Marriage & Divorce - 29 October 2006

Okay, we all know people of both genders who are our age can be tired, stressed, have variations in their level of sexual desire. But is it normal for a man to say his marriage is great but almost never want to have sex, like once every couple of months, and when the wife initiates or asks about increasing the frequency, he takes the stand that sex just isn't important to him any more? Am I mistaken to think many men like, want, and try to have sex well past 40? Don't guys these ages, er, have occasional glitches, but can usually perform, and if not, they would try again soon, and/or get help? Don't a lot of guys in their 40s, 50s, sixties still want sex "often", say, usu. a couple times a week or more? My guy basically just quit our sex life altogether. He is 51, I am 46. No sex for almost two years. :-(

2006-10-29 08:33:43 · 9 answers · asked by catintrepid 5

My husband has been acting weird, and whenever i ask him what the problem is, he just says that he only wants some time alone, what's going on?

2006-10-29 08:33:24 · 12 answers · asked by La Morena 2

My husband is in charge of my home. He's a minor hoarder and loves to bring anything home that's free. He's not physically abusive but I feel emotionally abused when he doesn't care what I want. He feels bad and gets affectionate but nothing changes. I can't fight about it anymore. I just want to live alone, but how can I do that when I'm all he has? What's wrong with me when I let his life be more important than mine? That's how it's always been. We've been together almost 30 years, and I'm so torn. What can I do?

2006-10-29 08:32:33 · 7 answers · asked by nobackbone 1

after having a private arrangement for paying maintenance for 3 years,my expartner has got the csa involved,and she has stopped me from seeing the children,and the amount they are asking for each month would put me into debt,after already paying debts from when i was still with the ex,is there anything i can do as it is putting severe pressure on my new relationship?and putting me under more stress.

2006-10-29 08:11:15 · 26 answers · asked by wayno1 2

I have dated the same guy for the last 5 years. Today he came to my house and along with my sister in law, who was visiting at the same time, read my newspaper and left it all over the living room floor. I hadnt even seen it yet.
He gets his own newspaper at his own home, but his 28 yr old son who still lives at home reads it upstairs in his room and so my boyfriend has to come to my house to see my newspaper and disrupt my routine.
He asked me if I wanted to go out to eat later, and then proceeded to go into my bedroom for a 1/2 hour nap. That was 2 or 3 hours ago. He slept while I cleaned my own storm windows and put them back up. I just got thru assembling the paper he left spread all over the place.
I think when you are reading your girlfriends newspaper, sleeping in her bed, drinking her iced tea and making yourself at home, its time for a marriage proposal.
What to do? He will not throw his grown kids out and he stays here to get away from them.

2006-10-29 08:07:59 · 6 answers · asked by happydawg 6

Have you ever heard or seen broken up couples coming back together after breaking up for more than 2 years? And if they come back together,is there any hope or chance the relationship survive?

2006-10-29 08:02:12 · 12 answers · asked by devout_kindhonest 1

my parents have been getting divorced for over a year now, and they just can't seem to work things out. it is very distressing when my mom (who walked out on my dad) comes around he house because it is still technically hers. i am in colleg now, and i worry for the mental health of my two younger siblins, ages 16 and 14. i do not want them to grow up in a confusing and rocky marital environment. i just want them to settle the divorce and be done with it. how do i convey that to them? and also how do i try to not worry about it when i am away at school?

2006-10-29 07:53:17 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

surely if we are under grace then wer are not condemed?/

2006-10-29 07:51:07 · 24 answers · asked by Trying 2

I have been married for 3 yrs and have a 2 yr old. We fight constantly and last year I had an affair. He has proof of my affair through emails. He was on probation for felony DWI's and has now paid that off with our tax return so he can drink again. He is a non-compliant diabetic and has periods of highs and lows where he is confused and disoriented (not a situation for a 2 yr old to have to deal with). I don't leave her alone with him unless I absolutely have to and fear that if I do go through with custody that he will be granted time with her and he will have an episode when she is alone with him. He is drinking often now and I have suspisions that he is having an affair, but no proof. I want to move to Florida where my family is but am not sure that i can do that without the possibility of loosing my child. She is all I have and I want her to be safe, and safe is with me. What would happen if we just left and moved to Florida? Could they take her away from me? We live in NY.

2006-10-29 07:50:48 · 10 answers · asked by kristin 1

I had a breakdown 3 days after my father died. ex says I was just making excuses; I was in 3 hospitals. I was served divorce papers while in the psych unit. He knew I had a illness before we dated, married. That is why this is so very painful. I stood by him when he was ill.
It has been heartbreaking for me to get over. He did not stand beside me, just shut me out, now will not talk to me. I has been 10 months since the divorce was final. But, 20 months since this started.


The main issue now is that he has custody of my son. I have no visitation, due to not being able to afford a lawyer or be present in court. The judge gave him everything.

The bad side is I still love him.
Although, now I see he is liar, thief, user, mean, cruel idiot.
I have not been in counseling yet. I have hard days.
I know I need a lawyer too.

How do I get over him?
How do I regain my independence?
How do I get to see my son without dealing with ex?
Any suggestion

2006-10-29 07:44:50 · 7 answers · asked by strong1 3

1) Why do women say that men are bad at communicating in relationships, yet they are the ones who don't communicate. Example- Guys hear this alot from the ladies:"I shouldn't have to tell you. If you really loved me, you would already know" (sound familiar?)

2006-10-29 07:38:58 · 14 answers · asked by chuck3011 3

i can not lieve without him.

2006-10-29 07:35:28 · 20 answers · asked by badu 1

2006-10-29 07:31:27 · 7 answers · asked by hrmom02 2

Wat way is a good punishment. Silent treatment is too difficult, and i think he enjoys it!?

2006-10-29 07:30:31 · 18 answers · asked by Lady 2

who can i turn to for help

2006-10-29 07:27:18 · 33 answers · asked by dentonblinds 3

or is 32 yrs old not considered young anymore?

2006-10-29 07:26:46 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I want another baby but theres a catch?!!?
Please dont respond if your going to say i' horrible or something to that sort i need real advise or ideas.
I have been married for 8 years my husband and i have 2 children together.
He is 30 and i'm 29 i really want to have another baby he doesnt as i suffered postnatal depression with both of my other 2 children, but feel really good this time hense the planning this time to get pregnant
anyway, I need some ideas on how to trick him into giving up his bad boys when i'm ovulating as he has mapped out my cycle so he wont mess up as it where.
All ideas would be good cause i know once i was to get pregnant he might be mad a first but he would come round and i know he would love the baby.
So any ideas on how to trick him please let me know.

2006-10-29 07:21:47 · 16 answers · asked by La diva R 2

2006-10-29 07:17:07 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

We live in different states. She wants to stay here with her dad and us. Her mom wants her to return with her and her family. "Tara" is 13 and type 1 diabetic. We've got her blood sugar under control. Her mom won't send medical records. How do we get to keep her?

2006-10-29 07:11:14 · 11 answers · asked by southernbelle966 1

xgf raised in divorce home (ie parents took 10 long years to go thru divorce. xgf knows all the games, especially 'you cheated' chant. Won't allow my son any visitation--she says he can visit, but they never happen. Tells me I have no rights a grandparent, claims I was rude (I disagreed with her version), so we haven't seen gndson in 2 years.
My son is poor and hasn't gone thru family court yet. Child support takes much of his income.

2006-10-29 07:08:02 · 9 answers · asked by realjustice 2

If i happen to kiss or fondle the guy my wife brings to bed with us?I get worked up,and in the heat of passion things happen,but i would never do it just one on one.Am i gay?

2006-10-29 07:05:02 · 22 answers · asked by No Name Joe 1

I smelled weed off his breath and when i asked him if he smoked weed (which i am very against and he knows this) he said no. I told him i'm going to ask him again, and i want the truth this time, he still said no it was just a cigarette. He kept saying no, i kept telling him stop lying and i turned off the t.v and said do you promise. He said YES! Then i said do you promise on my life, and he said No, sorry i cant do that. Then he was like, oh it was just a little bit blah blah blah. But how can i ever trust him again for lying blatantly in my face???

2006-10-29 07:00:57 · 14 answers · asked by Lady 2

We have been living together for 8 years.
We've had our good & bad times, but know matter what I do now day's , he is putting me down on it, either I cook dinner, and bake a cake, their is alway's something wronge with it.
I need your best help you can give me, please help.!

2006-10-29 07:00:51 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

And when she packs and takes all her clothes, even stuff she hasn't worn in four years, but says if she was leaving me she'd take all of her decorations, what does that mean?

2006-10-29 06:59:09 · 22 answers · asked by Adan M 1

I am 21 first of all. Second I know he wants to get married. He asked for my ring size and he said he wants to prove he loves me. I just dont wanna rush in to something like marriage. We both love each other a lot.

2006-10-29 06:56:41 · 13 answers · asked by bluejayde101 1

2006-10-29 06:54:26 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-29 06:49:19 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have been together for a year and half now. I want to get married but I dont want to rush anything. I love him a lot.

2006-10-29 06:47:43 · 15 answers · asked by bluejayde101 1

yeah, its a small head on a large phallus is what it is, the thing is a monster

2006-10-29 06:47:10 · 14 answers · asked by coach mora 1

Apparently, my girlfriend for almost a year now, still cannot fully trust me and still thinks I'm going to cheat on her eventually, her words! My question is, is it wrong for her to come out and say that its either Myspace or Her? And if so, what should I do about this whole situation?

2006-10-29 06:39:06 · 11 answers · asked by Joseph B 2