I smelled weed off his breath and when i asked him if he smoked weed (which i am very against and he knows this) he said no. I told him i'm going to ask him again, and i want the truth this time, he still said no it was just a cigarette. He kept saying no, i kept telling him stop lying and i turned off the t.v and said do you promise. He said YES! Then i said do you promise on my life, and he said No, sorry i cant do that. Then he was like, oh it was just a little bit blah blah blah. But how can i ever trust him again for lying blatantly in my face???
2006-10-29 07:00:57 · 14 answers · asked by Lady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Uptight? Nah unfortunately theres alot more to it than that. Trust me, if it was just a problem with him having a puff now and again, it wud be fine. We both used to dabble alot in drugs, and i used to work the sales if ya know wat i mean, so we both aggreed that chapter was over, thats why im so strongly against him smoking, and his behaviour gets aggressive. But its the lying that bothers me more i think... but maybe it is my fault too for giving him such a hard time if he's honest to me about smoking.
2006-10-29 07:14:01 · update #1
ask him if you too can talk about this issue, and be honest with him and just tell him how the whole thing made/make you feel
2006-10-29 07:06:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Presumably if you were into sales you may well have been a coke head, I can only imagine what you were like, If your husband is smoking weed and denying it, this can only mean that he fears the result of telling you, and would rather lie than have you moaning in his ear.
Leave the poor bloke alone,let him smoke a joint now and then.
If you have every smoked it before you will understand the reasons behind his answer. I cant think of anything worse than some one giving me a lecture on whats right and wrong when im stoned.
(my father always told me if you can see trouble steer away from it)
Look at it this way , he obviously cares about you to try and avoid an argument.
I bet you still havent forgotten it. You only live once so try and see things through his eyes too.
Maybe you could have a joint together and tell each other how much you love one another.
2006-10-30 01:18:38 · answer #2 · answered by Drunvalo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First remember he is an adult and if you push him it may result in something that you don't want. You need to tell him that he is an adult and his choices are his own. If you make his decisions for him this could drive him away. All you can do is let him know how you feel about smoking. You can't change someone all you can do is change yourself and your situation. Good luck
2006-10-29 07:04:14 · answer #3 · answered by elainecynthia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you mite also ask yourself, what else has he lied about..
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2006-10-29 07:09:31 · answer #4 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't, if he woud lie so easily to your face, there is a problem. find out if there is more then just marajuana involved...i would look into this a little further,,,see who he is hanging out with, these kind of things...good luck.
p.s. i do not agree with the other comments, yes he is an adult, but he is also your partner..and should be honest with you about everything, nothing good comes of lies
2006-10-29 07:06:07 · answer #5 · answered by donttalkjustplay05 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, answer this why are you treating him like a child that has to answer to his parents? I agree with you on the drugs but come on he is grown. Instead of brow beating him let him know your stance on drugs and tell him it is a deal breaker and that he has to choose you or drugs. You will know by his attitude what his choice is.
2006-10-29 07:05:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a relationship that your hubby feels like he cant tell you the truth, and that is bad. if thats who he is a weed smoker then you cant change, sounds like you are very uptight, you need a hit, remember puff puff pass
2006-10-29 07:04:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can choose to forgive & "trust" he won't do it again. Or you can tell him if he doesn't stop you'll find where he's getting it and using it, & turn him & his friends in to the cops. That should scare the c**p out of him.
If not, leave. Don't tie yourself to a pothead loser.
2006-10-29 07:09:15 · answer #8 · answered by grrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its really not that bad he probably new that you would be very angry if he told u id sit him down and have a chat with him but chill out its only a bit of weed it could be worse he could be having an affair good luck x
2006-10-29 07:07:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends, if you had something major like I have then you might think this is minor. He didn't want to tell you the truth because he just didn't want to. You have to decide if this is worth your ending the relationship.
2006-10-29 07:06:32 · answer #10 · answered by honeybee4u2c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋