divorce and separation?

Question

does any one have any ideas as to why so many people divorce and seperate more so than they did years ago

Answer 1

Because it's easier and society is far more accepting of it. The internet and mobile phone revolution has also made it easier for people to find others to have affairs with and continue with them.

Answer 2

#1 Many young people marry too quickly and assume that if it doesn't work out they'll just get divorced. (Generations ago, their grandparents were careful about marrying. They talked about finances, children, living arrangements, goals for the future, etc., BEFORE they got married, so there were fewer surprises and they assumed they'd stay married and NOT divorce.)
#2 Many young couples quit the marriage before they even explore trying to save it with counseling and behavior changes. They are selfish. They don't put their spouse first, they think of themselves first.
#3 Many people do drugs now. This causes many divorces. An addict who won't change ruins his life and others.
#4 With so many other people divorcing, divorce doesn't seem as scary as it once did. Every other person is divorced.

It's really sad. This is the one area I think people should take seriously and work harder at: marriage.

Answer 3

Partly because there is less stigma attached to being a divorcee or a child of divorced parents. I remember at school a boy saying that his dad was away at sea when his parents were divorced rather than admit the truth. In fact, my kids used to come home and say that they were the odd ones out because both of their parents were still married to each other!

It may also be because in days gone by, no matter how bad it got, you were told as a woman to put up and shut up. Most did not have the financial capacity to leave even if they wanted to and to admit to their parents that their marriage had failed and they were coming back home was unthinkable.

Answer 4

Times have changed so much compared to years ago. Now we have the Internet, that gives people a easier way to cheat. Years ago the man and woman both tool care of the money coming in, knowing what was going out and coming in, nowadays alot of couples keep their money separate, some paying more than the other on bills. I believe that when money isn't talked about when your engaged this where your big problem comes into play. One may be a spender while the other isn't. More less couples aren't keeping the vows they took seriously. With some couples it is how can I get my way and still come out ahead, not caring about the other feelings.

Answer 5

To understand this, you have to look at the true reason for marriage. Until the last 40 years, marriage was PURELY for economic reasons. It was an exchange. Man gets sex, woman gets shelter. Period. Now, women provide for themselves economically and marry for love. They don't have to marry for economics anymore and are unwilling to stay in a bad or unhappy marriage.

Back in the day, women had to put up with an unfaithful, unloving or abusive spouse because the choice they had was to stay or be thrown out on the street (without their children as it's only been within the lasts 50 years that women even got custody of their kids). Today, people marry for love. And as we all know, love is very risky. As dicey as love is, I'd much rather marry for love than for economics.

Answer 6

People get divorced more frequently because they have no morality. Marriage is not a game and should not be taken as a game. You get married you get married for life. I have no sympathy for people who "find" things out about their spouse only after they got married. Truth is their spouse was the same way the entire time the knew eachother and if they had not RUSHED into getting married and taken the time to get to know eachother they would have found out all the crap that usually causes divorce. My first engagement had me going through a catholic church that refused to marry us until we had gone through relationship councelling and and until we had been ENGAGED for at least a year. It took my fiance and I three months of councelling to call the wedding off. This is after we had been together for 5 years. Fact of the matter is divorce is too easy now adays. Its harder to get a gun and divorce is much more dangerous.

Answer 7

Years ago divorce was unacceptable. No matter what everything was kept in the closet, abuse of all kinds, cheating, etc. Some people just grow out of each other, take different paths in life. If u don't get along then its time to leave each other. Divorce isn't easy, it takes alot out of u.

Answer 8

Should be easy enough to understand. It is for the same reasons you see so many improper and immoral things that you did not see years ago. Society has lost its morals, its belief in God, its knowledge of what is right and wrong and its willingness to accept what is right and wrong.

Couple that with a zillion programs that help and encourage wrong doing or which support those who do wrong, and you have your answers. You see, years ago, we were willing to see and then label people as what they were by how they acted. We did not waste sympathy upon those who were merely suffering from their own stupidity and we did not make heroes of them. We certainly did not reward them.

There was a time in this country where we expected and demanded people do right. The community had and enforced standards for the most part. Lastly, people did not have the silly notion that right and wrong were merely a matter of what they agreed with or what got them their way at the moment.

Honestly, I really am a bit suprised that things are not worse today. There seems to be nothing that is found wrong or immoral anymore at least for the most part.

Answer 9

It's easier, both financially and from a socially acceptable perspective. In most cases, a woman would not dare leave her husband and many endured loveless relationships because they were wholly dependant on their husband.

Women, rightly, no longer accept the role of second class citizen and have the confidence and opportunity to go out and have fun. Further, they now have support from friends who are no longer influenced by their husbands.

It is however now too easy to give up and not work on remaining married!

Answer 10

Nowadays most women have the financial capacity to leave their husbands because most women still work after they get married and there is no stigma to getting divorced.