Wat way is a good punishment. Silent treatment is too difficult, and i think he enjoys it!?
2006-10-29 07:30:31 · 18 answers · asked by Lady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have lied to my wife. It has alway been about trivial things but it is still a breach of trust. My problem was a result of my fear of confrontation. I was afraidto make my wife mad so I lied. I admitted that I had a problem and we have worked on it together. I would sugest confronting him in a polite way and tell him how it affects you . If he is a good man and cared about his relatinship he will get help. Live is so much better lived honestley
2006-10-29 07:37:16 · answer #1 · answered by odoyal4912 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok, from what I understand you're 25 and he's 36. You've been married a year and you are originally from England.
Hon, you've got to back off the man. I'm sure his sex drive and good will will return after he begins to regain his manhood and some self-respect.
You cannot manipulate his behavior. He is an adult. He will do whatever he wants to do. You can't punish an adult man.
He married you in good faith. He needs companionship and emotional support. Why did you marry him?
Start focusing on the day to day responsiblities you have. Greet him as if you are happy to see him. Be his friend. Fall back on that core friendship. Don't bring up subjects that cause misery. Try to have some fun with him. Work as his partner, not his nemisis.
Show him that he was not wrong to chose you as a wife. Trust that he can make right decisions. And then, hon, just let him be.
2006-10-29 08:02:11 · answer #2 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no longer one subject which you're able to do to rebuild your courting with that liar of a husband you have. i understand first hand from a prior courting the place an ex-spouse became a basic liar. She lied approximately something and each thing. Stuff that did no longer even remember like little stuff to significant issues that mattered a great deal. She became compulsive and by no potential stopped. I too felt like a police officer in direction of her. I talked in great depths to a counselor approximately my ex and her habit. i became instructed that that's a ailment and not treatable. i've got self belief undesirable for all and sundry who is going by using what I did with this gal. So i'd advise which you talk divorce to keep your self a great style of grief and issues. you will by no potential lower back sleep properly or stop questioning approximately what lies you're listening to. Sorry yet it is the way it is going to likely be for you. you will in all probability no longer do something precise now at the same time with a divorce yet at last you're able to have adequate of his rubbish and desire out. (smile)
2016-10-03 02:11:07 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET COUNSELING!!!! If you don't care that he is a liar, then you deserve to be lied to. You can't punish someone for something you let him get a way with. You need to rethink your situation and do some serious changing. I would not and do not know anyone who would let that go on. No matter what the lie is. Honesty is so precious and is to be expected and deserved in a marriage. Are you honest with him, expect the same. Punishing him is not enough to get him to stop. Good Luck:)
2006-10-29 07:37:29 · answer #4 · answered by stuffy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His punishment will come with everything he does or says.
He'll never be believed. And in turn he'll have a hard time believing anybody else. He'll see everyone as he is, not how they are! A Liar!
But why would you want to stick around and be part of his punishment????
2006-10-29 07:36:24 · answer #5 · answered by MedicineWoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Silent treatment does not work it only makes things worse. You need to communicate with him not argue. Maybe counseling will be great for you 2
2006-10-29 07:39:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
see the silent thing works around here, my family cant stand when i dont talk, cause that means no cooking no cleaning no nothing, if you get me. men lie cause they are afraid of us, then again my husband grew up around it, me too but i dont lie like that. white lies are fine, to avoid hurting someones feelings, lies in a marriage can kill you or make you sick, like me, believe it or not we turned our life over to God, go to church, and count my blessings and our life is so much better, and he dont lie no more, granted we still have problems, but we just get closer to the lord, and we love each other more, so good luck and if things dont change for you soon go on with life cause this goes no where good, God bless you and your family
2006-10-29 07:41:29 · answer #7 · answered by pammy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're NOT going to divorce him, then you're accepting him....lies and all. If you only want to punish him, that's not the makings of a good relationship. Accept him for who, and what he is, or move on. Revenge is never sweet!
2006-10-29 07:34:46 · answer #8 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not enough information to give a conclusive answer. If he is cheating, confront him. If he is sneaking food while on a diet, overlook it. If he is staying out with the boys, then start staying out with the girls. Most couples that truly enjoy each others company, don't have secrets.
2006-10-29 07:47:19 · answer #9 · answered by noisychatterbox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well. you know once a cheat always a cheat. I guarantee it may not be his first and more than likely it want be his last. If you don't mind putting up with him getting some here and there, kiss him and tell him, "THAT'S ALRIGHT Sweetheart JUST DON"T DO IT AGAIN, BALONEY
2006-10-29 07:54:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋