Marriage & Divorce - 5 April 2007

Ok I just found out my husband has had sex with my mom and sister when we were having a few problems. The way I found out is he video taped the threesome. I moved out through my ring and his head HARD and said this is it. I can't take it anymore. And Walked out. Now all he keeps doing is tracking me down. At hotels at friends. I tried a court order it won't work. He knows the police to well. I am affraid of what he might do next.

2007-04-05 13:42:36 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do they not realize the pain and hurt that their actions will cause?

2007-04-05 13:41:18 · 13 answers · asked by Bryan M 5

Or is it acceptable to cheat when you're engaged?

2007-04-05 12:31:11 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a two year old a newborn should i cheat on my husband??

2007-04-05 12:23:29 · 44 answers · asked by kaseyred7 2

For the past 3 weeks my husband has been going out on the weekends and not coming home. He told me last week that he had an affair on me 2 years ago. He has been keeping things from me. I found a recepit where he bought our son some clothes while he was out of town, I counted all of the things that he got for our son but noticed there was extra things and they were little girl clothes. We dont have any girls. He told me he got them for somebody who gave him his money back. He refuses to tell me who that person is.When my husband didnt come home I called him around 100 times after finding he had a extra phone line. He refused to tell me who he got the phone for. Also I asked him where he was that night and he refused to tell me. Now its Easter weekend and he is going out of town and isnt giving me any details. I want to know who he had an affair with and why. I want to know everything! Do I derserve to know? I feel like know whats going on will give me closure and he wont do it. Why?

2007-04-05 12:20:40 · 17 answers · asked by madblackwoman 1

And don't think it's me am just asking the question to get answer for a close friend.Because when she came to me I didn't have know answer for her, so maybe you can help.Here's her story 1 guy who she spent 10yrs with have a child with they broke up 8months ago she really loves him, but he was cheating on her and broke her heart he wants to come back. She has a date with him tonight. #2 guy she been living with him, for a few months now and now he has a job that he has to stay there at least 5 to 6 nights a week, but she see him at least 4 times a week after work. He wants her to come over to night, she made up excuse that she tried, and he just crazy over her, he really loves her too. She has feelings for him she loves him but not like guy #1. Guy #3 cares for her and wants to see her tonight too, she really wants to see guy #3 but she has a date with guy #1. She can be honest with guy #3 and told him she going to see guy #1 he ask her can she come over when the continue...........

2007-04-05 12:18:11 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been wit my husband for 7 years and married for 2. we have a lil one and now I am getting tired of him. I don't know the reason but i feel like everything we ever had was bull!!!!!! We have cheated and left each other before and now I feel I can't be in a relationship like that!!!!!!! I will be moving out and starting a new life by myself with my lil one. The thing that I wanted to ask is should I start dating right away if not how long do I wait??????? I really don't know what to do. I need some answers!!!!!! Any one that has been in a situation like this please help.

2007-04-05 12:01:22 · 21 answers · asked by bfromcali 1

2007-04-05 11:52:50 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for almost 4 yrs. We have two children; 4 yrs & 6 mos. My husband has been to prison 3 times during our marriage. This last time I was only one month pregnant when he got locked up and he didn't come home until our son was 3 months old. Not for anything serious, just violations for drinking. He is an alcoholic. Each time gets locked up he promises me that he will not drink again and he will get the help he needs. The second time he came home he did really good for about 5 months then started drinking again. This time it only took about 3 weeks for him to start again. He's drinking almost everyday now. I feel hate towards him when he drinks and I resent him for it. He spends too much money on it and all I can think about is divorce. He is not willing to get the help he needs because he doesn't believe he has a problem. I know I can make it on my own but I love him. He's going to end up in prison again for sure. Should I wait for that or leave him now?

2007-04-05 11:35:31 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

they have 2 children aged 8 and 11 and a beautiful home. but she says sex is just a chore nowadays. what do i say?

2007-04-05 11:25:12 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a woman who has claimed to be my best friend for over the last 15 years. I met her over 20 years ago through my niece but her and I became really good buddies and she gave me the label as being her best friend but we have nothing in common. She is one of those friends that only has time for me when she is between relationships and I cannot trust her with nothing. I tell her what I think is going to be between the both of us and when I go around her family, her mom, sisters and cousin know everthing about whatever I am dealing with at that time. Now she is in a disturbing relationship and I told her to leave the guy alone because there was one time I was dating a guy she disliked and she came to house and basically tried to put him out and she told me right in front of him that she wanted me to choose between her and him. I chose him and told her to get the hell out my house. Of course we have made up since them but she always wants to control my life but will never accept

2007-04-05 11:17:20 · 11 answers · asked by Pegi 3

Stop thinking of my ex. I feel so stupid cz I still have strong feeling for my ex.. I wish in my heart that he would change. I know that I am asking for 2 much. We have 7 months since He left our home. He went back to live with is mother. I found out he is seeing some women. He still come around to see our son yes he gives me money. I have not gone out on dates or with my friends. I’m just not ready for all that. I know that I am still waiting for him to come back. I just don’t understand Y I am acting like this. I have had other men b4 and I got over them. No he didn’t put it on me!!! I just wish I could get over it. I know time will heal every thing. It has been 7 months and I still feel the same way as when he 1st left. I care and Love him mayb I am crazy. Yes I am seeing a therapist and my Priest who is a councilor. I find my self thinking about him and everything we went thru. I try to stop it by thinking of all the bad things he is saying and doing to me. It doesn’t seem to help me. I don’t think that he feels the same. Can any one tell me what I can do I tried every thing not thing is working. Help me Please!!

2007-04-05 11:07:43 · 5 answers · asked by Natural 2

I have been married 3.5 and am planning on divorcing my hubby. I did the math and if everything gets split 50/50 house ect. i will walk away with 15 grand.Currently i am living with my hubby in texas (not my idea we moved for his job in insurance)but i have a degree in marine biology that i cant use really here.I have been working as a secretary here in texas so i have not been able to put away much money only 1200 dollars.I was offered a job by an old friend in tri-state area near where my family is working at a zoo as a seal trainer.But i am conserned i dont have enough money saved to move?

2007-04-05 10:57:36 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-05 10:54:43 · 18 answers · asked by cris2326 1

For those of you in a living together long term relationship, for the females! Is there anyone who finds that you want it and your man doesn't? Usually it's the woman that's not in the mood! I am positive he's not messing around, so no it's not cheating, trust me! And yes the plumbing works just fine. But it's getting to the point, where if I don't force it out of him, he's not in the mood, or too tired, etc. Please any advice would be good. Please Help, I want my man to bring back that Loving feeling!!!!

2007-04-05 10:50:20 · 15 answers · asked by moostang67 1

my day is going by slow. i wanna leave work light a joint, go to the gym get in the sauna and relax.

2007-04-05 10:43:27 · 8 answers · asked by Tanyah 3

i worry lot bout me hubby,,,,,,,,,he just keep gettin bigger n bigger round waist n his bellys keep growin!!!!!!!!! he always order food n get it deliver n he always eatin!!!!!! he made me gets him hoverround n he use that to moves now,,,,,,but now he compane that he cannot fits thru door no more!!!!! hes gut is 2 wide!!!!!! i tell him that,,,but he say he good to go,,,,he healthy,,,,,,,,,,,,i tells him to stop eatin n he say he in charge!!!!! he stucks in house now!!!!! he watch TV,,,, smoke pall mall n eat all day now!!!!!! i worry bout him!!!! i try talkin 2 him n takin hes foods away n make him goes on diet,,,,,,but it not works!!! shood i be worry?????

2007-04-05 10:33:54 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I think it is wonderful to stay home with the kids. I'm doing it for a time as I have an infant and I could see that it would greatly benefit a child to have one parent at home, however, since I have been home I also realize that it may be irresponsible to stay home too long. If job skills become obsolete and bread winner dies then your child might suffer and you would wish you had put the child in day care??? It is very confusing to do the right thing, do you think there is a way to raise your own kids and not take this huge risk?

2007-04-05 10:28:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

and totally out of character. He told that if I wanted to sleep with another man or have sex with another man it was OK, so long as I didn't love him. We've been together a long time, and this is completely out of the blue for him. Before, if another man so much as looked at me a little too long he was ready for a fight. What do you make of this?

2007-04-05 10:22:18 · 48 answers · asked by Amy V 4

You know how diana was ? Do you think camilla is among the most beautiful women in the world ? I asked this question the other night - in another way - and someone who thinks camilla is very beautiful was offended, and so my question was removed. So this time i`m not asking is camilla parker bowles the ugliest woman you ever saw ? So don`t start, royalty worshipers - i`m just asking is she among the most beautiful women in the world in your opinion ? Just answer honestly please. If you think she`s gorgeous - as i do (hello royalty worshipers !! ) then just say so. But if you have another opinion - like she`s - well i don`t want to be putting words into anyone`s mouth now do i ? But i`d like to hear it.If you think she is beautiful what is it about her that you think really sets her off ? Her teeth ? Her hair ? Her clothes ? Her husband ? Her handbags ? Her stepsons ? What would you rate her out of - say two - for beauty ? I don`t want any messin about coz remember this is royalty-OK?

2007-04-05 10:07:06 · 36 answers · asked by yahoobloo 6

ok i met this guy on a singles website while i was going thru my devorce my devorce will be final april 16th. but anyways he is a very good man treats me like a queen except he doesnt stick up to his mother. she controls everything he does. he has his own apt. witch she tells him i cant live there with him witch the landlord said because of my credit i cant witch i kinda question a little bit about that thinking the mother has something to do with it. but she is telling me i can only stay at his apt for 3 days at a time. well i went to stay with him and stayed a week she got pissed at us and said we lied to her. its his apt!!! now i cant call her house when my fiancee is there, and he can only call me once a day when he is there. she told me she wont support our marriage. and im not aloud in her house and i cant be apart of her family but i can be a part of my fiancees and his 8 month old daughters. i think my fiancee is afraid to tell her to but out how can i get him to tell her off?

2007-04-05 10:03:34 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

If the child graduated in June of 2006 and was 18 years old now the child is 19 and the mother is still receiving payments although the child never enrolled in college when ill the CS cut off? The mother is still receiving payment and I wanted some feed back before I went to the courts the state she lives in a receives payments are in md although the father who pays resides in VA, what should happen?

2007-04-05 09:55:08 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

He's still with his wife. On top of that I did the worst thing that you could imagine. I got pregnant. (Yeah stupid) I couldn't go through with the abortion. I had the baby.We now have a baby under 1 year. She (the wife) does not know about the baby nor me. I don't want to hurt her feelings. He love his son so much. He provides him with things that he need. I hate to interfier with the relationship of my son and his father.But it's so hard to go on like this. This situation is crazy. . I feel trapped in an affair. WHAT TO DO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!???????????????????????

2007-04-05 09:30:12 · 43 answers · asked by MisStress 1

what can i do to get her to sign papers.

2007-04-05 09:28:41 · 22 answers · asked by serpico 1

We wont be getting married for another two years And the way money is right now could be more. What should I do??? Serious answers, no drugs or anything like that!

2007-04-05 09:22:53 · 32 answers · asked by DJ C 4

in the first few weeks, it's generally very often, but after a year or more....

2007-04-05 09:21:12 · 15 answers · asked by ,,,= -▲- =,,, 2

How can a man you have been with for years and had kids with and you thought was your soulmate cheat on you repeatedly, doesn't ever want to bring up the past about it and feel like the most distant person in your life when you have given everything and been the best wife and mother you could be?

2007-04-05 09:17:23 · 19 answers · asked by Puleeeze 2

*I know everyone is going to freak out over this question and get all heated about it.....but just hear me out. There is no "homewrecking" involved.
Anyways I wanted to know how many married guys out there, honestly fantasize about a younger girl (early 20's)....doing intimate things with the younger girl and your wife?
*And I don't think that having 3somes is grounds to call it cheating, since both spouses are involved in the act, and the other female never goes "home" with the husband.
Anyways NO I am not a homewrecker and I am not trying to mess anyone's marriage up, I'm just curious to know...and because I have never done anything like that, and yes, I admit that I am interested in trying it sometime......? So guys?
~Sorry if I offended anyone...it was not my intention.

2007-04-05 09:15:55 · 13 answers · asked by Shut your mouth when u tlk to me 5

I've always preferred the top bunk, but it's been awhile since I got to choose. I love bunk beds. My wife isn't a big fan though.

2007-04-05 09:06:33 · 20 answers · asked by Sausage Fingers™ 3

why is she too tired for sex or love?? im trying to understand her that she works,goes to school and has 4 kids, but i cook,clean,watch her kids and there for them with school work, and do small stuff for her so i can make time for us. when we have sex its rushed with kids being up, or its where i do all work, she wants me to be more aggressive, and when i do, its like no kids up, or kids away she just wants to sleep. please help me understand here. i ask her if its me and she says im great without sounding like im bragging, but i feel alot of ways it is me, but doesnt want to hurt the male ego pride, i dont care about my ego, i want to get her excited, she says i last to long and it hurts here to have sex. so what can i do to understand her more.

2007-04-05 09:05:07 · 12 answers · asked by jvelazquez1976 1