Will my husband's mistress leave us alone!! What should I do?

Question

My 1st cousin (L.Ware) had an affair with my husband. my husband confessed to me & ended w/her. She is really hurt b/c she thought the feelings they had were real. My other cousin (C.Allen) gave her $1K cash and financed the $1K 2 years ago. I paid her back slowly & hit some really hard financial times. I told her. The 2 of them R really close now. L.Ware is still upset b/c I am happy working on my marriage & my husband won't have any dealings w/her. Today I was served some papers saying that C.Allen is sueing me. I know that the "real person behind this is L.Ware, this is her way to get me upset; & work on my emotions. So in the mist of everything, I have not shown her any anger/hatered, I just simply cut off all ties with that side of my family. What should I do now. My 1st reaction was cuss both of them out; show L.Ware's husband my proof of the affair w/my husband, just create h*ll. Or just stay on my path of happiness. Life is so hard, but why family, I will never trust!

Answer 1

I'm not the fighting type, my advice is dont pick a fight with her, yes it might feel good, but u would have stooped down 2 her level. There is a certain way 2 go about things. What i suggest u do is 2 let the BIT@# know that U dont intend 2 let her come between u&ur husband,tell her despite wat she did or is trying 2 do u & ur husband r still 2 gether.
If she still tries 2 come between u 2 then KNOCK THAT BI@#H OUT!!!!LOL
The truth is u can choose ur friends but u cant choose ur family. Thats life. Just keep moving forward ok.Dont let them c u fall, thats wat they want!! Dont let them win,keep on ur smile even if its fake!!!

Answer 2

I have lots of knowledge in the dynamics of family law and other issues in which I wont get into, but In this day and age Im sure your familar with a restraining order? I must also add that in alot of these cases in which I,ve seen, only a mere 40% are attributed acting alone, what I mean by this is ex,s usually dont just keep coming around unless thier is something to gain, it,s kinda like leaving food outside of your home for a stray cat, take the food away and the cat leaves, so Im guessing maybe, and I use the term maybe with a 50-50 guess, that your boyfriend is feeding the stray cat, it may not be much, but its just enough to keep that door open, and when your boyfriend leaves her with the door open this welcomes in drama and disfunction for all that is involved. So I must recomend that you really keep your eyes open and your feelings at bay, this is a time to be smart and use your brain, as I,ve seen many men, who,s girlfriends thought the world of them, lie, and play both sides, so use caution. You can also talk with this woman, hook up with her in a place where their are many people, a local resteraunt, mall,library etc, and sit down and have a chat about why she wont leave you alone and let her know if it doesnt stop you will take action. But you must act on this, dont even tell your boyfriend of what you plan on doing, but do tell others of your intent on meeting up with this woman. Good Luck

Answer 3

I don't want to sound rude or be miss quoted but didn't you once say this affair thing has happened twice before and you could relate to not trusting so why do you allow the outside world to interfere with your decisions of making your marriage work and is it just your decision ?or did god have some kind of say so in all this through your heart as well as your husbands. try relying on god alone and don't let the world ( even if it is family) over rule your beliefs. Good luck and god bless ( I'll say a prayer for you)

Answer 4

Get the moeny SOMEHOW and pay her off before the court date. If she gets her money, she is going to have to tell your rotten cousin she cant help anymore and to leave her alone.

This will put an end to the lawsuit. Even if you still ahve to go to court. Appear with a copy of a money order or cashiers check made payable to your cousin and also a certified return receipt for the mailing of it to your cousin. This will get the case dismissed.

As for the rotten cousin. Severing all ties with her is a great idea.
I know a lot of people are probably going to tell you to keep down your happy path since your husband has recommitted himself to you, BUT if things continue the way they are, I think telling your rotten cousins husband that she cheated on him is a GRAND idea. It will keep HER busy and away from you. Besides her husband has a RIGHT TO KNOW :D

Answer 5

Go to court and explain to the judge you don't have the money at this time to pay it back...but if you borrowed the money(forget the rest of story) then you should be responsible enought to pay it back. The judge may order you to make monthly payments you can afford-that depends on what the judge declares(did you sign any legal forms or sign your name to the loan?) Everything is black & white per the legal system. Keep your dignity and be proud that you & your husband are working thru the problems! The best advice I can give you or anyone is to never borrow money from close friends or family(I learned that many yrs.ago)
Good luck to you and don't forget to ask God to help you thru this ordeal-it has always worked for me! You'll be surprised of his answer..and yes, he always answers!(it may not be the answer you are looking for but trust that he does know the best for you)

Answer 6

WOW!!! Thats a bummer. Unfortunately, people are petty.
If YOU honestly feel that your husband is changing and you two
are working to fix things.........then let their pettiness go. Remember being a kid and someone would call you stupid or something and the more it hurt you......the more they would do it?? Unfortunately, alot of adults are just big kids. You have to be the bigger person and walk away.

Now IF you have ANY DOUBT that your husband will continue to be faithful.........then I would say walk away from him and mend ties with your cousins.

Also, I dont know your "religious or spiritual" beliefs, but prayer never hurts.

Answer 7

You used three words that caught my attention---Husband-cousin--affair---WOW. Evidentally you think you deserve what part of that drama? You say that you are working on your marriage,is it worth it? Your hubby and family are not loyal to you as aperson that they suppose to love.Loyalty should never be earned, either they have it or they don't. They didn't. Why suffer with that embarrassment? Have respect for yourself, they don't.Get on a new path to HAPPINESS.....

Answer 8

Good luck
in working think out with your husband
as for your cousins you need to talk to C Allen to find out why she is sueing you if it for the money since you have being paying her back (hope you have proof)
you need not to worry about it, but neverless you should tell
her about you rside of the story
I am sure that if Lware can sleep with you hus she can sleep wiht hers too

Answer 9

Since you're being sued you're probably going to have to pay that money back. Other than that I would drop them. They seem petty. If you want to work out things with your husband then do that and don't worry about them. Work with your husband on your relationship and just forget them.

Get the court part over, then they'll have nothing to do to you.

Answer 10

You and your husband deserved happiness. Feed them from the long handle of the spoon. Go on with your life pray and keep God first always. He know everyone of your tears. If you ever need someone to talk to i will be your friend.