Marriage & Divorce - 29 October 2006

Get involved? Stay out of it?

2006-10-29 14:48:58 · 8 answers · asked by dousnow2003 1

Me and my lady broke up becuase we can't deal with each other any longer.Now that the drama is gone, I uern to have someone around and I feel lonly.It hurts me to think that shes with another man and every time she calls she sounds like shes doing just fine without me.But me, I feel hurt in side and I gave up every thing for her even my friends just becuase I realy felt thats all I needed (a famaly).If you broke up with a loved one how long did it take to find someone new or did you just stay single to enjoy the freedom?

2006-10-29 14:45:57 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husbands best friend got married,and they also work together my husband is a manager well at the wedding this woman I had never met before,came over and sat with my husband and I well my husband knew her and introduce me to her. well to make along story short after the wedding she grab my husband arm and walked out of the church with him, at the party after the wedding she held on to him like she was his wife,i called him to the side and ask him what was going on? he said oh she a manager over food and bev/we are just friends at work.bull s*** i said we went back inside and hear she comes and grab his arm and said i got us a table. well i grab this b*****. and told her that I would stomp her a** like a mud hole told to stay away from my husband if she wanted to live,well believe me she went her way, he told me i was wrong for doing that. and was ready to leave. i feel like he they did this in front of me what do they do behind my back, he said nothing .i say he having a affair

2006-10-29 14:43:56 · 23 answers · asked by gucci 1

Mature answers from married folks only, please.

It seems like there are so many marriages where people go outside of the bounds of their marriage for intimacy (closeness, sexual fulfillment, etc) when their marriage provides none, rather than doing the hard work of communicating with their spouse and working through their problems, and then go on with their relationship like it's life as normal. Does anyone have any thoughts on why that is so? Why is it so hard for some people to work on their marriages, or just end them in the light of difficulties, and they instead would rather trample on their wedding vows?

What I'm looking for is well thought out comments and ideas, not "I'd never do that" or "I can't imagine anyone doing that". It happens, frequently. So why?

2006-10-29 14:43:56 · 12 answers · asked by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5

I have been "living with" my duaghter's father for 4 months now. WAIT!!! we are not in a relationship. However, we have a child in common and I take care of us; including another child he has had after my daughter, for the entire time that we have lived here. I need to find an apt, and move on in terms of relationships, and whenever it smentioned, he kind of makes me feel as though he has no issues with the way things are. 1 week after moving in we stared having sex somewhat regularly, but we still slepp in separate quarters. is is wrong to date while living here even though we have since stopped having sex? is this something work talking tohim about considering this is NOT a relationship? how do i just move when I am carrying the weight of the household on my shoulders?

2006-10-29 14:42:43 · 7 answers · asked by kcrobinson03 2

2006-10-29 14:31:28 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have been married for 10 years now, and i can't recall a single time that he has put me or our relationship first in anyway. When i asked him to stop speaking to a particular female because it made me uncomfortabe, he said no. that he wasn't doing anything wrong and that i was being selfish for asking him to give up a friend. (mind you he has only known her for a little under a month) they talk on the phone at obscene hours of the night.. and they are always on messenger together. please help.

2006-10-29 14:31:22 · 19 answers · asked by beckdawgydawg 4

2006-10-29 14:30:41 · 5 answers · asked by Trong n 1

I used to be really into that stuff, and it caused problems between my wife and I, because I expected her to be like the women in the videos and magazines. And it caused alot of hurt and resentment towards me in her.

And I'm just curious what you all feel about it.

Take care and God Bless

2006-10-29 14:27:04 · 31 answers · asked by Bryan M 5

2006-10-29 14:14:33 · 13 answers · asked by desperate 1

2006-10-29 14:12:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-29 14:09:26 · 27 answers · asked by myzztickah 1

2006-10-29 14:06:02 · 17 answers · asked by jadelee0857 1

If u have been married for almost 9 years, seperated for about 5 years.....still no divorce, and he doesn't wanna talk about it, we went to court and all that is stopping the big d is him turning in his counsling papers...We have both seen other people and i have a 2 year old by someone else......what is he thinking???

2006-10-29 14:03:39 · 7 answers · asked by Dianna 4

We have lost respect for eachother , and we are becoming hateful and biter- What a waste of an eternal love...

2006-10-29 13:58:51 · 18 answers · asked by pinkrock 1

2006-10-29 13:58:48 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband slept with my cousin...but its ok....and now i dont want to sleep with him...but yes my mind is with someone....what can i do....and just cuz of that my husband told me that i am committing a sin...so plz help me..and tell me if he is rt or wron...

2006-10-29 13:53:47 · 43 answers · asked by sweet me 1

Is it true that you have to forgive or let go of your anger before you can move forward? I have been seperated for over 1 year. I hate my spouse with a serious passion and would never take him back. But the thought on being with another man is so scary and foreign. HELP!!

2006-10-29 13:53:00 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-29 13:50:17 · 23 answers · asked by snow 1

2006-10-29 13:45:04 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 28 and have never gotten married. I dont even have a boyfriend yet. I worry that I will get married to late and then miss the chance of having kids.
When will I find the one. Did I miss the boat?

2006-10-29 13:30:46 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

To make a long story short, my husband has a history of lying and emotional affairs.

We dated for only a few months and right before we got married (about 2 years ago), he "came out" with many things he had been lying about in his past. He has been to a ton of counseling because of these problems. I believe he would not cheat on me and he has changed for the better.

The problem is, he still cannot be honest with me about issues with other women. For example, if he noticed an attractive woman on the street, he would swear up and down he saw no one.

I believe relationships work only if based in honesty.
My feeling is he needs to be totally honest with me. I will be totally honest with him, as I have nothing to hide.

My feeling is if he can't talk openly about other women, what am I headed for? I am concerned about what else will he hide that is similar to his past emotional affairs, etc?

Opinions much appreciated!

2006-10-29 13:17:04 · 21 answers · asked by lulu 2

I am only 22 and have had over 50 boyfriends. I am tried of going through men and I want to get married and have kids. Any advice?

2006-10-29 13:10:56 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

My spouse sees the negative in everything. If he gets to sleep in, he complains he wasted the day. If he has a day off, he complains that he has to work the next day. When I have a stressful work situation, he voluntarily takes on a big project so HE can complain and doesn't have to help me out. He has no real reason to complain about life: he has good health, healthy kids, a job that pays well. Granted he DOES hate his job, but he enjoys the money it brings and therefore will not quit it (though I tell him he should). I get sick of his bad attitude! Any advice? (He's been to therapists and he insists he's not depressed, that he just hates his job. He won't take meds.)

2006-10-29 13:08:59 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-29 13:04:59 · 29 answers · asked by goldware 1

2006-10-29 13:04:03 · 10 answers · asked by Pop 1

We live in Arkansas, my son is 11 right now but will be 12 on Dec. 16th of 2006 and we would like to know what age and what we would have to do for him to live with me instead of his mother. Thank you

2006-10-29 13:02:25 · 7 answers · asked by terry m 1

Many years ago I had a gfr I wanted to marry. She was older than me 4 years. I had no money at all at the time and I moved to another country. I did not know the language of that country, I did not have friends or relatives there.I was alone there. It was she who advised me on moving there. But when I started to live there she refused to help me with money. I was desperately looking for a job but could not find it because I did not know the language yet. She kept saying me that I should find a job and she will not help me with money. I started starving I did not have money to pay for rent. I did some money but that was not enough. Thanks God in four months I found a job but our relationship came to an end. My question to women, why did she do that to me? I thought that she was jealous and feared that I could find a girlfriend and not marry her. These are my thoughts but I am not sure. What do you think?

2006-10-29 13:02:08 · 6 answers · asked by truli u 1

Is it normal to want to want to talk to the other woman? I found out that my husband was cheating on me. He doesnt want to give me any answers that I feel are necessary for me to feel that I am doing the right thing, and for closure. I have sent her e-mails, and called, but she always has an excuse. They both say nothing happened, but I have enough proof to show me that something did. Is this normal to want to know?

2006-10-29 13:01:36 · 18 answers · asked by crzyfiregirls 2

My life is a mess. My husband is ill and has been for 10 of our 11 years of marriage. We haven't had physical intimacy in many years. He has been unable to work for years, so I am responsible for the family income. All I have is a grouchy roommate and endless caregiving tasks. He does not take care of his health, is grossly overweight, and has a mean streak.

I have children from previous relationship that he has adopted. If I were to leave my teenage daughter wants to stay with him. In essense she would become his caregiver and I would be the bad gal for leaving him. Also, I would be totally wiped out financially - the courts would give him everything and I would probably have to pay alimony. In truth, it would really mess him up financially too. On top of that he would lose medical insurance coverage that he gets through my work.

What the heck is one supposed to do in this situation???

2006-10-29 12:57:11 · 19 answers · asked by BlueEyedWoman000 2