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Question

i think my mum is cheating on my dad. ichecked her fone and is having text messsages from someone she calls 40 he was like i am going to miss you gorgeous e.t.c. i don't want to be asuming somthing terrible about my mum. i really don't know what to do i think my dad suspects somthing as well. what should i do.

Answer 1

Ask you mum...it will drive you mad with worry if you don't.

Answer 2

Talk to your mum about it. Don't be accusing or suspicious but just tell her that you saw the messages on her phone and apologise for invading her privacy but tell her that after seeing them you're really stressing about the state of her relationship with your dad and the condition of your family. Don't listen to the people telling you its not your business because as part of a family, everyone has the responsibilty to consider how their actions are going to affect others. If your mum isn't doing that and creating a situation that is going to tear your family apart then it is your business to confront it and figure out how to cope with the aftermath while trying your best to keep your family intact. If it turns out your suspicions are right, behave like an adult and deal with it calmly. If your mum isnt happy then she should do the right thing and leave without making a terrible situation worse. No matter what the outcome of this situation is just remember that your mum will always be your mum and your dad will always be your dad and even if you aren't all together anymore you are all still family and should still treat other like it.

Good luck and all the best for the future.

Answer 3

Try to talk to her about it.... If she is you mom, then she knows that you will be there for her no matter what, and sometimes it helps to just sit down, and be like mom, is there someone else your interested in. Inform her that Yea it would hurt if your dad and her split up, but at the same time, she may still have a chance if she is really cheating to come out with the truth to gain your fathers trust back if thats what she wants, then to lie, and keep cheating and he catches them. Its a hard situation to be in, but for your father you know its not right and you need to know the truth so he is not used, and you also need to be on your mothers side too, with trying to help her through the hard situations too. Hope everything works out for the best for you

Answer 4

The first thing she will ask is why have you been looking at her phone messages? Confront her alone first i think, tell her you have your suspicions as does your dad. And she needs to make a decision on who and what she wants out of life if in deed she is seeing someone else. You can tell a lot from someones reactions to an confrontation, look at her face on asking her and good luck. xx

Answer 5

do nothing. It's not your business- it's between them. you had no reason to be looking at your mum's text messages; and you are making a lot of assumptions based on that. My son's godfather is an old family friend...he sends me text messages that say, "hiya sexy!". Everyone in the family knows this, and no one would dream of interpreting it otherwise.

The relationship between your parents is for them only - you have a totally different one with them. It is not for you make assumptions about anything; and even if you had absolute proof, it is still between them.

Answer 6

Don't say anything to your Dad, speak to your mum, you could be completely wrong. Tell her your suspicions and that you feel stuck in the middle and suggests if she's got something to sort out with her marriage she speaks to your Dad about it. Remember this is their marriage not yours.
Don't tell your Dad your suspicions unless you are 100% sure.

Answer 7

Stay out of it and keep on friendly terms with both parents. This kind of thing is devastating to families but if you take sides you may lose the love of one or both parents.

Answer 8

How old are you? Do you still live at home? You shouldn't have really been looking in her phone but now you've done it and you've seen that you've seen you can't really undo that. As much as you would like to you can't really interfere in your parents lives, they are after all adults and have to make there own mistakes. As unfair as it seems it is their marriage and as much as it effects you, you can't get involved. I know this is really hard, but parents are just as fallable as anybody else, they f&*k up and you can't stop that. That said talk to your Mum though, tell her how worried you are.

Answer 9

oooops....i think i'll get a new phone....

no...seriously...you shouldn't be checking people's phones.....that's like reading someone's diary....or just plain spying on them.....how would you feel if the tables were turned.

unfortunately i come from a broken home too.....but its up to your mum & dad to sort things out......just try not to be too judgemental.

you never know.....it could even be your dad, and the pair of them just trying to spice things up a little ????

Answer 10

it hard to see and deal with but that is between mum and dad, sorry you have to be put in the middle....but you need stay clear for someone will get hurt..and it may just be you so good luck

Answer 11

if there's nothing you can do about it...at least remember not to end up being like her in the end. some things are meant to be, no matter how wrong they seem. you just need to accept them and have faith that somehow things will go the way they should be and fullfill their purpose that is to put everything in their right place and time.