i am 20 and hopefully getting married soon. my BF is 29. just wanted to add im am very mature for my age, i'm no 20 year old child, i've been taking care of my self since i was 15. just want to know ur opions
2006-10-17 11:33:03 · 35 answers · asked by Robyn T 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i can't believe i spelled opinion wrong!! i'm such a dork, i guess i was just typing fast. and to the jerk that acted like i'm uneducated i would like u to know i am in my 4th year of nursing school, and i started college while still in highschool, thank you very much,lol. ne way as to our age diff. we are very close in maturity levels. although nine years apart in age.
2006-10-17 11:46:26 · update #1
Everyone is different and you must be positive you have the right guy. I got married at 25 my son at 22. I was mature in some ways too able to be on my own. But not so mature in other ways like my emotions.
Being married is a huge commitment and not to be taken lightly. I have been married for 30 years now and it is not always been easy. When I was your age all I could think about was being with this person and my love for him. As time goes by the look of the love and passion fades as you work on the length of your time together. You still have love but do not always show it, and the passage of time gets in the way. All the things in life that really make you grow up like raising kids, making money, working all the time, spending less time together, and your likes change. He may like staying home you may like to travel, he may like the outdoors you may like inside. Everything changes over the years.
But if your personalities fit and you make a commitment for a long long marriage and keep true to it, you can make it too. Your difference in age is more important now that in the future. Make sure your both mature in the same way and that you both want the same for your future.
Good Luck and Congrats
2006-10-17 11:42:26 · answer #1 · answered by Nevada Pokerqueen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you have to be a very well rounded 20 year old to get married. From 20-25 you grow a lot as a person. But since you say you've been taking care of yourself since you were 15, the age line changes a bit. Maybe a long engagement would be better. Like at least a year or two. Your fiance is at a good age, but i would at least give you a couple years. You can't even drink at your own wedding.
2006-10-17 11:37:57 · answer #2 · answered by Noah's Mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
age 1 to 20
2006-10-17 11:34:32 · answer #3 · answered by Katherine Z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your combined age should be at least 50, and you should have been in a monogamous with this person for at least 2 years.
The almost ten year age difference also is tough because he has so much more experience. You will also find yourself changing a lot in between the ages of 20 and 25.
2006-10-17 13:49:45 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who are young get married all the time, but only a few percent of them actually stay together. The reason they divorce is that they were not ready for the responsibility. I really don't think it matters what age you are, it depends on whether you are ready to deal with that one person for the rest of ur life, and if u feel u can handle and deal with all the ups and downs of that marriage then u will have a good marriage.
2006-10-17 11:41:00 · answer #5 · answered by dcutegirl06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only one who can "really" answer that is you. I know that when I was 20, I was engaged and decided to wait 2 years before making it official. Sometimes this works out and the wait ends up a marriage. "Mine" did not. But I'm not sorry I ended the engagement either, because the man was not the kind of man I had thought him to be. If I had married him 2 years earlier as he "wanted" to do so badly, It would have ended up a disaster! That doesn't mean "you" have to do this. It just felt like the thing for "me" to do, and I was right. It's called intuition, and all of us have it, but "all" of us don't always listen to it. Either way, good luck, okay?
2006-10-17 11:41:48 · answer #6 · answered by Republican!!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
30
2006-10-17 11:34:32 · answer #7 · answered by aggravatingprick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married when I was 18 to a 36 year old when I was still in high school. Granted, I had a job, and had been working since I was 10 years old. I think if you are old enough to take care of yourself you are old enough to get married. That also factors in your common sense smarts too. If you are over 18 and still acts like a 15 year old, than you are too young to get married.
We married only six months after we met.
2006-10-17 11:36:40 · answer #8 · answered by gin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think when your old enough to buy alcohol then your old enough to get married..Seriously I would tell someone to wait till there at least 25..enjoy being single as long as you can..Everything changes once you say I DO..He's old enough but I'd say for you to wait a little while longer but only you can decide that..I wish you all the luck when you get married..I was married the FIRST time at 18 and it lasted 9 years..I wished I had of waited until at least 25...but only you know yourself and how you feel...
2006-10-17 11:38:28 · answer #9 · answered by Just Dreamin' 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think 20 is fine! Now 18 and below is way to young for marriage! Since you have been taking care of yourself since 15 then I think you will be fine especially since you will have someone else to help pull the weight! Well I hope you have a happy marriage!
2006-10-17 11:37:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋