IT JUST KILLS ME 2 KNOW THAT...
2006-10-17 12:30:36 · 15 answers · asked by Sarah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What can you do they have chosen to do what they want without your voice in ther matter.
2006-10-17 12:33:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there really isn't anything you can do but to be there for both your mom and your dad, but don't take on too much reponsibilty......i'm 23 and my parents are going through a divroce as well, its always hard because for your whole life they have been togetherand now all of a sudden its going to be different, because now the family isn't going to be together at family functions, etc. Just know that they have differences that cannot be worked out, and this is not your fault. Also make it a learning lesson that when you get married you don't make the same mistakes your parents have made and make sure that the one you marry is someone you can be happy, and in love with for the rest of your life. it will all be fine
2006-10-17 12:38:36 · answer #2 · answered by Beautiful disaster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it seems bad now but my parents devoriced when I was 4 and 1/2 and I still shead a tear every once and a while, because I see the father daughter dances and mothers day and fathers day cards and I remember standing in the drive way with my brother in between my parents and having to choose who I lived with right then and there, now I'm only 12 but it means alot u have to except the fact that ur parents weren't meant to be there's always faith, faith is hard to come by and yet to hold we tend to lose our faith when troubled times unfold, remember those words and remember that God is on YOUR side and will help u through.
I hope this helped, ur now in my prayers,
2006-10-17 13:38:50 · answer #3 · answered by sweettrouble94 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be supportive of them both, not just the parent you end up living with most of the time, or the one you visit because you feel sorry. Be good to them both, and understand this isn't about you, and they both still love you. If they handle this right they will both be supportive of each other where you're concerned, and be civil enough to keep you on the right track. Be open, but don't play games with them or play them against each other to your advantage. This is a very difficult thing for two people to go through, and you are the one thing that keeps them going.
2006-10-17 12:37:16 · answer #4 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand you pain, it's hard to see the two people you love the most, break their unit and stop loving one another.
However, it is their decision and there's not much you can do about it.
Rather then getting in the middle, explain to your parents how you love both of them equally and that although they're seperating, you wan't to work things out in best, less stressful, and non dramatic way.
Just because your parents don't love eachother anymore, doesn't mean they don't love you. Just make sure you don't get in the way of their mess. As hard as it may be, you have to keep going about your business and stay out of their personal business as much as possible so that you don't get even more hurt.
Also, spend more time with friends that can help console you and be there for you more then anyone on this board could be.
2006-10-17 12:36:01 · answer #5 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understand that thay are still you parents and love you. Their relationship may change, but their feelings for you haven't.
Talk to them, tell them your fears, understand that they are probably scared too. If you all communicate, everyone has a better chance of getting through it.
You might just find your parents come out of it as better people with more to offer you seperately. It is often the case. It is the change that is frightening.
2006-10-17 12:43:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just know both of your parents love you and this is between them and has nothing to do with you.
It's hard your life and thier life will change but they are both in persuit of happyness and you should be as well.
All will work out fine. just don't take sides with either parent and let them both know how much you love them.
Good luck and god bless
2006-10-17 12:36:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man this is rough! It killed me at 9 and it killed my kids when I divorced their father. In the end we all survive. It may take time to heal. You have to remember the divorce has nothing to do with you, you didnt cause it in any way. If you want to talk use yahoo. my ID is what i use here
2006-10-17 12:34:04 · answer #8 · answered by pink9364 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as it hurts you, think how much it hurts them. The are parents of you first, but also human. The deserve not to be unhappy, and you deserve happy parents. This is not your fault, and in the long run, you will be better for it.
2006-10-17 12:33:31 · answer #9 · answered by dwayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just love both your parent my parent devrced when i was 17.i wanted to go with my mom but she wouldnt let me my parent were always talking bad about one another to me i told them i love them both it can be hard
2006-10-17 12:32:47 · answer #10 · answered by sambonesgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit back and enjoy the ride double gifts just take time to talk to the both of them
2006-10-17 12:45:27 · answer #11 · answered by deionnie2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋