We wont be getting married for another two years And the way money is right now could be more. What should I do??? Serious answers, no drugs or anything like that!
2007-04-05 09:22:53 · 32 answers · asked by DJ C 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I Applaud you for practicing abstinence. This is wonderful. This time allows you to get to know your fiancee with the distraction of sex and the concerns it can bring to a new relationship When you are troubled about arousal remember why you decided to take this vow of purity.It obviously is a priority of the both of you. Also, this is a wonderful chance for you to start one of the most important exercise of your marriage COMMUNICATION. Talk with her about your feelings, she may be feeling similar and have found a way to victoriously deal with them and would loved to share it with you. You may want to re-evaluate your time you are spending face to face with each other this can put fuel to feelings and desires. If finances is the only reason for you to wait until marriage consider going to your pastor or City Hall in your city and having a simple ceremony with plans to have a more elaborate anniversary celebration
2007-04-05 10:04:01 · answer #1 · answered by CURIOUS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. If you don't feel that you can wait two years, TELL HER.
I don't understand the two-year waiting thing. If you guys know you want to get married, then get married! If your fiance has some idea of waiting until the finances are right or you can afford some three-ring circus marriage ceremony, then you need to sit down and have a serious talk about priorities.
My husband and I married when I was still in grad school. We had a ton of school loan debt between us, zero savings, I didn't have a job, and we were living in different states at the time. We knew we wanted to get married, so we went to the justice of the peace and got hitched. That was 29 years ago and things have worked out fine.
Talk to you fiance. If you cannot talk to her, directly and without fear or anxiety, then maybe you two need to rethink the whole marriage thing.
2007-04-05 09:50:11 · answer #2 · answered by Karin C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long engagements in this society are very hard. It wasn't made to be this way - people got married young and for life. Marriage was a commitment supported by the whole community. Sex was and is supposed to be for marriage. Why are you waiting to marry? Money isn't that important. People live in tents, in tiny houses, etc. Are you waiting to pay for a big wedding? Weddings are fantasies, not reality. If you love each other and are having trouble waiting, get married. And stay together.
God says so.
But if it's just about the sex, then stop seeing each other, especially alone and in hot situations. Get busy on something else.
2007-04-05 09:34:10 · answer #3 · answered by mom of 5 in CA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, try to propose to your finance a smaller wedding so that the date can be moved sooner. Try your best to hold your emotions and you can still let them loose with out having sex. You can have distractions like a really fun time or continue to push to your wife a sooner wedding day. The size of the wedding does not matter, only the fact that you got married, but you do want to have family and friends there.
2007-04-05 09:30:20 · answer #4 · answered by The Dominican 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is more to a relationship than sex. It is nice that she wants to be a virgin when you get married. There are so many people out there who sleep around and God only knows what diseases they bring to the bedroom. Your wedding night will definitely be a night to remember! There are a lot of other things you can do to show affection. Try rubbing, cuddling, going to the underwear line...then go finish it off in the shower...LOL.
2007-04-05 09:31:46 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Trying♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are some options:
1. Are you right or left handed?
2. Are you willing to seek a proffesional?
3. Can you abstain for 2 years?
Other than those, it is hard to think of a viable option.
2007-04-05 10:55:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gotta wonder why your engagement is so long. But basically all you can do is wait. You can try from time to time to change your fiance's mind. Either not to wait till marriage, or to get married sooner. But don't push so hard that it becomes an issue.
2007-04-05 09:29:20 · answer #7 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are a guy then that is what the hand is for!
If you are a lady then just stay faithful and masturbate.
Really when most people are waiting until marriage it usually is the whole sha-bang like intercourse maybe they would be okay with oral sex etc. Be creative just a thought?
2007-04-05 09:32:24 · answer #8 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait ? Not me. That will get you heart ache. What if she can't do anything right in the sack? Take her for a test ride or call it off. Virtue is overrated. We are animals. She will cheat on you after marriage just out of curiosity. I don't know if you are a guy or chick, but its all the same.
2007-04-05 09:56:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are more things in life than sex. Go play basketball, wash your car, jog, take a hike. Maybe get a second job to help pay for the things you'll need. Keep busy and you won't be obsessing on sex so frequently.
2007-04-05 09:26:59 · answer #10 · answered by Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋