Im so worried about him, hes 46 years old, he has back trouble, just got a nice apt, & got fired on fair just to see my dad in nursing home . Im so scared of his deep depression, right now hes delivery pizza & not making much, I cant help him. Please Pray for him & any smart Remarks, ill delete question, It hurts. We have no kids toghter.
2007-04-15 08:39:44 · 10 answers · asked by DONE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO I WONT LEAVE HIM ALONE, WERE STILL GREAT FRIENDS, BUT I CANT HELP HIM BEING DISABLED, WE STILLL LOVE EACH OTHER.
2007-04-15 10:11:00 · update #1
You're very nice and you should care, just because you're you.
Whatever the reason for the separation, there must be one and I have a feeling it has to do with his depression, doesn't it?
Depression can be a very bad thing, try to lead him to seek advice from a professional, but also look after youself and don't let his situation put you in a worse one.
I know about back trouble but that has never gotten me down and neither would my age.
IF his crying is honest, he's really got problems and you're not going to fix them.
You're also not going to get the help he needs here. Too many quacks and ruffians. Talk to a local professional. I have a hunch you can. And then tell your husband he needs to follow up before he hurts himself driving or something.
2007-04-15 08:56:50 · answer #1 · answered by forlove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been exactly where he is (I'm a 53-year-old man, was 40 when my job-for-life ended when the company folded). I went into a deep depression, felt useless, wife trying to raise two infants was VERY worried/angry. You and he are in my prayers. Here's what he can do: Call every friend or acquaintance he can call, tell that person what his skills are and what he wants to do for a job, and ask the person to introduce your husband to someone that can make that happen. Even if there are no openings, have him go and meet the people and get some face-to-face time. He won't have to do many of these interviews before he gets a decent job again. Meanwhile, at night, you've got to support him with love and reward him in bed for looking for work that day. (It's really easy for guys to sit around pitying themselves and not do anything to help themselves out, and he could probably spend months like that.) Support him, motivate him with some you-know-what (it's why guys do everything they do, trust me), and GENTLY, with only love and without criticism, ease him back into the supporter role. I'm praying for you both. Let me know how it goes. Best of luck.
2007-04-15 08:50:43 · answer #2 · answered by David W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have lots to learn... The "no fault" state status does not bypass via the place you reside vs. the place he lives, this is the place your 'marriage' lives, so the two the place you have been married, or the place your communial sources is. Jag wont teach you a thank you to, they're defense force attorneys, they do no longer touch civilian concerns. there is not any such ingredient as a 'defense force divorce'. lots relies upon on how long you 2 have been married. he's an E2, what are you anticipating to get from him? whether you have been married for over 5 years, you may get under two hundred money a month. as quickly as he gets divorced, assuming he has no infants or different dependents, he will supply up getting BAH. i'm no longer able to think of how lots he makes, yet I keep in mind while my husband replaced into merely my boyfriend and an E4 or E5 he made under 2 thousand money a month. What variety of monetary help do you pick? you purely suggested he doesnt even pay the expenditures or groceries? How do you opt for to teach you place self assurance in him? incredibly if a controversy you have is that he pays for no longer something? and you get an inheritance? You wont get something in a no-fault state, incredibly in case you have additional money or sources (besides the incontrovertible fact that distributed) than him. you will on no account get his scientific wellness coverage advantages in a divorce. that's no longer accessible. Sorry that he cheated on you. in case you like him nevertheless, it incredibly is recommended to think of it over. and don't check along with his artwork approximately this. the defense force frowns on adultery, particular, yet in addition they frown on no longer being waiting to take care of your individual own subjects.
2016-12-26 09:06:29 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for him because you care about him as a human being. Just be aware of the potential for emotional blackmail. Don't go back if you really feel in your heart the marriage isn't for you - not that he's asking. Some people go back to partners because they are emotionally unstable and they want to help. So, just be concerned, maybe even assist in getting him some help, but also be cautious.
2007-04-15 09:30:04 · answer #4 · answered by naturallymeee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you are both separated, this is definitely the time to be his friend and help him out. You need to tell him that you will be there for him and help him out anyway he can. Has he gone to his local State Employment commission to get help in obtaining a job? You may have to help him with resumes etc. Even though you both are separated, you may have to let him move back in with you until he gets back on his feet. I imagine he is having difficulty paying for the apartment.
God has a better plan for him than the job he just lost. Tell him to keep the faith. It will all work out for the better.
2007-04-15 08:47:47 · answer #5 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I can see why you would still care about him..he is obviously really sad and it is a nice thing that you care, but you are separated and there is only so much you can do. Just let him know if he needs anything, you will try to be there for him.
2007-04-15 08:47:07 · answer #6 · answered by xoheartxo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is suggest he find another job. You cannot fix this situation. He has to want to fix this himself. He could be playing with your head as well and want you to come back to him because he is having such a hard time. It is nice that you care but he has to fix himself.
2007-04-15 08:48:53 · answer #7 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be there as a friend ,encourage him to look for another job.Don't become a rebound person and take him back because he's down right now.good luck
2007-04-15 08:46:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
depression is bad,he might need some medical help,tell him to see s dr.
2007-04-15 08:48:43 · answer #9 · answered by matthehat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let him alone
you're seperated!!!
2007-04-15 08:43:58 · answer #10 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋