Many years ago I had a gfr I wanted to marry. She was older than me 4 years. I had no money at all at the time and I moved to another country. I did not know the language of that country, I did not have friends or relatives there.I was alone there. It was she who advised me on moving there. But when I started to live there she refused to help me with money. I was desperately looking for a job but could not find it because I did not know the language yet. She kept saying me that I should find a job and she will not help me with money. I started starving I did not have money to pay for rent. I did some money but that was not enough. Thanks God in four months I found a job but our relationship came to an end. My question to women, why did she do that to me? I thought that she was jealous and feared that I could find a girlfriend and not marry her. These are my thoughts but I am not sure. What do you think?
2006-10-29 13:02:08 · 6 answers · asked by truli u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well i did not ask her for money till I really started to have problems with paying rent and buying food. I had no one except her who could give me money at the time. What you think was I sopposed to do maybe to steal money from someone?
2006-10-29 13:12:41 · update #1
What I cannot get is why people can be so mean sometimes so that not to help their friends when they are in a difficult situation?.
2006-10-29 13:16:12 · update #2
No I did not have a wife at the time I was going to marry that girl and I did not dumped bc of that there were other reasons why I did not want to marry her but this played its role too in my decision
2006-10-29 13:25:43 · update #3
I moved there bc we hoped that I would find a job that was risky but still we came both to the decision. We were wrong I know. That was our mistake. But when I found the job I started to get good money so now I cannot say that that was a mistake but back then we thought so
2006-10-29 13:55:19 · update #4
Stay away from her she is selfish and only think about herself. She is not good for you. Find another woman. Don't you dare marry her, you'll have a miserable life for life.
2006-10-29 13:16:01 · answer #1 · answered by Cindy R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So she wanted you to move there and you did...why? Why would you do that if you didn't have a job lined up, why would you do that if you couldn't speak the language? I'm thinking you were probably fairly young at the time? I believe she should have helped you out a bit. But if you started taking advantage of her help she should have stopped helping you. My ex decided to move from Florida back to Chicago. Most of his family is in Florida, he had nothing but bad memories in Chicago (from what he told me) I supported him for 3 months. He would tell me that he couldn't find a job because of his past. I finally got sick of it all and we broke up. Now he's living on the streets of Chicago. Which was his choice to do. I don't feel sorry for him at all.
2006-10-29 21:40:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like my ex. He decides to move to another country and called me only to ask for money because he didn't have a job, he was starving, no roof over his head. Needless to say he was with his estranged wife and living with her and lied to me. I think I can fully understand why your girlfriend didn't want to take care of you. You made the decision to move, not her. You dumped her because she didn't send money? I better stop here because you might hear from me what I wanted to tell my ex but was unable to. She owes you nothing. Sound harsh? Welcome to the real world.
2006-10-29 21:21:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you think your girlfriend should give you money? I don't get this. If some guy I was dating moved to another country and then asked me for money I would dump him too. It sounds to me like you were trying to take advantage of her.
2006-10-29 21:06:41 · answer #4 · answered by Pat D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well , she should have helped you, since she was all for you moving there with her, but only if you were seriously looking for a job
2006-10-29 23:35:58 · answer #5 · answered by rae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that's not why she prob did that. She wanted you to grow up and take responsibility for yourself. She told you she thought you should move there she didn't make you move there. You did it and you should have to do for yourself.
2006-10-29 21:08:00 · answer #6 · answered by littlemama 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋