Marriage & Divorce - 15 April 2007

My 19 yr old daughter was court ordered by a judge to live with her dad when she was 11 yrs old. The judge left her 13 yr old brother with me. Its a very long story, but I was devastated because I was concerned about her safety.
She came home to live with me when she was 16 and I put her in counseling. The psychologist told me she was very immature, with the maturity of about a 12 yr old. He also told me she was very manipulative and suggested that I watch myself with her and suggested we stay in counseling together. After about 3 sessions, she refused to go any longer.
She is not 19 yrs old and I cannot get her to get full time job, she has put me thru hell. She moved in with some 26 yr old guy a week after high school graduation and he threw her out. Now she is home with me again and sneaks off in my car. Her brother is off to college and she is stressing me out. She is not on my insurance because she is 19 and doesnt want to enroll in college I can pay for counseling

2007-04-15 04:30:59 · 14 answers · asked by happydawg 6

We were together for 15 years and have a 4 year old son. I tried everything I knew of to make it work, but we have been seperated for almost a year now. I still find myself crying at night. The worst of it is that he has moved on with a 24 year old girlfriend (he is 35) and he has introduced our son to her. My son is very confused and I am very angry. I just want to know if there is a way to move on gracefully? I don't want a boyfriend just to prove to him that I can get one-yet I'm tired of being alone. Any magical advice?

2007-04-15 04:08:09 · 23 answers · asked by Tomsmom03 1

I have been married for 4 years and we have a 6 year old together and one on the way. We met 9 years ago and we're best freinds for a year and a half. I knew how he acted with girls. He was really shy. I don't remember him ever dating anyone. All his freinds are cheaters but he just doesnt have that dimeanor. I really trust him in that department anyways and i never suspect it at all. Mainly because i think he may be embarrased to sleep with someone else anyways because he has some major sexual issues. Every time i say that to people, guys or girls, they always say that all guys are cheaters and i am just naive. Some one please agree with me.

2007-04-15 04:02:37 · 14 answers · asked by Cutie 3

I have been married for 4 years and we have a 6 year old together and one on the way. We met 9 years ago and we're best freinds for a year and a half. I knew how he acted with girls. He was really shy. I don't remember him ever dating anyone. All his freinds are cheaters but he just doesnt have that dimeanor. I really trust him in that department anyways and i never suspect it at all. Mainly because i think he may be embarrased to sleep with someone else anyways because he has some major sexual issues. Every time i say that to people, guys or girls, they always say that all guys are cheaters and i am just naive. Some one please agree with me.

2007-04-15 04:01:54 · 12 answers · asked by Cutie 3

what will be ur reaction,guilty or not ?.

2007-04-15 03:58:38 · 5 answers · asked by sweetgirl 1

2007-04-15 03:19:37 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been seeing this guy for about 9 months, and the longer we see together, the more I fall in love with him. But he is married, and has no intentions of leaving his wife. He says it's for his children, but I am not sure. We have gone out of town together numerous times and spend a lot of time together. He says he loves me, and I know how I feel about him, but I am torn on what to do. Do I stick it out or do I walk away?? HELP!!!

2007-04-15 03:18:38 · 62 answers · asked by Karla K 1

2007-04-15 03:11:46 · 10 answers · asked by cutiepye74 1

I live with my husband and 3 kids. My husband also has 2 other brothers in the same city with their families. Yet my mother inlaw and her unmarried kids always come from over seas every year and stay with us. I feel I dont have a house of my own they take over it every summer. My husband refuses to tell his brothers to take them in. I am only 24 I think i should have a say in my own home. What should i do?

2007-04-15 03:01:23 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

my fiance wants me to move in with him and his female roomate what should i do ....to tell you the truth i think it might be some drama

2007-04-15 02:55:30 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-15 02:42:27 · 15 answers · asked by donnagail_0830 1

10 months on.. i dont live in my home country. i need to know how to escape my ex and the abusive life we had.

2007-04-15 02:37:49 · 13 answers · asked by Frankie 4

to get me into america on the back on a lorry, do you know someone and i want to marry a big fat slobby american man when i get their can you help me please

2007-04-15 02:33:36 · 18 answers · asked by hairy armpits 2

I am a Captain in the Air Force and i have been offered a special operations helicopter pilot position. this is the job I have dreamed about, but i have a newborn and a wife of 2 years. will this job ultimately ruin my relationship?
My wife says she understands but she keeps telling me that she doenst want to be a widow at 24, and on top of that a single mother.
Is there any way I can explain to her that everything will be ok?

2007-04-15 02:26:12 · 7 answers · asked by Scotty_J 3

2007-04-15 02:18:58 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

Like cellphone,cuz I broke up with him for constantly lying to me.He forcefully took it back.-

2007-04-15 02:18:24 · 11 answers · asked by Carine3 1

Hi! I suffer from Borderline personality disorder and have damaged relationship with my partner. We have 1 year old daughter together. Plus he has 2 other children. He is 28 years older than me. We are not affectionate, I ask for that, but he rejects me,we don't communicate well and I can admit that I have to blame, but also not everything is perfect with him either as I feel he favours his other children to me and our daughter. I love him and he supports me, but I feel I am a burden to him and he has said that to me as well. Is the damage beyond the repair and shall I move out ,so he could have a better life without me? I just feel alone because we are never doing things together and can talk about important things only if his children are in bed or away and there are a lot of pressure how I need to be, but it is hard suffering with borderline and having so many distractions. How long does it take to get a council flat and what r the other options if I have no money for a start?

2007-04-15 01:30:21 · 4 answers · asked by Lona 3

Lot of serious things are being taken up & discussed in this forum regarding marriage, divorce etc. let me share a joke with all of you & would love to hear from you your comments regarding this. Two men, one American and an Indian were sitting in a bar drinking shot after shot.


The Indian man said to the American,” You know my parents are forcing me to get married to this so called homely girl from a village whom I haven't even met once.


We call this arranged marriage. I don't want to marry a woman whom I don't love...I told them that openly and now have a hell lot of family problems."




The American said, “Talking about love marriages? I'll tell you my story.


I married a widow whom I deeply loved and dated for 3 years.


"After a couple of years, my father fell in love with my step-daughter and so my father became my son-in-law and I became my father's father-in-law.


My daughter is my mother and my wife my grandmother.


More problems occurred when I had a son. My son is my father's brother and so he is my uncle. Situations turned worse when my father had a son. Now my father's son I.e. My brother is my grandson.



Ultimately, I have become my own grand father and I am my own grandson.


And you say you have family problems...? !

2007-04-15 01:12:58 · 25 answers · asked by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7

i think my mum is cheating on my dad. ichecked her fone and is having text messsages from someone she calls 40 he was like i am going to miss you gorgeous e.t.c. i don't want to be asuming somthing terrible about my mum. i really don't know what to do i think my dad suspects somthing as well. what should i do.

2007-04-15 01:09:02 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

for the last few weeks my husband has been extremely affectionate and considerate towards me. He works the night shift so he would call me and sound enthusiastic in conversation and we would cuddle on the weekends when he's off. This past week he did not call, we only talked if I made the call ( I usually let him do the calling since he knows when he's free to talk) and he doesn't show any interest in cuddling even when I try to snuggle up to him it's like hugging a wall. he made a comment about bowling, I assumed he met together since we always bowl together (we don't go all the time, but when we do we always bowl together) when I mentioned coming along he changed his mind and made it seem like he was going the next day. I've asked was anything going on, what's wrong etc. no valid response. Does it sound funky or is it just a low point in the rollercoaster sense of marriage (as they say marriage has it's ups and downs)?

2007-04-15 01:06:01 · 13 answers · asked by Kisses 2

2007-04-15 00:53:48 · 7 answers · asked by ~☆ Petit ♥ Chou ☆~ 7

My wife and I are talking about divorce. I still love her, however, she's told me that she no longer attracted to me and that we have grown apart. I haven't always been the best husband, but I've never been abusive.
We've been seperated for about a year and half now, I was deployed to Afghan for 8 months and then 3 months later I left for Korea. We haven't been togethor for about 2 years now.
I really don't want a divorce, however, she's made it evident that we'd never be close again. She has attempted to be friendly for years but she keeps becoming distant again. She was abused when she was a teen at home. I got used to her being distant.
The problem now is that I've been in military for 20 years now, married to her the whole time. I've put her through school, she has a Master's degree and has a civil service job with retirement benefits.
I've asked her about my retirement, whether she plans to try to take it, she never replies.
What does everyone think?

2007-04-15 00:42:33 · 16 answers · asked by MB 2

Just curious to know.

2007-04-15 00:17:33 · 12 answers · asked by arab_strangers 1

I pay her $300 a month and half the time I cant see her because the mom is keeping her from me. Everyone says I am paying too much. How do I know?

2007-04-15 00:16:37 · 8 answers · asked by Layla 1

Am mid 20's and going through a divorce (strains of long distance relationship led to her infidelity). The only person I've really been able to talk to about this outside of family is an amazing young lady at work. We were already quite close but this brought us much closer. It culminated in us kissing for the first time around 5 - 6 weeks ago and we've both told each other several times we love each other. Problem is she is clearly torn. She's been in a 4-year relationship, is engaged, has a house, etc. etc. and doesn't want to hurt her fiance. I know the right thing would be to keep my distance until she knows what she wants, but there is such a strong feeling of attraction between us that it's proving very difficult. She's told me she owes it to him to make things work, yet tells me she has strong feelings for me and that I'm always on her mind. What should I do? What should she do? Both of our heads are a complete mess.

2007-04-15 00:10:30 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous