He is a wonderful guy and he took on my two children as his very own. He is the kind of guy that will do anything for you and being with him makes me really happy. Here's the point though. I feel like over that 2 years I have changed. He says that he loves me no matter what, but I don't feel like I am making him as happy as I use to. I'd like some ideas on things to do to keep him happy, but still keeping up the partnership we share. I don't want to let him think that I am going to start doing all of the cooking, cleaning, ect. We both work and I go to school. I just want some things that I can do to prove to him that I love him more than words can say and I want to be with him forever. Any ideas would be appreciated!
2007-04-15 06:39:52 · 9 answers · asked by sweetnsassyny83 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are obviously already doing a wonderful job! He loves you and it sounds like true love.
The most important thing you can do with your fiance is communicate. Ask him, just as you asked in this question, what can you do to make him happier and tell him that because of your situtation, you hope he doesn't expect you to cook and clean, etc. If there is a disagreement, that's fine, but that's when you could solve the problem, when you both know there is a problem. That's when you both understand eachother and you will always work together.
ALWAYS COMPLIMENT YOUR MAN.
Compliment his looks, sex, the reasons why you fell in love with him, etc. Compliment him on how excellent he is for just fixing that problem you had and in a sexy way, tell him your gonna fix any problem he ever had, after the kids go to bed tonight. You'll could make him feel like a man that could conquer the world!
It sounds like you have his love already and you have nothing to worry about. Keep up the good work, because he's not going anywhere!
Congratulations and Lots of Luck.
2007-04-15 07:19:04 · answer #1 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is all that you have described, you doing some of the household chores will not make a dent in the kind of partnership you share.
Considering that both of you are quite busy with kids too, you can plan way ahead and go somewhere alone, just the two of you. If not, the next best thing is pampering him at home. Just for one day perhaps. Without having him do any household chores. All men secretly want to be treated like kings, having someone at their beck and call.
The theory is the same for men who pamper their wives and being at their beck and call. For one day only.
One day in your lives will not mean losing your independence or make you into a doormat. Nor even bring out his neanderthal instincts.
2007-04-15 07:02:07 · answer #2 · answered by boohoo101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you both in love with each other? As such, does he want to be a husband to you and a father to your children? I ask this as a basis for a conversation that you need to have with this guy. You intimate that he may not be as happy as he used to be or you don't feel like you are making him as happy as you used to do. His happiness is not your responsibility.
Within the nature of your partnership is a very tender love affair that needs your attention and both his and your focus. Tell him how you feel and ask him to hug you. He may do it naturally and will open up a sense of permanence that you desire.
2007-04-15 06:55:38 · answer #3 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I don't know you but it sounds to me like you might be trying to talk yourself out of the relationship. You need to trust him enough to know that if he says you make him happy, well then, you do. It sounds to me like you have a real jewel of a man to take a single woman with two kids. Yes over the two years you may have changed, but people who love eachother do not leave b/c someone has "changed". Everybody changes sweetie, it's life we all grow and become differant people (sometimes for the better sometimes not) but he sounds like he truly loves you for who and what you are. Sure, you could probably improve in some areas (we all can) but that's what makes love great, its unconditional.
Don't push him out b/c of things you feel about yourself
2007-04-15 06:48:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get love coupons and give him a day off from his hectic schedule. Tell him you love him everyday and give him a nice massage every once in awhile. How did you change? There are alot of questions left unanswered. Try leaving him notes in his pockets telling him how much you love him. Hope these help.
2007-04-15 06:46:31 · answer #5 · answered by chunkysmom3502 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing that you can do for him is to just be there for him.If you feel you want to do something for him then just do it.Just remember to always take time to sit down and enjoy some time with him.The changes you feel,just make sure that it is a good change for the too of you.A good hug works good,it will make him feel good all day.
2007-04-15 06:59:56 · answer #6 · answered by junior1108 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same hting that women want men do too. Be spontaneous do something you normally wouldnt do. If its feasable send the kids to a babysitters overnight and spend time with him by suprising him with a little romance. but the best way is just be open to him of your concerns.
2007-04-15 06:46:35 · answer #7 · answered by brian_0680 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to make time for the two of you. Childre, school, housework, all have to be done, but you two lead a hectic life and you've got to just say stop sometimes and spend time together!
2007-04-15 06:44:42 · answer #8 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should bless this reunion in a church service. Bring " GOD " into this relationship. Without " GOD " it will never stay together. Out of wedlock : with the natural parents not legally married to each other.
2007-04-15 06:57:21 · answer #9 · answered by TAMPABAYLADY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋