major problem fiance wants me to move in with his female roomate already knowing i have bad vibes about her but he tells me that if she wants to talk to him for 2 hours i should be cool with that because he cant be direspect her on the other hand when i called he house the other day he told me he was busy and i was talking to him he was talking to her and helping her cook chicken he claims he does this because shes from a country and they dont have that type of food over there still i think thats ******** what whould i do ? does it seem to you guys like he is putting me 1st or second ?
2007-04-15 09:12:40 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he claims the reason he move in with her because she is lonely
2007-04-15 09:13:06 · update #1
also let me mention this is her house
2007-04-15 09:14:11 · update #2
to me i feel like if something goes down he will take her side
2007-04-15 09:14:37 · update #3
he claims that we going be going to countries like africa and india where they are no hotels and moving with people we dont know
2007-04-15 09:16:14 · update #4
he tries to tell me he want to stay somewhere for free so i mention the shelters to him because them seem like a poor *** exscuse to live with this female roomate
2007-04-15 09:23:41 · update #5
get rid of him quickly and get out!
2007-04-15 09:31:04 · answer #1 · answered by Donna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just maybe hes on the up and up but if youre this uncomfortable with his living arrangements to the point where you dont really trust him, then the time has come to make a major decision and then move on. Find someone where you feel totally comfortable with and take it from there and then quit asking this question over and over on here. You wont get some miracle answer on here cause one doesnt exist. Just move on and get on with your life and quit being second
2007-04-15 16:34:10 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AMAZING! He is telling you that you can't disrespect this jealous roomate, but he's disrespecting his fiance?
If you don't want this broad in your life and in his, then threaten that this has to STOP right now and explain the reasons why and how you feel.
If he doesn't understand that and he doesn't do something about it, warn him that this could ruin your relationship.
That's when you'll see if he is truly in Love with you. When you see who comes first. The jealous roomate, or his Fiance.
You should want nothing to do with it and put it all on his lap to see how he handles it.
Don't ignore this, it will cause future problems. Good Luck
2007-04-15 16:31:42 · answer #3 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's serious about moving in together, maybe you should go get your own place. It kind of sounds like you and the roommate won't really get along well and it is NOT up to your boyfriend to keep her from being lonely! If he refuses, maybe you should reconsider your place in his life. he shouldn't be making his roommate his 1st priority.
2007-04-15 16:16:41 · answer #4 · answered by Shannon H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you have big time trust issues with not only him, but perhaps yourself as well. Since trust is one of the cornerstones of any relationship, If I were you I would reconsider marrying this man until you work these issues out.
2007-04-15 16:32:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your feelings don't matter a bit to him. I wouldn't go ANYWHERE especially out of the comfort of my own country with someone who disregards me as much as he disregards you.
2007-04-15 16:19:20 · answer #6 · answered by thezenfulclover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run away very fast, your gut instincts are right. Forget him
2007-04-15 16:24:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
didn't you already ask this question like four times?
2007-04-15 16:23:41 · answer #8 · answered by naturallymeee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋