How can a man you have been with for years and had kids with and you thought was your soulmate cheat on you repeatedly, doesn't ever want to bring up the past about it and feel like the most distant person in your life when you have given everything and been the best wife and mother you could be?
2007-04-05 09:17:23 · 19 answers · asked by Puleeeze 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
men are like that, no matter what we do for them, they are still a dog, bastard
2007-04-05 09:31:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You having "given everything" is irrelevant. Cheating is not a reasoned act; a man does not weigh the factor of what his wife has given him into the decision to cheat. Cheating is a matter of opportunity intersecting with low will power. I say that to say this: don't take it as a personal insult nor a condemnation of how good of a spouse you have been to him. He didn't do it as some kind of a punishment to you, even though it may feel that way.
Him not wanting to discuss it is understandable -- who wants to talk about a subject he knows is going to be painful to talk about? Nonetheless, you would do well to impress upon him the fact that he has no choice but to answer your questions. Put your foot down and get serious, because in order for the two of you to have any chance of getting past this, you are going to need a great deal of patience and communication from he who betrayed your trust.
2007-04-05 09:38:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation. I thought we were doing every well. I came to find out 6 months ago he was un happy he wanted to be a single man after we were 2gether for 5 years had his child. He would act very strange and come home later and later from work. He would go out with his friend all the time. I came to find out he cheated on me with one of his so called friends. I did every thing for him in every since of the word every thing. Now after one month that he left he tell me I should see other people. He couldn't wait to be with his friend I guess. Now that 7 months have pass and I don't call him or tex him he comes around asking me if I am with someone cz he heard some things about me. I just let him believe what he wants. I don't believe in his words any more I think one day it will not hurt as MUCH!!
I wish u the best sorry that we both got with some man that did not value our worth!!!!!
2007-04-05 09:31:59 · answer #3 · answered by Natural 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
While I don't want to minimalize his cheating, I think you need to look back at your time with him and examine your role in it. You say you have been "the best wife and mother you could be", but how are you making that statement? From your point of view or his? Were there signs all along that he was wanting something different?
If you can honestly and objectively look back at your life and see nothing you did to help this situation along, then he might just be a pig.
2007-04-05 09:42:06 · answer #4 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Rosie.... What a dog. Why is it easier for the man to behave this way than the woman in you situation? How can they throw away so much? They must think there is some alternative life they can live that consists of staying forever beautiful, owning a hot car/bike and being loved at all the hottest bars. God I feel for you and I hope you step up and show him exactly how much he is worth.....NOTHING.
2007-04-05 09:25:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well there are more men who don't do that, so you shouldn't generalize. After all recent studies show that women cheat at the same percentages as men do.
Your first problem is not realizing that this is as much your fault as his. After all you were the one who picked this loser. It's not like he is a different man than you married, men don't change. He was a cheater and womanizer when you met him, what did you think you were going to change him? This in no way says what he did was right, however if you can't pick better men than this will happen to you again.
2007-04-05 09:24:39 · answer #6 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Wow, dont I know this situation oh so well. There are no excuses for cheating. If you decided to give him another chance , more power to you.
Look forward instead of backward. Your future is ahead of you. I wish you much luck.
Oh and to you Rosie, Dogs are faithful so no men arent dogs.
2007-04-05 09:23:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of man bashing goin on here.....
It takes two to tango folks.....
Would a happy man stray? I think it's possible but unlikely. If you are as wonderful as you claim, then he's a dawg. A good friend one told me that everything happens for a reason. I believe it.
2007-04-05 11:12:39 · answer #8 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because god gave men two heads. But only enough blood to use one at a time. And sadly he also created gravity need I say more.
2007-04-05 09:30:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he have grown to know you and know that your *** will take him back no matter what. he probably does it because he feels he have you right where he wont you, depressed and unselfconscious about yourself. i tell you what whenever you do get over him and find someone that really loves you, just watch his reaction, it will change dramatically. he will continue to cheat as long as you let him, do the same or get out.
2007-04-05 09:29:26 · answer #10 · answered by jovan l 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋