If a man and a woman agree to have an abortion, yet the woman never does, that the woman should take sole responsibility for , and get sole custody of, the child that she chose to keep?
2007-04-15 09:18:09 · 17 answers · asked by Mendi8a 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just curious of people's opinion on this subject
2007-04-15 09:18:29 · update #1
im not saying it IS this way, Im asking your opinion on if it SHOULD BE this way.
2007-04-15 09:23:30 · update #2
I agree. Both parents were irresponsible in "making" the child, I think both parents should decide how to handle the matter. If one wants the child and the other doesnt, then it should be their sole responsibility. Thats just my opinion, but maybe if it worked that way, so many women would not try to "trap" a man by "accidentally" getting pregnant, and then when he still doesnt want to be with her she gets paid for 18 years. I know this may sound harsh but this happened to my husband when he was younger. And now, the child lives so far away, and the mother never let him have any sort of relationship with him...now he is 15 and really doesnt know his father. We have tried, but anytime he ever wants anything to do with us is when he wants something. But she still gets her check every week. He wanted her to give the baby up for adoption or have abortion (it would not have been her first...she had one for another guy) but she wouldnt hear of it. The funny thing is, they dated for 3 years and she was on b/c and then when he broke up with her, she came to his apartment because she missed "him". They had sex, and then she told him she no longer took the pill, she said she didnt see the need since he broke up with her. HA!
2007-04-15 12:09:09 · answer #1 · answered by Nothing but the truth...!! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tough one...
On one hand, the father of the baby wants an abortion and thinks that the mother does too and is under the impression that the abortion has taken place.
On the other hand, you have the mother who may have lied about her feelings about having the abortion, may have lied about actually getting the abortion, and now has the baby.
I am assuming that the mother and father are no longer together then...
Does the father know that the mother kept the baby? Did she tell him or did he find out through another source? Does the father WANT to be a part of the child's life?
Assuming that the father wants to be a part of the child's life, I'd say the mother should have primary custody and the father should be granted visitation rights. After all, he was led to believe that both he and the mother were both on board with the abortion and she kept the baby anyway. Regardless of him wanting her to have an abortion, as far as he knew it was what she wanted as well. I don't think he should be denied the right to see his child based on these circumstances. I also don't think its fair to deny the child of both parents, if both parents are loving and both desire to be a part of the child's life. I think don't think that the father should have to pay child support, because he was under the impression that the pregnancy was terminated. She took him out of the equation when she lied about having it done so I think she should be held for sole financial responsibility of that child. Of course, the father, if he was truly a good man with good intentions, would offer to help support said child.
2007-04-15 09:34:09 · answer #2 · answered by ♥♥Mrs SSG B♥♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd think the matter is a bit more complex then that of your conclusion. If man and woman decide to engage in sexual intercourse, the potential of producing offspring exists. Not that ALL coitus contact automatically produces children, the possibility still exists.
Not all "Birth control" measures work 100% of the time. If such measures were USED(?) but failed, then the obvious next step would be an abortion (assuming the man/woman do not wish become parents(?) at this time).
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Now, if one part of the couple decides that they wish to assume responsibility for the child, then a few more questions need to be answered.
1) if the WOMAN wishes to assume sole responsibility for the product of there relationship, THEN the MAN must relay his intent.
A) Does HE want to give up all responsibility for the child?
B) if not, THEN how do you resolve the rights/responsibility of both parties?
2) if the MAN wishes to assume sole responsibility for the product of there relationship, THEN the WOMAN must relay her intent.
A) CAN YOU FORCE A WOMAN TO GIVE BIRTH IF SHE DOES NOT WANT TO? Even if the man wants to take sole responsibility.
2007-04-15 10:07:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 13:55:51 · answer #4 · answered by tseng 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is totally up to the woman in this case i believe ... Does he know about the baby or not? She should at least see if he wants to be in the childs life or not. If he wants nothing to do with the child then she should get full custody in my opinion.
2007-04-15 09:48:02 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man helped make the child. The man must and should pay for and be a part of the childs life.
If he doesn't want to have nothing to do with with the child, then he should still help in supporting this child.
Children do not ask to be brought into this world, if your not willing to take care of and love a child you have no business haveing a child to begin with. If your thinking about abortion and change your mind, do this child a favor and put it up for adoption before you neglect or abuse it.
Children should be loved and cherished. If you can't do this than please let someone adopt them that can. or stick with your original plan and abort the poor thing.
And I am a man makeing these statements in case anyone was wondering
2007-04-15 09:32:31 · answer #6 · answered by bakerone 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Actually, if the woman changes her mind, the child is still his child and he owes financial support until the child is 18. Good choice to have the child. Yes, you can have custody of your child and give him visits with the baby.
2007-04-15 09:36:45 · answer #7 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think if the man doesn't want to have a baby and he wants the woman to have an abortion then he should lose all rights. Thats my opinion.
2007-04-15 09:29:18 · answer #8 · answered by chunkysmom3502 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The answer really doesn't matter. If a guy is man enough to be there for his child he will no matter what, and if he is not going to be a dad it doesn't matter the situation, the woman will end up having total responsiblity anyway.
2007-04-15 09:32:52 · answer #9 · answered by beebee 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It takes 2 to make a baby....it is the woman's responsibility in that case to care for child emotionally, but financially, that dad had better be there too! You do the deed and spread the seed, then you need to be a freakin' man!
2007-04-15 09:25:35 · answer #10 · answered by Shannon H 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋