Marriage & Divorce - 17 October 2006

I got married and came to US. My husband came after 5 months. I used to call my husband everyday. But he never called me coz of the money problem. but last month i met a guy and we started dating. Now my husband is here. sometimes he (my husband) is so nice to me and he tries to make me happy. sometimes he is so mean and make my life miserable. he is a nice person but not a good husband. i tried but nothing is working. we fight a lot. but still when i meet my boyfriend i feel bad. what should I do? I can't tell my parents that i want divorce. My husband will kill me or himself if i talk about divorce. I am so sad and unhappy with my life. Please help me.

Thanks

2006-10-17 11:27:06 · 13 answers · asked by Amy 1

well to start off my parents are divorced and i havent seen my dad since i was 3. im an only child and my mom has never remarried.i was completely fine w/ this for a long time untill a few years ago. it was like i really dident even care that i dident have a dad untill somthing just really hit me hard. it almost feels as if i have the huge hole mising from my life. i dont even understand it. ive told a few good christian friends and teachers and theve all told me pretty much the same advice. that the "void" in my life was for God. theve also told me scriptures like "God is a father to the fatherless" and stuff and ive really tried to have God to fill that space. But its just not working. i want the whole physical aspest of a dad. like can you hug God? or just the simple things like sitting on the couch watching tv w/ God. i cant explain how i feel but just even righting about it brings me to tears. like i have friends that dont have dads and they dont even care. And one of my friends is like 'Oh i hate my dad he wont let me go out w/ so and so" and im like "oh my gosh, i would kill to have a dad be like that to me, it shows you how much he loves you and cares for you. i dont understand, if God loves me sooo much then why did he put me in this situation? like what did i do wrong? why is he punishing me? All i want is to be loved. physically.
my mom and i dont get along and i cant even remember the last time she hugged me, let alone said she loved me. and lately i fine my self longing for guys (my age) for that affection. when i see my self doing it i stop myself but still. i just want to be loved on, and not sexually. i want a dad. i dont understand why im the only one that feels like this.

thanks,

2006-10-17 11:24:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been happily married to my wife for a little over a year now. Recently (probably within the last several months), we have run out of things to talk about. I work a lot and so we talk to each other on the phone often. Lately, we end up talking about how we don't have anything much to talk about. We both really wish we had exciting things to talk to each other about. Now and then something will come up that we can talk about (usually work related), but otherwise it's just generic things like "how are you doing?". In our current circumstances, we don't have a whole lot of money (or time) to go out and do things. We're not broke, but we're not making enough to do things all the time. Basically, to sum things up, I really enjoy talking to my wife on the phone throughout the day since I work long hours, and she looks forward to talking to me also, but we are both sort of annoyed at the fact that we have nothing to talk about. What can we do???

2006-10-17 11:21:30 · 17 answers · asked by dsdxp 1

2006-10-17 11:17:59 · 9 answers · asked by Punchy 1

Hedoesn't want to screw up his immigration status. He put me through hell through the whole relationship. I also supported him and the rest of our family on one income. Should I wait for him to pay for it since I'm not in the financial situation to do so as a single mother?

2006-10-17 11:17:46 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is it better to have a father whom is in and out of your life, in and out of jail, has a psyco family ect or to have none of that drama at all???

2006-10-17 11:16:38 · 43 answers · asked by liyah's mommy 2

My sister has convinced herself that she does not need to marry her b/f of 10 years. They have 2 children, buying their first home (he is , she is going on as a co-buyer). While her b/f has climed the career ladder she has been in the background w/ kids, housework, and working PT as a bar tender hoping and struggling to be able to one day attend community college to do something for her self which he is not very supportive of. She is convinced if he was to die/ leave she would be able to mantain the lifestyle she has. My sister's fiancee drives a 06 jeep commander, makes 50-60K yr, has freedom to do as he pleases, and has health insurance. My sister has no ins nor do the children and the fiancee can't put them on b/c she used state aid and no paternity papers were signed. My sis assumes I am jealous and no nothing but I am only a single parent of three, I know first hand of the mistakes she is making. Why are women in this position so ignorant and cheating themselves?

2006-10-17 11:16:30 · 4 answers · asked by nene 3

My soon to be ex has a long criminal history and is living with his mother whom smokes like a chimney. He refuses to agree to anything pertaining to the divorce and is now leaving child custody in the hands of a judge. I am so scared that he will get some visitation with our 6 week old son that is unsupervised and he will run. He has only spent about 4 hours total with our son since his birth and contributes very little. My attorney says not to worry but this is my child and I am scared.

2006-10-17 11:14:14 · 15 answers · asked by liyah's mommy 2

2006-10-17 11:11:55 · 16 answers · asked by star_unknown1 3

If you were going to die in 5 years (ME!), is it ok to start spending all your money on hookers and partying all the time (No kids to worry about sending to college and no family either).

2006-10-17 11:11:13 · 38 answers · asked by xdfsddfgdfgdfg d 1

It seems anytime my husband is in the mood for sex, it's a bl***ob until he's just about ready, then either he gets on top or I straddle him and then it's over!
He's never interested in foreplay to really get my lust and desire fired up and when he's done, I have to finish myself off manually.
Is there some technique that I can use to slow down his climax so that I at least have a chance to build mine?

2006-10-17 11:09:52 · 26 answers · asked by princessslave 2

I'm Scared!

2006-10-17 11:08:07 · 8 answers · asked by Katryna Haslock 1

my husband cheated on my while i was in the usa he was in the uk went to a pub and f**ked up he did not tell me a friend but when i asked him he said it was true said she was hotter than me and blamed me for it my question what should i do cope leave i do not have an idea

2006-10-17 11:00:15 · 24 answers · asked by Hillary B 1

I want to be a prompt, responsible, reliable, non procrastanating, organized, cleanliness, person. Problem Is..I'm just the opposite. How do I get myself to change? I keep trying, and keep failing.



I don't like who I am.

2006-10-17 10:58:58 · 9 answers · asked by secret s 1

We live abroad and my husband likes his job here and our daughter and I hate it and are ready to move back to the states. Our kids are teenagers and both actually would like to move back My husband says he wants to keep his job here in Asia and just come to the states to visit at Christmas and in the summers. I can understand that he wants a good job, but it seems to me he is throwing away his whole family for a job. Our marriage has never been very good, but we do have some fun together and I think it's important to try to save the marriage if possible. I think this living apart will ruin it because he's an extrovert and will end up with someone and our whole family will be destroyed. That's my fear. Thoughts? Ideas?

2006-10-17 10:58:28 · 10 answers · asked by outtahere 3

I am getting married this friday.... as far as my last name changing to his what do I need to do?? what are the reprocussions if I dont change it right away??? what I am asking is it really important to do it right away or can I take my time and fit it into my schedule when possible? also what documents need to be changed?

2006-10-17 10:48:25 · 21 answers · asked by Sparks 2

not there for him then said she was hotter than me too then he went to work so how do i cope

2006-10-17 10:46:56 · 17 answers · asked by Hillary B 1

My best friend wants to know what to do about this situation. She was playing around with her man last night and found a condom in his back pocket. When she asked he said that he picked it up off of the dresser while cleaning. She said that she hasn't seen any condoms recently and they don't use them. Furthermore, prior to becoming her live-in man, she was having an affair with him for 3 years before he left his wife( and 5 small children, he has 11 total with 4 other women) for her about 6 months ago. He is a really good guy otherwise( I know that sounds stupid). He also told her that he may just move out before she puts him out but she thinks he's bluffing. She said that they didn't talk for the rest of the night and she hasn't said anything else about it yet. What should she do about this because she doesn't believe him.

2006-10-17 10:44:19 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-17 10:43:15 · 7 answers · asked by Mark S 1

I've been feeling for quite sometime now that I am bisexual or lesbian. But I quesion if I am because I had a sexual experience with a woman in highschool just to experiement but did not really enjoy it when I had to reciprocate the deed to her. But yet, I still find myself picturing a woman going down on me when really my husband is am I gay or is this just harmless fantasy thinking? What would you do?

2006-10-17 10:41:00 · 7 answers · asked by LKJ 2

who is better to marry with, if there is no a full mutual love inbebween: the girl who loves you ( but you have a normal feeling to him), or the girl who do you love ( but she have have a normal feeling to you)?

2006-10-17 10:32:25 · 9 answers · asked by rassai 1

i have grown bored with the sex in our marriage.i am against cheatin,but it's gettin frustrating.i've tried to talk to her about it but she doesn't want to talk about it.what do i do next?

2006-10-17 10:29:08 · 18 answers · asked by jack of all trades 1

We get into arguments all the time over stupid things and he really worked up. He'll mutter things under his breath that really bother me. I think he wants me to hear them too. He mentions things like hurting me, or I'm stupid, he'll call my a cun t at the drop of a hat. The other day he wanted a bIowjob and I said no and he muttered (as I walked away) about divorcing me.
I'm almost 22 (Air Force) and he's 24 (civilian)I've also posted other things about him in past questions:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AkJlgY4zEZkxT2o7T5LNKETsy6IX?qid=20061014223038AAn0W3O
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ak5G9N5mrMcwC8Hbyj0eIp3sy6IX?qid=20061009234709AAZ1rsz
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AjfsVm_PaSlq.rASb.izM5Lsy6IX?qid=20061009233757AA3Ugds
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AmbFOvn8EEdIa76FTLlOy4Dsy6IX?qid=20061009012256AAust6u

2006-10-17 10:26:33 · 23 answers · asked by ur a Dee Dee Dee 5

me and my husband have been married 4 months and have been together for 1 yr 8 mo. I recently found out that he has been seen his x since we have been together. I don't know what to do. When i found out i was ready to go. then he promised he would be good to give him time so that he could show me that he would change let about 2 weeks later i find out that he saw her again that day he left me with dinner and guest. I can't belive it. I have left everything for him i moved to IL from AZ for him and yet he has done this. im afraid that if i stay well i can say it myself he is goin to do it again but i don't know how to just leave WE have a house now, i started school again, new job everthing im so scared and hurt and the worst of all im alone. he was all i have here and then he gose and dose that to me. i don't know what to say to him what to do. I wish i could just tell him and go but i don't know how, ive written many letters but i fail to give them to him. He has done somuch.

2006-10-17 10:26:13 · 9 answers · asked by lost1985 1

me and my husband have been married 4 months and have been together for 1 yr 8 mo. I recently found out that he has been seen his x since we have been together. I don't know what to do. When i found out i was ready to go. then he promised he would be good to give him time so that he could show me that he would change let about 2 weeks later i find out that he saw her again that day he left me with dinner and guest. I can't belive it. I have left everything for him i moved to IL from AZ for him and yet he has done this. im afraid that if i stay well i can say it myself he is goin to do it again but i don't know how to just leave WE have a house now, i started school again, new job everthing im so scared and hurt and the worst of all im alone. he was all i have here and then he gose and dose that to me. i don't know what to say to him what to do. I wish i could just tell him and go but i don't know how, ive written many letters but i fail to give them to him. He has done somuch.

2006-10-17 10:25:58 · 8 answers · asked by lost1985 1

He was married 16 years & I was married 18 years the first time. We fell in love immediately. I wanted to move slowly, but I loved him, so I went at his pace...FAST. We married after only 5 months. I came into the marriage with very little, though I make more $ than him, but he had $60K to put towards a house. I knew what his ex had put him through financially, and offered to sign a prenup. He said there was no way we would do that. He trusted me with everything, and what was his was mine. Well, all that changed 3 weeks after we were married. We got into a big argument (over my kids fighting with his kids), he said we had made a big mistake, and asked me to leave. I BEGGED him to give it some more time. The only way he would, was if I would go to his attorney and take my name off of the deed on 'our' house. I truly don't care about material things, but that really hurt. I feel like he doesn't trust me, and talking doesn't help. What should I do? Please don't say divorce.

2006-10-17 10:23:50 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-17 10:19:32 · 12 answers · asked by alokob1 1

Where can I find information regarding being in a committed relationship (having a ceremony and what it means...law wise) verses being in a marriage?

2006-10-17 10:14:25 · 10 answers · asked by Caitlyn's Mommy 2

we know man is promiscous, he needs more women, so y doesnt the society allow him to marry more than one woman???

2006-10-17 10:12:32 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a friend on mine who is a househusband/SAHD. His wife is an attorney who just made partner and is making some very good money. He is home all-day. He is not keeping up with the housework at all. Laundry is piling up. Dishes are getting stacked in the sink. Dinner is NOT ready when she gets in the door. Clutter all over the place.

The children are being very well-cared for - but all are in school.

He is home watching soap operas and playing video games while they are in school.

He is INSISTING on a housekeeper and feels they can afford it. She feels there is no need for this because he should be taking a hand at homemaking.

On top of it, she is cleaning up and cooking dinner.

What should be done? Should she get him a housekeeper? Should he be doing the housework?

2006-10-17 10:10:32 · 14 answers · asked by L.A. Scene 3