they have 2 children aged 8 and 11 and a beautiful home. but she says sex is just a chore nowadays. what do i say?
2007-04-05 11:25:12 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its true, sex shouldnt be a chore - but listening to a lot of ladies talk it seems to be that they do not voice their unhappiness with intimacy with their partners until YEEEEEEEARS later after talking with girl friends, etc. They tend to leave the process up to the guy, and if they aren't satisfied think "well I love him so I guess my feelings aren't important if he is happy." Sadly women have a guilt complex and inherently put other people's needs before their own. Now if she waits TOOOOOOOOOOO long to voice her complaints about the intimacy and what she wants then some men take offense. Just think about the guy, who doesnt know inherently that she is unhappy because she lies and makes him feel that he is doing well. Also on the other end of the spectrum there are very selfish men that won't care, so I mean, its not always the guy, women need to be more vocal instead of quiet, reserved, and always accomodating to their partners because they worry about their partners feelings versus the idea of how much they dont, or could enjoy love making over a LIFE TIME the relationship will suffer.
Its true, intimacy, sex, making love, however you want to word it is important in a relationship!
2007-04-05 11:52:28 · answer #1 · answered by Mel4485 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a bad musician that blames their instrument.
I would tell her she must not be very inspiring or creative if she let sex become a chore.
She is very foolish if she thinks that she will keep her husband's love without the physical connection.
There is more to love than sex, but taking away an expression of love does weaken love.
2007-04-05 18:41:51 · answer #2 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As women get older, thier body changes. It is not uncommon to feel different about sex later in life but sex is a part of a healthy relationship and she should seek counciling or change something if she feels that way................. Or maybe you should just stay our of her business.
2007-04-05 18:32:50 · answer #3 · answered by Chazzer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it a chore, you should want to be with your husband. Not like every night but that is something that they both share together. Is she not attractive to him?
2007-04-05 18:29:28 · answer #4 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she loves him but he is not so good in sex maybe they need 2 change few things tell them to try something new or read a kamasutra book it will help
2007-04-05 18:29:39 · answer #5 · answered by Y! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your "friend" to get counseling, or she is going to lose that man. Sex is part of a loving relationship.
2007-04-05 18:29:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
let her work such an intimate problem out with her husband and some women feel this way and it is completely normal
2007-04-05 18:29:10 · answer #7 · answered by luminous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to see a doc about this and counseling better do something before she loses her man!!!!
2007-04-05 21:42:08 · answer #8 · answered by memyslf&I 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were her husband i would kick her a@@ to the curb
2007-04-05 19:09:03 · answer #9 · answered by pirney_money 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would hide ur credit cards!!!! i am in sixth grade!!!!!!!!!
2007-04-05 18:29:14 · answer #10 · answered by You should not be on this! 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋