my boy and i have been together for 4 months and are planning to get engaged by christmas. he is scared to ask my mom and dad out of fear of rejection. they both really love him--but we think they are going to tell us it is too soon--we have know each other for over a year--we want a long engagement and are thinking the fall of 2008 for the wedding--i am an adult (25) but i want my parents approval--any suggestions for how to bring this up to them with out giving them a huge shock? thanks in advance
2006-10-17 11:27:52 · 17 answers · asked by cutie_1016 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why do I have the feeling that they will be celebrating upon hearing the news that their 25 year old daughter is finally getting hitched and out of their hair? Don't wait too long, sweetheart, your biological clock is gonging.
2006-10-17 11:43:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're delaying your wedding until 2008, this engagement could be between the two of you, you don't have to tell your parents unless you're planning on getting married within the next few months, and after a year when you're still together, tell them then then. Alternatively, if you really want to tell them, you say they love your fiance so just casually say "so and so has proposed and I said yes, but we don't want to get married till 2008 which will give us plenty of time (make sure you say it casually like it's not a big thing) If they oppose to it, remind them you're 25, and not a child anymore, I'm sure they'll understand.
2006-10-17 11:37:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did the exact same thing. My husband (now) and I were only together for 5 months when we got engaged. On our way out to a wedding together we both stopped and told our parents. They were supportive, once we told them we weren't going to get married until a year after I finished college. It should be fine, as long as you approach them openly and honestly. And do it together, as he is not trying to surprise you with a proposal.
2006-10-17 11:32:05 · answer #3 · answered by chellie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets be real, your too young. The HUGE red flag should be that you feel you can't tell them, you aren't ready for marriage. When most people get engaged, telling parents is one of the first and most exciting things. Why? Because they are old enough.
2016-05-21 21:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just have him pony up and ask your dad. He needs to do it. He can say when he asks that it is going to be a long engagement. It does not really matter what your dad says anyway.
Have him do it and it will turn out fine
2006-10-17 12:24:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 months only? i would be a lil' scared to tell my parents too , after only knowing him for 4 months! stop and think i hope , about a very long engagment...
2006-10-17 11:34:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you said you're 25 well i don't know if you are 25 and need approval of mom $dad i think you are too young to do that........don't take me wrong parent approval is nice but you shouldn't be scare it's your life as long as you r responsible . you should get engage not married . good luck darling.........
2006-10-17 11:37:44 · answer #7 · answered by Jazzy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just do it. You are 25 not 18. Don't be worry the plans are very good, with the time left.
2006-10-17 11:31:39 · answer #8 · answered by Toto 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take them aside and tell them your feelings and that you are going to have a long engagement , they should understand and respect your decision.
2006-10-17 11:30:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well try this. Tell them you have discovered that you are a lesbian and want them to meet you new girlfriend. Then, a few days later tell them you have changed your mind and like men again. They will be so relieved that they welcome your boyfriend into the family without question.
2006-10-17 11:34:06 · answer #10 · answered by Mark S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋