I wish I could?

Question

Stop thinking of my ex. I feel so stupid cz I still have strong feeling for my ex.. I wish in my heart that he would change. I know that I am asking for 2 much. We have 7 months since He left our home. He went back to live with is mother. I found out he is seeing some women. He still come around to see our son yes he gives me money. I have not gone out on dates or with my friends. I’m just not ready for all that. I know that I am still waiting for him to come back. I just don’t understand Y I am acting like this. I have had other men b4 and I got over them. No he didn’t put it on me!!! I just wish I could get over it. I know time will heal every thing. It has been 7 months and I still feel the same way as when he 1st left. I care and Love him mayb I am crazy. Yes I am seeing a therapist and my Priest who is a councilor. I find my self thinking about him and everything we went thru. I try to stop it by thinking of all the bad things he is saying and doing to me. It doesn’t seem to help me. I don’t think that he feels the same. Can any one tell me what I can do I tried every thing not thing is working. Help me Please!!

Answer 1

Madam. I want you to understand that what I'm about to tell you in no way should be taken as offensive. And I'll give you the reason why.

You need to start looking for a man. A decent man. They're out there. In fact, you say you're speaking with your pastor. You mean you don't believe there may be someone in this congregation who isn't single or divorced, a good and hard working man and one that wouldn't find you attractive or admire your qualities? I find this difficult to fathom.

The way you feel is not unusual. The pain you've experienced I know from personal experience can't compare to the thrust of a knife into your chest. But all is not lost. You need someone who can offer you the things you need. Attention, company, fun times (and I don't mean in the boudior...that's later for those "fun" times when you decide) and makes you laugh. Most importantly...someone that you enjoy being with.

I don't know why this split occurred. Nor is it important. Its your emotions we're discussing here. Its time for you to mingle. You know there's nothing wrong with hinting to a man you enjoy his company or find him interesting. You don't have to flirt or throw yourself at him. Certainally you can do this in such a way that it's subliminal.

So...break out of this and start getting out occasionally. Even if it's with friends. Avoid bars and other pick up joints. Keep an eye out in church, in work, at social events. Once you've started to see someone occasionally, you'll find your ex moving further and further to the back of your mind. Until it reaches the point where you say to your new friend of now a couple of years..."Damn...the ex will be here soon with (insert your son's name here), we have to:

a. Start dinner and get up from cuddling together watching a movie on the couch.

b. Clean up the house and get junior ready to go to church with us.

c. Get out of bed and get dressed. *Sigh*...it was a great weekend.

Good luck. I assure you...you'll do fine.

Answer 2

I've learned a few things in life:
1. Don't negotiate reality. What is is what is. You have no choice: accept it.
2. NEVER fall in love with someone's potential. They may or may not achieve it.
3. Don't waste today waiting for something that may or may not happen in the future.
Life is short and fragile. Live it. Relationships are great when they're good; they are not the answer to our happiness.
Feelings come from thoughts. If you want to stop feeling loving feelings....stop thinking loving thoughts.
You'll be fine.

Answer 3

Think with me for a moment here, k? He's moving on. WHY would you want to stay stuck in "purgatory"? The longer you wait on him, (wait on something that's not going to happen, mind you...), the longer you hold yourself back from having a great realationship with someone wonderful that loves you back. It's really hard sometimes, the grieving process when you "lose" someone, but you just keep putting one foot in front of the other until it gets easier. It doesn't seem like you're really trying. FORCE yourself to do things you enjoy. Stay busy. Act as if you are fine without him until you REALLY believe it. I'm serious...it works. At first it will feel fake as hell, but then it starts to sink in! Value yourself enough to LET yourself move on! You are a beautiful, sparkling young woman on the inside...believe it, reach for it, and ACT LIKE IT! Positive energy brings positive people into our lives. And then and only then can good things happen. Good luck!

Answer 4

1st of all u r a really nice n lovely girl really i loved ur way of writing this down
u have 2 options
1st to tell him tell tht u still into him and u still want him n u love him n u want him back n u can dp wt ever it takes 2 be wth him

2nd don't talk n stay as u r n find another man 2 share wth ur life n 2 forget abt him but i prefare the 1st option coz u have nothing to lose good luck i wish u really good luck n plz tell me wt u will do and wt happend ok ? contact me back i will keep waiting

god with u

Answer 5

Wow after 7 months that's a long time to still pine for someone. Have you tried getting back into the dating game?