explored and either fixed or...ended.
If your husband forces you to have sex against your will, then that is rape and he can be arrested for it. Spousal rape is a legitimate offense.
2007-05-07 10:49:44 · answer #5 · answered by Esma 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have you told your husband why you haven't wanted to lately? Communication is the number one key to happiness!!! He can't read your mind and doesn't know why you don't want too unless you speak up and tell him what you have issues with. All he knows is you don't want to have sex with him. Men don't think into things like we do! You have to make things very simple for them and explain everything or they will never know!!
Speak up, let him know how it makes you feel when he don't respect you and let him know what will happen if he continues to act this way.
Good Luck!!
2007-05-07 10:56:24 · answer #6 · answered by Heather 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't want to have sex with him, then leave him. If you are married, sex is expected. Withholding it is childish and petty, no matter the reason. If you don't want to have sex, get a divorce and break it off clean. Otherwise, you should be holding up your end of the marriage contract.
2007-05-07 11:38:30 · answer #7 · answered by eviltruitt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is hard..cause on one hand you want to be there for your husband and on the other if your not happy in your relationship you won't be able to do anything of a romantic nature. Have you tired approaching how your unhappy? Have you tried different ways of talking? Maybe through a personal letter to him from you explaining your feelings and thoughts?
2007-05-07 10:59:33 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Cavazos 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sex is not an obligation, if you do not want to. You indicated that he doesn't respect you, if that is the case then see a Marriage Counselor.
You have a right to say NO.
2007-05-07 10:49:56 · answer #9 · answered by jay_d_skinner 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
respect is something you earn ! If you use sex as a tool to get what you want your marriage is doomed , quit playing games and grow up , or he will be getting sex somewhere else
2007-05-07 10:49:47 · answer #10 · answered by BajaRick 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sex isn't a cure all as most people would like to think. I think the bottom line is to get to the heart of the matter first and foremost. Identify the problem and come to a reconciliation as fast as possible. At any rate I wish you the best.
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2007-05-07 10:51:04 · answer #11 · answered by Kooties 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋