my ex confessed that he is smoking pot but he won't tell me who with. Why won't he tell me? what is he trying to hide? he lives out of state and i don't really know his friends anyway. what's the big deal? i think it might be his co-workers. we're are working on a reconciliation, but i want him to come clean and be honest with me. any thoughts?
2007-04-15 09:37:43 · 10 answers · asked by philly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we are still married, just separated
2007-04-15 09:42:42 · update #1
we have 3 kids but he rarely sees them. he says he wants his family, but i think he wants his wild lifestyle too, which i can't tolerate. i don't know if i can trust him
2007-04-15 09:49:21 · update #2
my lifestyle is so clean, i don't even drink alcohol. i've gone back to college and i'm working on a psychology degree. i just couldn't figure out why he wouldn't tell me
2007-04-15 09:53:21 · update #3
and he says that if we get back together, he will quit doing it
2007-04-15 09:54:27 · update #4
Well, let's see. Pot is illegal. If you get busted the cops will try to get you to roll on who sold it to you, who else you know doing it, etc. It's possible the friend he's smoking with also grows, or deals. As you are only separated, they could conceivably come to you and ask these questions. Better you don't know. Safer for all involved. Ending up responsible for getting someone arrested is probably not the best reason for him to be "open and honest" with you. It's not always about you. Leave it alone. There are bigger issues here. Like why you would even consider taking this guy back???? Move on, girl. I know it's not that easy, but long run you'll be better off, and so will your kids.
2007-04-18 04:18:21 · answer #1 · answered by CS 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will the answer change your mind on the reconciliation? If it will then insist on an answer first, if it won't then realize that if you get back together you will meet these people and you will be able to decide on your own merit if there is anyone he should or should not be smoking pot with.
He may be afraid to mess up getting back together if it is with a female coworker for example because you have not had time to get to know her to be reassured that she is not a threat.
Decide how much this means to you as an indivual and what your motivation is then proceed accordingly.
Good luck and pass the bowl :)
2007-04-15 16:45:02 · answer #2 · answered by liberalady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have kids and does he have access to them? Is there any chance of reconciliation? If you do not have to deal with this man anymore, maybe let him have his secrets. It coudl be just a tool to get to you. If you honestly want to get back together with him and are seriously concerned, express it to him that you really care and only want the best for him. Pot smokers don't think they're really doing anything wrong. It may take a jolt for him to realize what he's doing.
2007-04-15 16:45:01 · answer #3 · answered by Shannon H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything Ive read tells me that this guy is not reconciling with and is going to be nothing but trouble. If hecant come clean with you then hes not worth having cause youll never be able to trust him. Besides bringing drugs into the relationship is not healthy nowadays. You can do better so move on and forget him. Good luck
2007-04-15 16:46:30 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is your EX for a reason...
Move on...
It will not be better next time around...
2007-04-15 16:41:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's cheating on you. And he is planning on doing it some more.. which is why he wont give up the secret.
2007-04-15 16:41:19 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ B1tchHere ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to smoke pot...all it made me want to do is have SEX.
I did not want food I wanted SEX.
I am so sexual anyway...it always drove me nuts...haaaa.
2007-04-15 16:47:46 · answer #7 · answered by Bobbie4u 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he is your ex, you need to move on.
2007-04-15 16:41:10 · answer #8 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what difference does it make to you??? it's your husbands smoking you should be concerned with...
2007-04-15 16:49:57 · answer #9 · answered by raffi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is your ex. why is it any of your business?
2007-04-15 16:41:04 · answer #10 · answered by engineer46526 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋