What's more important your age when you get married or how long you've known your soon to be husband?
If you've been dating someone since you were 16 and your now 21, so you've been dating for 5 years, do you think it's a bad idea to get married so young?
2007-04-15 05:40:08 · 14 answers · asked by vannajune 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marriage is something so easily done. And so overrated. Don't marry until you know for a fact in your heart that he or she is the person you want to live the rest of your life with.
2007-04-15 05:49:27 · answer #1 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a bad idea to marry without having dated other people and experienced more of life in general. Even if you've dated for 5 years, he's the only "adult" you have ever dated. You should talk things over and make sure you want the same things. But be aware that in 5 years or so one of you may not want the same things as you do now and you'll be stuck or become a casualty of divorce.
It is pretty young in the scheme of things. Think ahead to when you are in your 80s will you think you could have waited a few years before getting hitched?
2007-04-15 12:46:43 · answer #2 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's up to the individual whether or not they are ready to make such a big decision. Being married is not all cookies and cream. You have to work at keeping it together and it's hard. People stray all the time because they either get bored or they feel their needs are not emotionally met or they don't feel sexually satisfied. You have to work at it to keep the spice in the relationship, to build constant trust and to respect each other. Once you make such a committment, that's it. You can always get divorced later but that scar will always be there. Especially if it was a bad marriage. You just have to be sure of yourself that you're ready. Personally, I would wait and explore the world for a while, get your degree and make some money first. I think being single is always less stressful. That's just my opinion. If I had to do it all over again, I would've waited. Alot of my years were wasted away because I put too much energy into the man I was with instead of taking care of me. Then years later when I step back and look at myself, I have nothing. Right now I'm in school trying to finish up on my degree but I really wish I could've had it years ago instead of getting married and getting pregnant first.
2007-04-15 12:56:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
21 isnt young anymore except if at this age you're still immature. Aside from your feelings for the person you want to marry you have to ask yourself if you're ready to commit to the relationship and if you are willing to accept everything(good and bad) about your partner.It isnt so much about how long you have known each other but how much you know each other.Try to know to if your soon-to-be partner is also willing to commit & grow old with you no matter what. Aside from those you also have to norture the relationship once you are married. Its an unpredictable loooong ride and make sure you're both committed to take that ride.Good luck!
2007-04-15 13:11:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
21 is not a bad age to get married. That's the age that I was married at. It's been 7 years now and there's no sign of divorce. I say GO FOR IT!!! good luck
2007-04-15 12:45:17 · answer #5 · answered by MADS1228 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will give you my very, very, honest opinion.
Marriage can bust you up in a million pieces and when your put back together again, there are pieces missing in your life,
Don't be the fool
When you decide to get married, I would suggest you live with each other for about 10 years first and see what happens.
2007-04-15 12:46:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No 1 can answer that but you. Listen 2 ur heart. Do u get along, talk about everything & anything, laugh, cry, argue & at times just sit together, without saying a word, but know what each other is thinking? Good Luck & God Bless
2007-04-15 13:22:28 · answer #7 · answered by Just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe that its not your age or how long you known the person. its not how long you've been dating the person. its the quality of your relationship with them. its about the love that you have for each other. it is the desire to be together forever. if this is each of your desires, then it will be. remember that just becuase you've been dating for a period of time does not mean that the person is your soul mate.
2007-04-15 12:49:49 · answer #8 · answered by dave 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I not only think you are too young,you haven't,if I understand, you dated anyone else.Think about that.You have no idea what you like or don't like the opposite sex.You should date other guys for a few years before you commit yourself and so should he.
2007-04-15 12:59:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on if your mature enough. I dated my wife who was 15 at the time, and I was 20, for 4 months. We lived together for 33 years, until her death due to a car accident. She was more mature than me, and made me know what real LOVE, was.
2007-04-15 12:49:36 · answer #10 · answered by lariat_sonata 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋