Should sex be secondary after such a long time. Is it ok to still want to smell your mate, know their taste be part of them.
2006-10-17 12:28:19 · 19 answers · asked by JACKSON M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
GOD YES! Remember the love and to cherish till death part? Loving and cherishing your mate covers allot of ground. Desire falls into the scope of that clause.
Desire him, want him, need him and figure out new ways to keep him. Being still desirous of you mate is one of the most important parts of an intimate relationship. It keeps the interest and spark alive in a marriage.
I recently have had some serious problems with my wife and her telling lies and breaking promises. She apparently lost some of her desire for me. She's was cold busted. She's in denial she did anything wrong (she did not have sex with someone but did have an intimate emotional relationship with an old boyfriend).
Instead of dumping her, I'm trying to figure out what I managed to do that pulled her away in the first place. I'm jumping through hoops attempting to draw her desire back in my direction.
Feel proud you by default still have desire in your relationship with your husband. It's such a precious commodity and can easily be directed the wrong way.
Your husband is the luckiest man in the world. I'm totally wanting that same thing from my wife. Her desire being directed only at me.
He's a lucky man indeed.
2006-10-17 13:25:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a woman after my own heart. I don't care about the ups and downs of marriage! I know that marriage is ordained by God, and if you hang in there, you will still desire each other after many years. I want that kind of marriage, so far it has eluded me.
I want to see, taste, smell,and touch my husband after 50 years of marriage, and still have wild sex as long as everything is still in working order, it doesn't have to be in perfect order, just working order.
2006-10-17 12:38:54 · answer #2 · answered by Special K 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hope to be so lucky someday ... it's more than "okay"!!!
I know just what you mean about wating to smell, taste, etc. When you really really love your partner, you want to bring all the senses into the relationship.
Congrats on your first 24 years - hope you have many more to come!
2006-10-17 12:44:10 · answer #3 · answered by 40yomama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I cant speak for the 24 years but I have been with my hubby for 17 and I feel the same as you do.
2006-10-17 12:39:05 · answer #4 · answered by mouse3801 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OOooh no! That's not allowed! In these days of divorce we are not allowed to stay with the same person for that long!
Congrats on your successful marriage. I hope it lasts another 24.
2006-10-17 12:31:12 · answer #5 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think after all that time....well that is WONDERFUL! Sex is part of a very healthy relationship. I hope I am still having sex with my husband when I am old and wrinkly.....and falling aprart LOL
2006-10-17 13:18:06 · answer #6 · answered by Amber L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it OK? !!! Of course it is, how fortunate you are and your husband as well. That is a rare gift. Still in love after all these years!! The best to both of you..
2006-10-17 12:39:51 · answer #7 · answered by rainbow 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its better than okay..its amazing, not everyone is that lucky, u go girl. congrats on staying married that long and especially for having that spark still there, that is so rare but a wonderful thing.
2006-10-17 12:48:05 · answer #8 · answered by Ash 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you better after 24 years. i hope that i can feel that way after 24 yrs. in fact i am looking forward to it, hell i want to 85 and get caught screwing in the nursing home
2006-10-17 12:56:37 · answer #9 · answered by jennybebee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes it is ok to feel like that/my wife and i have only been together 16years but i still feel the same way about her / it feels good doesnt it
2006-10-17 12:33:26 · answer #10 · answered by dragon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋