Ladies, do you like it if your husband looks at porn? If not, how does it make you feel?

Question

I used to be really into that stuff, and it caused problems between my wife and I, because I expected her to be like the women in the videos and magazines. And it caused alot of hurt and resentment towards me in her.

And I'm just curious what you all feel about it.

Take care and God Bless

I don't look at porn anymore, mainly because of the problems that it had caused. And it's made a big difference for us, because I've been putting her and her feelings and needs before my own.

Hey Al, the reason that I said God Bless is because I've been going through marriage counceing with my wife and gone through counceling for a sexual addicion, the coucelor I've been seeing is a pastor in my church. But the main reason I said God Bless is because I've turned away from that garbage, and given my life to God, and he's blessed me because of it.

Answer 1

Personally, my husband was looking at internet porn while I was asleep, every Sunday morning and I was hurt. I think the sneaking was the biggest issue. When someone sneaks or lies, there is a reason. I think as women, we are so inundated with messages to be perfect that when this happens to us we can't help but take it personal. Yeah, some girls will say "who cares, don't be so jealous". It's not that. Just look at T.V. commercials, magazines and celebrities. The need to be perfect is overwhelming. I'm not an unattractive woman. I have a good figure, have been told I was very pretty and do not look my age. Still, when my husband was doing this I felt like he needed something I couldn't give him. However, we have watched porn together and had a great time. It's the sharing of the experience. When he watches with me, his attention is on me and I have no reason to worry. I had a friend a few years back whose husband had an all out obsession. It ruined their marriage. The more he got into it, the less she could satisfy him. So the bottom line is, I guess, it makes women feel like they are not good enough. I mean, who looks like the women in those movies? Who acts that nasty all the time? I think it is great that you want to know the female point of view.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Great the way you've managed to give it up.
Personally I don't think porn is harmless like so many other people have said - evidence shows that porn doesn't help people's relationships. How can a real person compete with those "perfect", plastic-surgeried, air-brushed images? And if a guy is thinking of those porn pictures when he's making love, how can that help the relationship. Also, the soft porn industry is just the tip of the iceberg. It's part of a huge industry that enslaves women, traffics young girls etc. So to any man that uses porn, I would say: give it up and concentrate all your sexual energies and fantasies on your wife/girlfriend. You'll be amazed how it will energise your relationship

Answer 4

No good to look at porn.
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Answer 5

I don't have a problem with my husband looking at porn. As long as our sex life is good, which it is, and he doesn't expect me to act or look like the women in the mags or video. I also don't expect him to preform like the men I watch. I think that a mutual liking for porn is a healthy part of our relationship. I'm sure that we'd give it up if it started to cause a problem. It sounds like you gave it up to better your marriage and that's all that matters. By the way, I've been married for 13 years.

Answer 6

Honestly I dont care what my husband watch the porn or subscribing the maxim magainze because sometimes thats good stuff to watch or read during my bowl movement. He works his *** off and relax at home ..doing whatever he wants.

I understand that some women doesnt handle when their bf or husband are watching porn.. sometimes we can learn through watching a porn stead of freaking out stuff lik that lol..

when I was in korea, I used to watch porn lol like white womem and a horse that was the greatest thing since sliced bread

Answer 7

I don't mind if my husband watches porn. Sometimes we'll watch it together. He was concerned about telling me when we first got together. My only problem would have been had he not told me about it and was being sneaky. We communicate well, so there's no reason for him to have to hide.

I understand how your wife would have been upset with the comparison. I don't expect my husband to have a six pack, he's got a keg. But he is incredibly sexy to me. We trust one another so we are free to be uninhibited; that freedom makes for an incredible sex life.

Answer 8

If he downloads a few vids on the web now and then...no big deal, but if it became a habit then I would get upset.

My hubby is not really into porn or strippers. It takes a lot more than that to get him going. We have one DVD that we like to watch together occasionally.

Answer 9

Hi Bryan....it;s me again. We have to stop meeting like this, Yes, My husband does watch porn every now and then. This is something that doesn't bother me. He never compares me to these women or ask me to do what they are doing.
See you on the flip side......Kathy

Answer 10

I know that my husband does and it doesn't bother me, as a matter of fact, we have watched them together and gotten ideas. However if I understand correctly you had a sexual addiction and i applaud you for getting help. Good luck and you seem like a good man because you realized the error of your ways and are doing what is necessary to make your marriage work. Keep it up!