First let me begin by saying my boyfriend I have both been previously married. He has been divorced for 8 years and I have been divorced for 2. He is 45 and I am 40 and we both have teenaged children. His live with his ex, and mine live with me. We have a great relationship and are very compatable. We used to talk about our future and of marriage, but he does not talk about it anymore, nor does he even bring it up. I want to talk to him about it but I don't want him to feel pressured. I just want to know if we have a future, and what his intensions are because I do not want to be stuck in dating mode forever.
2007-04-15 05:29:02 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We do not live together, he owns his own place as do I.
2007-04-15 05:38:21 · update #1
We are not engaged.
2007-04-15 05:39:12 · update #2
Unfortunately the answer here is obvious. He has definately changed his mind. And he's just not saying so for whatever reason.
2007-04-15 05:33:55 · answer #1 · answered by SHORTY38 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have a right to know if there is any future in this relationship with regards to marriage, if this is what you are seeking. Maybe this guy feels so comfortable with the way things are going, without commitment, he can bail out anytime he want should he come across someone he wants more than you. I mean, if you already have all the conveniences of a marriage without the responsibilities, to some guys , this is the life of Riley.
2007-04-15 12:35:53 · answer #2 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well then you need to have a good long conversation with you BF and you need to put all cards on the table and go from there. Your not gonna know unless you ask once you have the answers then you can continue from there. So make a dinner date and have some fun while having a conversation.. Be totally honest with how you feel and what you want and give him the floor to say his say..
Good luck!
2007-04-15 12:40:57 · answer #3 · answered by dawnsmysticalwonders 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been divorced for only 2 years then he probably is not ready to jump into a relationship yet.
2007-04-15 12:51:04 · answer #4 · answered by Mimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we women think too much. If you want to speak to him about marriage, (or anything else) then do so. In my opinion, that's what a relationship is supposed to be all about. If one is unable to talk to their loved one about anything, then perhaps there's a problem. If he feels pressured, that's HIS problem, not yours. And perhaps he'll be honest enough to let you know where he's coming from. Verbalize what you're thinking/feeling. Hopefully he will do same. If not, then perhaps he's not who you think he is.
2007-04-15 12:39:53 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring it up. If you are going to have a relationship you've got to communicate. If it were me and its was important to you to get married I'd move on to give you that opportunity because its not what I want
2007-04-15 14:44:59 · answer #6 · answered by wonder Aloud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are living together already why get married? If no one talks about marriage then it will never be. Ask him to marry you, you'll know by his answer.
2007-04-15 12:37:37 · answer #7 · answered by pitmanette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen, if you had a unsuccessful marriage before then you don't really want another one. good relationship is when you feel comfortable with not marriage, marriage only a piece of paper, well, a formal contract i call it.
enjoy the time be with him, just be happy.
2007-04-15 12:35:46 · answer #8 · answered by yiufdbgkhfjj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living with your ex's is not a good thing...
It is probably responsible for your problems..
Don't invest more than 2 - 3 yrs in a relationship without marriage.....Get a good Pre-Nup...
2007-04-15 12:32:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that if you guys are ever going to have a chance at a future, both of you are going to have to lose the exes. Why move on if things are working for the way they are? You both have to commit.(scary word,huh?)
2007-04-15 12:36:53 · answer #10 · answered by D.Y. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋