2006-10-29 13:50:17 · 23 answers · asked by snow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because, that's his mother and no one wants to see the bad in their parents. So, try talking to her woman to woman. Your his wife now and she should respect that. Don't run to him with this problem, show him you can handle it.. And respect will grow for you, as well... Trust! Good Luck....:)
2006-10-29 13:55:15 · answer #1 · answered by denise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont really know why some men do that, but I to went thru that so I know what are you feeling. I think maybe its because they feel like the owe their mothers something, after all they had a mother before they had a wife. It hurts yes, but have you tried to talk to him and let him know how it makes you feel? Would you feel okay with talking to his mother, women to women? If so let her know in a nice way that you appreciate the fact that your husband has a mother but its causing problems in your marriage. Ask her why she feels the need to insult you? You married him, not him and his mother. Stand up for yourself, dont let her get the best of you. But you can be rude in a nice way. Some people would say he was a "momma's boy." Tell your husband if he wont defend you then you will, and you will in the best way you know how. Dont hold back. If he doesnt like that then you might want to think about counseling for you and him. Good luck and I hope I helped some. :o)
2006-10-29 22:13:33 · answer #2 · answered by still hoping 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in a situation a bit similar to this, but when my mom was saying things about my wife, I stood up to my mother and told her, That's my wife your insulting, and I'm married to her and happy, and if you can't deal with that, TOUGH, TOO BAD, get over it Mother. And in the end, because I stood up to my mom, she respected me for it, and my wife tried very hard to develop a good relationship with my mom, and today they get along really well.
2006-10-29 21:57:08 · answer #3 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, if that happened to me I would be extremely pissed off. No one can read your husband or mother's mind you need to talk to them and see what the problem is and tell your husband that he needs to stop being so close to his mom all of the time.
2006-10-29 21:52:24 · answer #4 · answered by thehereyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
gurl your husband is a acting like a momma's boy. He should always defend you, unless your wrong and she is right. If your right I'm sorry but i dont think he loves you that much b cause by taking his mommy's side he is disrespecting u, and if he loved you he wouldn't disrespect u he would stick up for you i also agree with the guy who said you should stop f king him for a while. but not to long cuz he might go to a ho to get wat he wants.
2006-10-29 22:05:49 · answer #5 · answered by Kay Kay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a mamma's boy not a grown up. She did it to him, it's really not his fault. Your screwed unless you can accept coming in second, it will never change. When momma makes their boys that attached there is nothing sharp enough to cut the chord.
Besides if he lets her insult you he is not a loving partner. So many women, and men for that matter, put up with so much crap. There are however people who have loving mature relationships, I would shoot for that.
2006-10-29 21:57:22 · answer #6 · answered by crct2004 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's pobably trying to keep the tension to a minimum. Not saying that its right. Monster in law situations can get very sticky for the both of you. It is his mother that you are talking about. She raised him, but he did put a ring on YOUR finger. That means comittment.
2006-10-29 21:54:50 · answer #7 · answered by dsgg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take the positive side of it. He loves you and your mother both but he feels he has good understanding with you and right over you and hence does this.Hey lady understand Men. They are very simple . They donot have hidden agendas. Once yoy know them they are all yours.
2006-10-29 21:54:55 · answer #8 · answered by pearl155 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's no good. Yes, why does he do that? Its so annoying. Shows no respect to you, maybe that's why his mother is disrespecting you too. He's in denial and don't want to face up and deal with family issues.
2006-10-29 21:56:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She should not insult you unless you are a very bad person. If you are a decent person your hubby needs to stick up for you. You are # 1, not mommy.
2006-10-29 21:53:52 · answer #10 · answered by kam_1261 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋