We have been living together for 8 years.
We've had our good & bad times, but know matter what I do now day's , he is putting me down on it, either I cook dinner, and bake a cake, their is alway's something wronge with it.
I need your best help you can give me, please help.!
2006-10-29 07:00:51 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
im sorry, but it sounds like you got an asshole. there isnt much you can do. those assholes out there just love to ruin it for us guys that wouldnt dream of doing something like that. all you can do is give him a ultimatum. tell him if he puts down your cooking, you wont cook. if he puts down your cleaning, you wont do it. make him realize how much work you do and then make him realize how much he doesnt want to do it and should appreciate that he has you to do it.
2006-10-29 07:03:52 · answer #1 · answered by cr4is2py0 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Oakie
It's easy for men to slip into a trap where they criticise stuff. I guess it builds their ego somewhat.
Look, dun fret over it. He probably doesn't realise this himself or that he's hurting your feelings. Men can be quite thick skinned sometimes.
Anyways it's great you've been together for 8yrs. Why not try some subtle hints to let him know you dun appreciate his comments? E.g. "Why don't you try it?", "Let's see you do it next time".
If he still doesn't bite, which he probably won't seeing as how men have thick cranal structures, sit him down one night... with the right atmosphere, soft music, some wine and dim lights and just tell him frankly how you feel.
Don't make it a put down, trashing down session, remember to also tell him what you appreciate about him.
2006-10-30 00:29:43 · answer #2 · answered by Hang Tough 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should re-phrase your question to why is your man so mean. Not all men are like that. A relationship is two selfish people living together. Your man has obviously forgotten how to treat a lady. if your not married i would definitely move out and if you guys want to work it out seek some pre-marriage counseling.
Preferably christian counseling. Theres much to be said in the new testament on how a man should treat his wife.
2006-10-29 15:11:33 · answer #3 · answered by cruizer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly believe he is trying to tell you that your relationship is over. After 8 years you guys have become a habit to each other but if your getting on his nerves for no reason then you need to sit him down and lay everything on the table! After 8 years it won't be easy but you don't deserve to be put down for nothing. He's trying tp push you away...call his bluff before you really get hurt. Good Luck.
2006-10-29 15:05:13 · answer #4 · answered by Harleygal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-29 15:07:32 · answer #5 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all men are mean.....
let us compare before and after... before you and him are together.. did he treat u this way?... along the way.. is he like that?
perhaps talking will help.. did he has any stress in jobs or financial pressure?
8 years is a long time.. u should have know him somehow or rather... get a right situation and have a good talk....
2006-10-29 20:08:46 · answer #6 · answered by alfahomme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to pull him up on this. Say to him, no matter what I do for you, it is not good enough. Now what is going on? Can we make this relationship work? What do you want from me? See if you can get him to open up. Communications is the key to a good relationship! Now you need to be prepared, no telling what he is going to say.
2006-10-29 15:07:28 · answer #7 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
living together as in co-inhibiting? seems no personal commitments there.
company needs has more or less run out and not looking for companionship? and looking for greener pastures!
thats the risk of being in a relationship?
2006-10-29 19:01:29 · answer #8 · answered by dream_drifter05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up and smell the baked goods! It's over. He's not in love with you any more. Time to pack your pots and pans and find a more appreciative mouth to feed.
2006-10-29 15:06:51 · answer #9 · answered by OU812 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know exactly wat you mean, men ARE so mean! My husband was starting to get like that couldnt figure out why, i think it was his way of being affectionate, we were going through a rough patch so he may of felt uncomfortable being nice, so being mean was his way of getting my attention.
I ended up telling him how i felt and he stopped and started to be nice again. Until he lied to me 20 minutes ago :-(
2006-10-29 15:06:46 · answer #10 · answered by Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋