Marriage & Divorce - 17 October 2006

My husband constantly accuses me of cheating on him. I spend a lot of time online, and if I even pass by a site where there's a picture of a man doing anything, he will track it on the history and then crazily roam around setting up internet dates for himself. I know that he did not go where he said he was going today because one of his friends accidentally gave him away. He shouts things like "I'll give you AIDS if I feel like it!" and stays up all night long drinking and searching for women.

I'm not allowed to go anywhere without him. If people with blocked numbers call the house, he thinks I'm sleeping with them. How do I get through to this jerk who thinks he's so smart?! I don't do that. I would never have sex with anybody other than my husband. I've never done that to anyone. I don't know how else to say it.

2006-10-17 12:45:51 · 17 answers · asked by Em 5

still married but seperated 6 months.......he lives with his 21 yr old gf........he is 42 with 4 kids one of which is 20..........and what exactly is a mid life crisis?.....will he see the error of his ways?

2006-10-17 12:45:31 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

He is a recovering alcoholic and drug addict, and was raised by an alcoholic father. He is also manic deressive and on medication. I knew this when we got married. He cannot maintain an erection. He knows he cannot perform but still tries, which makes me hate the idea of sex more and more. Until 2 weeks ago, when I found out he is into porn. If it was straight porn, I could handle it. What I cannot handle is the fact that he likes seeing little girls. I had no clue before we married. His family and our friends have no idea. He promised me that he would delete all of it and never look at ANY porn anymore. I looked at his history and as of today he is still looking at porn, though I have NOT seen anymore kiddie porn.The idea of him touching me anymore disgusts me, and I want out. But, at the same time I want to see if he can be treated and we can fix this thing. He sees a shrink for the depression and meds he is on. The shrink wants to see me too. Do I tell all??

2006-10-17 12:44:01 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-17 12:37:47 · 3 answers · asked by hikergirl2 1

I am married and I look at porn every time I get a chance. I look at porn online for free I never pay for it nor do I masterbate every time I look at it .my wife thinks its a problem she says its repulsive to her . I look at it because I like the way women are put together I think its beautiful (I never look at it right after sex) maby the next day . I love my wife And I love when we are intimate together but we are not intimate as often as I would like. So my question is for men and women my personal opinion > I dont think its a problem please tell mw what you think thanks

2006-10-17 12:35:50 · 32 answers · asked by stealyourface 1

I just don't like it. Be it rings, necklace, earings, I just don't enjoy any of it. I don't even wear my wedding ring. My husband bought me a diamond ring for our 10th anniversary and I had to tell him that I would rather use the money on the house and had him return it. He was ok with that. My friends think I am just plain weird or just lying about it (still haven't figured out why I would do that). Anyone else like me?

2006-10-17 12:35:16 · 17 answers · asked by ellasmom2 2

My wife is young, and exhibits wide and varied mood swings. She is on thyroid meds, which seem to help control them to an extent. She has feelings of sexual urges all the time, and has cheated on me 3 times, though she comes and tells me shameful each time. Recently, due to my weight and blood pressure, I have had huge sexual performance problems. Pills only work about 30% of the time and the sex is very quick. This is causing huge problems in our relationship. Recently, it has manifested in the feeling that she never got to sow her wild oats. She is brimming with energy to go sleep with the world. She has just starting going out with friends from work and drinking all night. She has cheated again, and now due to wants me to let her knowingly take a lover, to fulfill these urges and try something new. We love each other, and don't want to divorce. She feels she needs to do this, while I can't perform. I am afraid it is part of her sickness. what should I do?

2006-10-17 12:33:57 · 12 answers · asked by Thadeus 1

IT JUST KILLS ME 2 KNOW THAT...

2006-10-17 12:30:36 · 15 answers · asked by Sarah 1

Should sex be secondary after such a long time. Is it ok to still want to smell your mate, know their taste be part of them.

2006-10-17 12:28:19 · 19 answers · asked by JACKSON M 2

hubby's birthday is coming up and he has always fantasized about me stripping for him. The full strip club set though ( 3 song set, lap dance and private dance) my outfit is a white cropped hoodie and matching short shorts and a black cami underneath with white sneakers( the sweet and innocent thing drives him crazy)

2006-10-17 12:22:58 · 13 answers · asked by Inner_strength 1

2006-10-17 12:17:43 · 9 answers · asked by knowledge2u4usa 1

my husband is certified as a full blown alcoholic, hospitals and our whole family were involved. he refuses to continue to get help or stop drinking. so therefore i have given up on us including on whether or not he calls other women. so 2 nights ago he tells me he wants to finally be truthful with me and tells me that over a year ago he met a woman and fell for her and wants to continue to be her "friend" and doesn't want to hide her anymore from me. i care and at the same time i don't care. i see it as maybe this woman can help him somehow. maybe she'll enjoy dealing with a drunk 24/7, 365 days a year. i can use the break from him. he has drained me. i thank God we don't have kids. i see no sign of him stopping, or showing remorse, nor an apology for the stealing or lying or anything like that. how do i dump this mess (my husband) on this woman "his friend" without feeling guilty about not warning her? i just want to stop worrying about him and worry more about me.

2006-10-17 12:17:05 · 11 answers · asked by non-curious 2

I am just looking to meet nice people to write to every now and again where do I meet people?

2006-10-17 12:13:52 · 10 answers · asked by liyah's mommy 2

Last night -- wife and I were having sex, and instead of c*umming in her -- I pulled out -- and she got mad --- said she was not my "wh&*re" and that I was to c*m in her ---- What is the deal?

2006-10-17 12:13:47 · 14 answers · asked by brainfreeze007 3

i been married for 6 yrs my husband left he claims he never cheated on me but told me he loves me but doesnt want to live with me due to to much drama with my kids funny thing is some woman called me today i said hello she said is leslie there i was like this is she so unded like she paused after i said that and she hanged up i started to cry really soon after wondering would my husband give another woman my number please tell me what u think and if it is true does that mean there having problems already

2006-10-17 12:07:08 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do women develope an antidote when a husband/boyfriend showers them with flowers and gifts?
It seems the more flowers and gifts I give my wife, the less and less gratitude there seems to be.

2006-10-17 12:03:43 · 16 answers · asked by This, That & such 5

Well my soon to be ex wants to meet the guy who I go out with, He says he wants to meet him to see if his nice or what kind of person he is. I really don't know why, he cheated behind my back and wanted to end our marriage so why is he wondering who Im being with. He says he wants to be friends with the person Im with but I really don't know if I should. Please Help

2006-10-17 12:01:46 · 36 answers · asked by Hawaiianlady 1

Should I have lips to lips kisses wid my gf? How should I start it wid her? I m 18 and she s 16

2006-10-17 11:57:57 · 7 answers · asked by Pushpendra 1

My husband has a myspace account that he mainly set up to keep up with different bands that will be in the area. His myspace says single and I recently caught him talking on the phone with a girl. He says he doesn't see the problem with it, if he doesn't cross the line. He thinks Im being sneaky and controlling and that he shouldn't have to delete her from his myspace account and he can talk on the phone with other girls. Hasn't the line already been crossed? I made a fake myspace page to try talking with other guys to make him jealous, I did get a number from a guy. I told my husband I was going to call him, and he said he doesn't care, that it is no big deal.
Does this seem like an open relationship or what. I am fully committed to my husband, and I love him so much. He doesn't seem to see the problem with this. But it is breaking my heart that he wants to talk with other girls on the phone. When I bring it up he thinks Im being dramatic and crazy. I

2006-10-17 11:56:47 · 28 answers · asked by Abel C 1

My divorce was final three and a half years ago... I am remarried! I got this letter today from the courts! I will call the courthouse in the morning but AHHHH! What does this mean? Can they go back and dismiss a final divorce decree??

2006-10-17 11:50:50 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-17 11:49:35 · 12 answers · asked by Pat 2

My 1st cousin (L.Ware) had an affair with my husband. my husband confessed to me & ended w/her. She is really hurt b/c she thought the feelings they had were real. My other cousin (C.Allen) gave her $1K cash and financed the $1K 2 years ago. I paid her back slowly & hit some really hard financial times. I told her. The 2 of them R really close now. L.Ware is still upset b/c I am happy working on my marriage & my husband won't have any dealings w/her. Today I was served some papers saying that C.Allen is sueing me. I know that the "real person behind this is L.Ware, this is her way to get me upset; & work on my emotions. So in the mist of everything, I have not shown her any anger/hatered, I just simply cut off all ties with that side of my family. What should I do now. My 1st reaction was cuss both of them out; show L.Ware's husband my proof of the affair w/my husband, just create h*ll. Or just stay on my path of happiness. Life is so hard, but why family, I will never trust!

2006-10-17 11:48:11 · 21 answers · asked by sassy lady 4

She only likes guys to go down on her. How could a girl like that more than sex?????

2006-10-17 11:47:49 · 9 answers · asked by xdfsddfgdfgdfg d 1

I had flowers sent to my wife just because and she has the nerve to say that I either did somethign wrong or I want something.

I HAVE NEVER sent her flowers to apologize for doing something wrong or to get something my a way so I dont know where she got that idea.

I took the flowers and threw them in the garbage and now she is mad at me....... if ANYTHING I should be the one mad dont you think?

2006-10-17 11:44:30 · 21 answers · asked by RedEye 3

I am a bit depressed and question myself alot any advice?

2006-10-17 11:42:42 · 28 answers · asked by liyah's mommy 2

Ten points will be awarded... guaranteed!

2006-10-17 11:36:00 · 14 answers · asked by Mike S 7

2006-10-17 11:34:21 · 18 answers · asked by myrtle 1

This would dramatically decrease our divorces and broken homes. Why don't people respect their marriage vows and put the husband as head of the household and master of his domain? What's happening is that God is leaving these marriages after women refuse to submit to their husband and then divorce happens.

2006-10-17 11:34:17 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am 20 and hopefully getting married soon. my BF is 29. just wanted to add im am very mature for my age, i'm no 20 year old child, i've been taking care of my self since i was 15. just want to know ur opions

2006-10-17 11:33:03 · 35 answers · asked by Robyn T 4

my boy and i have been together for 4 months and are planning to get engaged by christmas. he is scared to ask my mom and dad out of fear of rejection. they both really love him--but we think they are going to tell us it is too soon--we have know each other for over a year--we want a long engagement and are thinking the fall of 2008 for the wedding--i am an adult (25) but i want my parents approval--any suggestions for how to bring this up to them with out giving them a huge shock? thanks in advance

2006-10-17 11:27:52 · 17 answers · asked by cutie_1016 2