I've been with my guy for almost 2 and a bit years, we got engaged about a year ago for my birthday. This was a bit of a tricky thing as he had previously asked my dad for permission at christmas and my dad had said no (as in there's no need). My parents are unmarrried after 25 together so they see no need in 'that bit of paper'. My birthday is in feb so we got engaged then, knowing my parents wouldn't be happy i handled it really badly- not telling them til the day after. There were a few arguments and loads of tears and now- after a year - it's almost a taboo subject- as if it didn't happen.
i don't like bringing it up as i'm embarrassed how i handled it. But now me and my guy have talked about possibly getting married next summer and i have no idea how to tell my parents- he's already told his family and they're all over the moon....
hope anyone can help.
thanks
2007-04-15 04:46:58 · 6 answers · asked by Bexta 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am so sorry your folks are being so selfish Sweetie planning your wedding is supposed to be fun and shared with your family. Just explain to your parents that you understand that they do not feel that they need the legal documentation to be married, but you would like to have it. Let them know that you respect their decision to not be legally married and that you would never ask them to do otherwise. Then ask them to respect your decision and to love you enough to stand by you while you marry the love of your life and start a family of your own. At the end of the conversation be a little hard and tell them that you love them and you want Their blessing for your marriage however even if they do not give it you will proceed. If they do not give their blessing right then explain to them that they will be receiving an invitation in the mail and you hope to see them there, but be prepared for them not to come.
2007-04-15 04:55:58 · answer #1 · answered by raynelley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you see. Once you get married. Your parents are going to have to accept another portion to the family. They are just sad because your not a little girl anymore. They still want to take care of you. It would be dissapointing if they weren't at your wedding. They are also worried that once you get married. You have to do something to have kids.... And your parents might feel even older. But remember, tell them that your happy. If your happy, then your parents are.
2007-04-15 17:19:01 · answer #2 · answered by Yahoo! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just sit them down and tell them. Tell them you are sorry for how you handled things in the past, but now you want to share everything with them. I eloped and married my husband. Didn't tell my mom for several months. She never truly got over it. She still doesn't care for my husband. I have been married for 17 years, and she recently told my again how hurt she was that I waited to tell her. My mom and I are still close , but I realize now I hurt her deeply. So again, be brave and just tell your parents. This is one of life's defining moments.
2007-04-15 12:42:48 · answer #3 · answered by BROWNIE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got married and told my parents after the fact.
I called them collect and used my new last name.
Of course, it was a big mistake. He nearly beat the daylights out of me and I lost one front tooth and ended up getting a divorce, but thats how I did it.
Stupid! Stupid! Stupid!
2007-04-15 12:21:51 · answer #4 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am so sorry but just tell them you had got married
2007-04-15 12:16:34 · answer #5 · answered by vasanna01 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just tell them that you are getting married
whether they accept it or not...
2007-04-15 11:50:34 · answer #6 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋