Marriage & Divorce - 15 April 2007

my husband and i seperated 2 years ago b/c i was gone in the military. I cheated on him w/ one man who i am still involed with and he cheated w/ 7different ladies. i am now back home and We live 2 seperate lives but neither one of us has filed for divorce and i cant get him out my head and he has lied and said he did but he has not done anything. and his current girlfriend looks better than me b/ ive gained some weight. what should i do and why do you think neither one of us has filed?

2007-04-15 09:41:06 · 6 answers · asked by beautiful 1

my ex confessed that he is smoking pot but he won't tell me who with. Why won't he tell me? what is he trying to hide? he lives out of state and i don't really know his friends anyway. what's the big deal? i think it might be his co-workers. we're are working on a reconciliation, but i want him to come clean and be honest with me. any thoughts?

2007-04-15 09:37:43 · 10 answers · asked by philly 2

2007-04-15 09:29:12 · 17 answers · asked by rachael w 1

If a man and a woman agree to have an abortion, yet the woman never does, that the woman should take sole responsibility for , and get sole custody of, the child that she chose to keep?

2007-04-15 09:18:09 · 17 answers · asked by Mendi8a 5

2007-04-15 09:18:02 · 21 answers · asked by eric j 1

major problem fiance wants me to move in with his female roomate already knowing i have bad vibes about her but he tells me that if she wants to talk to him for 2 hours i should be cool with that because he cant be direspect her on the other hand when i called he house the other day he told me he was busy and i was talking to him he was talking to her and helping her cook chicken he claims he does this because shes from a country and they dont have that type of food over there still i think thats ******** what whould i do ? does it seem to you guys like he is putting me 1st or second ?

2007-04-15 09:12:40 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Long story short. Married for 9 years. Husband left and moved 2.5 hours away out of state to Md. We have joint custody and a custody/visitation agreement through court. On it, all it says is that I have to notify my ex of my new address if I move. I have been deeply considering starting life over in Florida with my children. Will I need someones consent? Especially since he moved out of state and left the children behind?

2007-04-15 08:47:28 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Im so worried about him, hes 46 years old, he has back trouble, just got a nice apt, & got fired on fair just to see my dad in nursing home . Im so scared of his deep depression, right now hes delivery pizza & not making much, I cant help him. Please Pray for him & any smart Remarks, ill delete question, It hurts. We have no kids toghter.

2007-04-15 08:39:44 · 10 answers · asked by DONE 1

now I came to know the facts, she didn't get divorce from her former husband. it was church annulment. she could not marry in her religion, I thought she genuinly accepted the religion for me but she had her own purpose.she cheated me.she changed to islam and go t married to me.she came forward knowing fully well that I 'm a married for11 years with 10yrs child.my first wife is her colleague.
I want to divorce and take custody of child whom she 'll deliver in 2 months.

2007-04-15 08:19:42 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

We are both unsure of the most fair way to handle our life insurance beneficiaries and whatever inheritance as far as our kids are concerned. Depending on who passes away first, it could leave one side or the other's children with nothing if either should happen to re-marry. There is also the question of should the kids even get anything when one of us passes, or should we leave everything to the remaining spouse and then do an even split between all 4 kids when the remaining spouse passes and how would that be affected if there was a re-marriage? It is one of those things no one really wants to think about, but also a very important thing to already have in place to save any hurt feelings later or leaving it up to the remaining spouse to figure out on their own. If anyone knows was is customary or truely fair for all parties, we would appreciate your input!

2007-04-15 08:15:12 · 8 answers · asked by chiefschk 1

ok, so my mother in law doesn't like me anymore, i think she's kinda jealous because she probably thinks i took her "baby" away from her, she was real nice to me but ever since my hubby and I started living together, she totally changed towards me. She would want us to go over every sunday for dinner and my husband didnt' want to, I would really tell him we should because I knew she would be mad if we didn't. He said he didn't care, he wanted to enjoy the few days we had off for just us. Well we wouldn't go over every sunday night and when we would go over to her house (once a month) she would just start yelling at us telling us that we shouldn't pull away from the family like that. Everytime we would go over, she would do the same thing, yell at us and just scream at us, then we stopped going, we havent' been there in a couple of months, I still tell my hubby that we should go over because I could just imagine how mad she is, but he don't want to because of the way she has been

2007-04-15 07:04:19 · 10 answers · asked by dazed and confused 1

My wife and I have been together for 5 years, 2 years before marriage and 3 as a married couple. We were apart before we were married for a year with frequent visits between us, after we got married I found out that she had a serious relationship with someone. I came to terms with this and gave her the benefit of the doubt due to my absence. Well last month I found out she had gotten drunk at a party and hooked up with a guy friend of hers. I chalked it up as a mistake and requested that she no longer have any contact or communication with this guy. Fast forward to this past week, our relationship seemed to be as good as it had ever been... she normally pays the phone bill and I picked up the mail and had a past due notice on our cell phone bill, She had told me she had payed it and so I thought it was a mistake and checked our account online. While doing this I saw this guy's phone number in her recent text listing. I saw 50 in 24 hours. I offered counseling, I'm not sure I should

2007-04-15 06:46:32 · 13 answers · asked by flbuck78 2

He is a wonderful guy and he took on my two children as his very own. He is the kind of guy that will do anything for you and being with him makes me really happy. Here's the point though. I feel like over that 2 years I have changed. He says that he loves me no matter what, but I don't feel like I am making him as happy as I use to. I'd like some ideas on things to do to keep him happy, but still keeping up the partnership we share. I don't want to let him think that I am going to start doing all of the cooking, cleaning, ect. We both work and I go to school. I just want some things that I can do to prove to him that I love him more than words can say and I want to be with him forever. Any ideas would be appreciated!

2007-04-15 06:39:52 · 9 answers · asked by sweetnsassyny83 1

Sometimes I feel like I am unable to really love. I do not have kids yet...maybe I will feel real love then. But this concerns me. I can be very self absorbed at times, and also slow to trust anyone. Is this a shared feeling amongst most?

2007-04-15 06:33:24 · 10 answers · asked by Mochabutterfly 1

After a few months of marraige my freind was told by her husband he wanted a divorce. The house was his before they married she has no place to go. Can he throw her out?

2007-04-15 06:31:27 · 15 answers · asked by mjlisi 1

I am 7 months pregnant with a man I have been with for two years. He is 33 and says he never wants to get married and loves me but "is not in love with me." He says at some point after the baby is born, I will need to move out and on with my life, but he will always be there for us, be in our lives and love us. Has anyone else been through something similar, what was the outcome, and is there any chance that once our baby comes that he will have a different outlook on things? He just says he loves his freedom too much to ever get married- could the baby change this? Thanks for your oppinions and experiences. I'm just in a difficult place right now and could use the advice.

2007-04-15 06:26:46 · 10 answers · asked by annej 1

does any one have any ideas as to why so many people divorce and seperate more so than they did years ago

2007-04-15 06:15:33 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-15 06:08:50 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-15 05:59:13 · 28 answers · asked by nin 2

What's more important your age when you get married or how long you've known your soon to be husband?
If you've been dating someone since you were 16 and your now 21, so you've been dating for 5 years, do you think it's a bad idea to get married so young?

2007-04-15 05:40:08 · 14 answers · asked by vannajune 2

2007-04-15 05:38:29 · 18 answers · asked by lovelyandcarefree 5

We have been separated one year. She left because she didn't love me the why she should love me anymore her words. I went threw a rough time but things are totally different now, I'm actually happy and being myself again. Here is where I'm stuck, she always said I was a great guy and a wonderful father, we share the kids 1 week each. There are days she is so rough to get along with when we do have to communicate and others where she is wonderful. Just this week she even came for dinner with me and the kids after we went out shopping together. We have both been with other people and even though that did bother me it doesn't anymore. I'm a touch confused as to why she is out of the blue being nice and coming to dinner stuff she said she just didn't want to do anymore with me.

I do care for her very much and was wondering what this change of attitude could be? Anyone and any ideas?

2007-04-15 05:38:07 · 9 answers · asked by sfers2003 1

First let me begin by saying my boyfriend I have both been previously married. He has been divorced for 8 years and I have been divorced for 2. He is 45 and I am 40 and we both have teenaged children. His live with his ex, and mine live with me. We have a great relationship and are very compatable. We used to talk about our future and of marriage, but he does not talk about it anymore, nor does he even bring it up. I want to talk to him about it but I don't want him to feel pressured. I just want to know if we have a future, and what his intensions are because I do not want to be stuck in dating mode forever.

2007-04-15 05:29:02 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

My lady called my kids from a previous marriage, whom she doesn't even know "ugly bit*chs". She sent obscene text messages to one of my daughters.

She is manic in her jealousy which is symptomatic of her insecurity that jealousy is killing our relationship. She can't watch TV with me present incase some partial nudity appears, newspaper shops are out and walking down the street with her is difficult.

To explain she was abandoned by her father at 8 yrs old not seeing him until 16 then she was raped and imprisoned at 17 for some weeks by a psycho. So she has anger and insecurity issues.

She is in total denial that she is not behaving normally so will never admit that she needs to seek help unless I admit there is something wrong with me and I get help too - (I'm not perfect but I am100% faithfull and don't want to give up)

Apart from this 90% of the time this is the perfect woman, sexy, attractive, intelligent and fun + very importantly the mother of my son.

What to do

2007-04-15 05:17:16 · 29 answers · asked by Tim C 2

and he says the reason he did is it because she is lonely and need someone to stay with her what do u think

2007-04-15 05:12:44 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 32, just found out my hubby had an affair (well, 6 mo ago) and life has been down hill from there. I am disconnected from my entire family, including kids. I am very self absorbed, want to drink all the time (I dont do it, but want to, and do drink more than I used to) I feel like I am having one huge pity party. I have lost interest in my own kids, I would rather be alone, things irritate me more than before. I have never felt so powerless over my own mind in my life. Some days I feel like just packing up leaving everybody. I am not suicidal. And I am on antidepressants and anti anxiety meds. What is wrong with me? And I blame my husband for everything. My children suffer cuz of me, but in my mind, its inevitably HIS fault. And by suffering, I dont mean physical abuse, probably border line emotional abuse, cuz their mother just isnt herself and I hate myself for it. Sometimes I think the best thing IS to just leave, they would all be better off. Help me, pls.

2007-04-15 05:07:44 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

She admitted that it had been going on for a while, blaming me though for being away at work all the time; spending too much of my time on the road with friends. She said it was only to fill a void and that it was more fantasy than reality. Try as I might though, I can't get the phrase of "I have never stopped loving you" out of my head. This is what she told the other guy. Also, she hasn't ceased her communication with this guy. we have a daughter and I don't want to lose my family; what should I do? I feel betrayed.

2007-04-15 04:52:32 · 18 answers · asked by goodcompany 1

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2007-04-15 04:52:06 · 16 answers · asked by honesty_counts 1

We have been seperated for for about two years and she is living with this guy that got her pregnant. I have one daughter by her who lives with me. I want a divorce but I have been told It can't be done until the baby is born.

2007-04-15 04:48:46 · 11 answers · asked by rgmiller 1

I've been with my guy for almost 2 and a bit years, we got engaged about a year ago for my birthday. This was a bit of a tricky thing as he had previously asked my dad for permission at christmas and my dad had said no (as in there's no need). My parents are unmarrried after 25 together so they see no need in 'that bit of paper'. My birthday is in feb so we got engaged then, knowing my parents wouldn't be happy i handled it really badly- not telling them til the day after. There were a few arguments and loads of tears and now- after a year - it's almost a taboo subject- as if it didn't happen.
i don't like bringing it up as i'm embarrassed how i handled it. But now me and my guy have talked about possibly getting married next summer and i have no idea how to tell my parents- he's already told his family and they're all over the moon....
hope anyone can help.
thanks

2007-04-15 04:46:58 · 6 answers · asked by Bexta 1