This would dramatically decrease our divorces and broken homes. Why don't people respect their marriage vows and put the husband as head of the household and master of his domain? What's happening is that God is leaving these marriages after women refuse to submit to their husband and then divorce happens.
2006-10-17 11:34:17 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
At least http://forums.christiansunite.com/index.php supports my Godly views!
2006-10-17 11:36:50 · update #1
Because the bible (written by man) is a hoax perpetrated by man in order to anipulate the behavior of man.... and has no connection to reality.... if it did, it would also say that woman is to respected and treated well. For she is as your mother was.. a woman...
2006-10-17 11:41:06 · answer #1 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
People need to submit to the head of the household but not if the man is living 2 lifes. Here's a true example: my mom has a reason to not submit to my dad because he is an alcoholic and smoker and he has had more than 3 affairs at once. The Bible does say that if a man or woman is sexually impure in marriage, then the spouse may leave. The Bible also talks about how we should not drink; only on occasions. For example: When the Last Supper took place, God and the disciples only drank a little. They did not get drunk. Hope I help!
2006-10-17 12:26:28 · answer #2 · answered by delightdq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the bible does say that women should submit to their husbands, however, I believe that the problem lies in most peoples definition of submission. Submission does not mean surrender, withdrawl or apathy. It does not mean inferiority. It is a mutual commitment and cooperation. The bible also instructs men to love and cherish their wives as Christ loves the church. Christ was a servant leader, not a dictator. If men took THEIR instructions from God as seriously as they expected their wives to take their instructions from God, only THEN "would this dramatically decrease our divorces and broken homes". If men concentrated on what they could be doing to follow God's law, instead of spending so much time complaining about what their wives aren't doing, then maybe we could see some real culture change. It takes two to tango.
2006-10-17 11:57:06 · answer #3 · answered by Semi-charmed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't for the very same reason that husbands don't cherish and honor their wife. If a man were truly loving and capable of being honorable and loving in every way towards his wife, I think that you might see more women willing to be more "submissive" to their husbands. When I say "submissive" I DO NOT mean doing and behaving in every way exactly as the husband COMMANDS her to do and say. The husband MUST first be able to be the wise, loving and caring head of the house BEFORE a woman can trust his wisdom enough to allow his leadership.
Yes, I know I am going to get a lot of flack for this....BUT and this is a VERY BIG BUT.....in all partnerships we bring into it our own strengths and weaknesses. If the husband wants to be the leader and the wife the follower, he had better understand just how awesome a responsibility it is to lead.
Sadly, far too many men do not fully understand the wisdom behind the biblical reference to marriage, and twist it to conform to their own selfish desires.
So that is why you don't see many women doing this. We are way too smart to allow a man to take over responsiblity for our lives. Men are fallible and make very grave mistakes. Just look at the state of the world today....and most of it is run by men.
2006-10-17 11:47:13 · answer #4 · answered by littleflower_57 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A wife's sumbission is only half of the Biblical equation. The next instruction is that men are to love their wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. He sacrificed himself for the blessing of the bride. This is so NOT someone who rules with an iron fist.
I've learned about submission as a wife and it has nothing to do with being subservient or a slave. It is my choice to be submissive or not, and cannot be imposed or inflicted upon me by my husband. That is Biblical truth, not wordly ideas or wisdom. Being submissive is a gift I can give to my husband in love, not out of obligation. If more of us (even in Christendom) understood the truth about the submission of Godly wives, it would be easier to follow. I include the understanding of men here too.
For us, my submission means that when there is an important decision to make, we discuss it, and if there is no agreement, his decision goes. I will chose not to be resentful or otherwise bitter about this. This is the choice I have made to give him the headship of our home and family. I can tell you I tried it early in our marriage, being the one holding the reigns, and it was lousy. Life has so much more peace when my home has God first, then our marriage, then kids, then all else.
I know it is nearly 2007, but these Biblical principals that our society is electing to pick and chose from are still effective today in keeping marriages healthy and together for a lifetime. (19 years and still going!)
2006-10-17 18:11:43 · answer #5 · answered by Heffiner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bible might be a good source of lessons when it comes to living a clean life,but it was written long ago by unenlightened people who blindly followed the words of their authority figures.
Even the most adamant Bible-thumpers can't deny that the Good Book was written by man,and man is prone to error.
Even the most devout families aren't exempt from Human nature,and some Humans can be down-right sh!tty to their spouse! Where in the Bible is it written that a woman shall not quit an abusive relationship?
Although the Bible has many valuable clues to living a better life,it's still an antiquated piece of literature that deserves to be taken with a grain of salt!
2006-10-17 11:49:16 · answer #6 · answered by Danny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a load of crap! We decided to omit the 'obey' part from our marriage vows as we didn't feel this was the way we wanted our marriage to be and the vicar who married us said that this was old fashioned and was happy to do this. This was a man of God who dedicates himself to the teachings of the Bible and he did not have a problem with it!. Divorces are not caused by women not submitting to their husbands.
Hubby and I have been together 11 years and married for 3. Both my children were born before we married and I don't care what anyone thinks about that. We were still married in the eyes of God
and we are extremely happy in a mutually respecting and loving way of eachother.
2006-10-17 11:46:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It also says that husbands should submit to their wives. Marriage is not slavery. My husband and I are equally yoked, and I allow him the final decision, once we have discusssed it. I agree that many marriages could be worked out with God in the picture, however that may be difficult to do as not everyone believes in God. Plus our society is use to instantaneous results, that people have the mentality of why work on it, when a divorce would be a fast simple solution.
2006-10-17 11:38:28 · answer #8 · answered by chellie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I respect the Bible very much, but everyone has to sin sometimes. For me that would come with having to submit to my husband. Some men are too dumb to be trusted with a submissive wife. Besides I've never heard any marriage vows that specifically say that a woman must be submissive to her husband. Marriages fail because of cruelty, adultery, etc., not because women aren't submissive or God leaves the marriages.
2006-10-17 11:42:11 · answer #9 · answered by Aurelia 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you serious? We are in the year 2006. This is not the 1800's. Men are just as much to blame as women for divorce. We should obey our master, you say? That would almost be like slavery. Is slavery right? Would you like to live in a world like they used to where women have no rights? Sound like fun? The reason divorce rate is so high is from both parties. People, not just women, don't take it serious enough. You can go ahead and live like a slave and not stand up for yourself, but the rest of the world is going to keep on moving forward.
2006-10-17 11:41:01 · answer #10 · answered by chrissy b 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
oh that is such bull and you know it! If you can tell me how many times the Bible has been rewritten in order to give power to the church, then when I get married, I will do just that. but seeing as you would probably never be able to do that, I will maintain my freedom. By the way, do you realize that broken homes and divorces are often caused by a simple lack of COMMUNICATION, not "women being insubordinate", so your reasoning is very flawed. Come again!
2006-10-17 11:37:08 · answer #11 · answered by High On Life 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋