still married but seperated 6 months.......he lives with his 21 yr old gf........he is 42 with 4 kids one of which is 20..........and what exactly is a mid life crisis?.....will he see the error of his ways?
2006-10-17 12:45:31 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh, yeah. He will come running back to you like the dog he is. A 21 year old girl wants a 42 year old man for his money. Once she bleeds him dry, she will move on to the next one after kicking his azz to the curb.
2006-10-17 13:13:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, he probably will see the "error of his ways" but who's too say WHEN. You probably still love your husband and that is understandable, but you need too divorce this man. A midlife crisis is when a guy finally realizes he's "getting older". I think all men go through this at some point in their life, it just hits some harder than others. Also I know a lot of guys that use this as an Excuse..for cheating. There is no excuse for cheating on your spouse, midlife crisis or not! Some guys go out and buy a sports car or etc..something they think a younger guy would be driving, they start dressing younger, dye their hair..anything that they can do too make themselves feel and look younger, they will do It.
But you know, I have always had some strong views on cheating, and I think It's wrong. Ther is no excuse for it, If a man or woman wants too play around then they need too divorce and then go on and do whatever they want. Don't wait around on your husband, get a divorce and move on with your life.
2006-10-17 13:40:08 · answer #2 · answered by Rose T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mate, i'm sorry issues became out that way. With some human beings, the greater effectual you take care of them, the greater severe they take care of you. i'm going to assert this nevertheless, you probably did not supply your age, yet at 21 she is very youthful to be married with young toddlers etc by utilising on the instant's standards. some females can take care of being married youthful, some do nicely by utilising it, yet others warfare. yet another ingredient ..ought to her determination to end issues be as because of the her melancholy? I advise I even have never suffered, yet i know somebody who has it, and that's an extremely pervasive, all-ingesting ailment. to not be taken gently. If she quite has it, it must be what drove her to end issues.
2016-11-23 16:39:21 · answer #3 · answered by duffield 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will probably be sorry, but I hope you're not waiting for him. He is obviously a man of little or no integrity. Yeah, maybe you can blame it on a midlife crisis, but either way he has treated you badly. I think you should file for divorce and once you have healed emotionally, start looking for a good man who will treat you well.
2006-10-17 12:49:58 · answer #4 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all i want to say im sorry this horrible thing happened to u it must be so hurtful only people who have be there before can relate what pain that must be but there is good and smart people who even aswer my questions please try to listen to the advice it would help u alot as for the dirtbag huby of yours how dare he when he finds himself alone who does he think is gonna pick him up from the mess he created think about it for better or for worse dont even worry to much i dont even see them lasting at all u got this one in the bag but think about if u want better in your life try to move on with someone who would make u feel special inside and then when your huby needs u it will just be some too bad u probably moved on to someone new oh well too bad for him!!!!
2006-10-17 14:08:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mid life crisis is when they see theirselves getting old, and than a younger woman comes into their life and she strokes his already low self worth, happens to alot of older men, as they age. eventually i think he will see the error of his ways but cheating is a thing one doesn't forget or forgive, and it's just not woth it to try and hang on until this woman kicks him to the curb, too much hurt and pain involved, than to know he only came home to you because she dumpted him, best to move on, work on yourself,take care of your children, and find someone who has morals, and shows you respect.our husbands expect us to retain our original physical and emotional attractiveness, but we all change.the other woman has such an advantage over us, she offers things our husband is sure we have lost. she stirs these deep romantic interest he has. she strokes his low self worth, and she doesn't show her true nature.its best to just move on and not wait for him to come back, cause we will only know in our hearts that we were second.
2006-10-17 13:45:45 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i will not give you any false hope that he will come back to you.
we never know what will happens next. if you want to wait, it's okay but i'll suggest that you go dating, just simple dating...
you need to be happy too.
i know it's hard especially when you love him that much. Give yourself a chance to grow without him.
2006-10-17 21:34:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe his error was getting married and having kids?
2006-10-17 12:47:32 · answer #8 · answered by Your Best Fiend 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
if he already moved on i don't think he will regret it
2006-10-17 12:49:36 · answer #9 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋