I have a friend on mine who is a househusband/SAHD. His wife is an attorney who just made partner and is making some very good money. He is home all-day. He is not keeping up with the housework at all. Laundry is piling up. Dishes are getting stacked in the sink. Dinner is NOT ready when she gets in the door. Clutter all over the place.
The children are being very well-cared for - but all are in school.
He is home watching soap operas and playing video games while they are in school.
He is INSISTING on a housekeeper and feels they can afford it. She feels there is no need for this because he should be taking a hand at homemaking.
On top of it, she is cleaning up and cooking dinner.
What should be done? Should she get him a housekeeper? Should he be doing the housework?
2006-10-17 10:10:32 · 14 answers · asked by L.A. Scene 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
One other thing - she wants a parent home full time. As mentioned, the children are really being well-cared for.
2006-10-17 10:17:35 · update #1
If she wants him home all the time and he is not doing his house husband stuff then he needs some of his privileges taken away. If she takes his bank cards away and limits his allowance then she can get his but to do the things that he should be doing. Besides she has something else to limit also. If she does not get him to do like she wants then she has the option like him to seperate and look elsewhere.
2006-10-17 10:29:51 · answer #1 · answered by ronnny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think they really need to talk about it to find out why he isn't doing the housework. Does he resent having to do it because it can be done by a housekeeper that they can afford? If so, what does he want to do otherwise? Does he feel like he doesn't know what he's doing and doesn't want to make a mistake so just refuses to do it? If so, she needs to help him understand the mechanics. The bottom line is to find out why he isn't doing it and if getting a housekeeper will make him more or less productive in some other area (starting his own business, finding a part-time job, etc.). Some final questions: Is it worth the fighting and hurt feelings on both sides not to get a housekeeper if they can afford it? Does the wife resent not being able to be at home? If so, could they switch? There needs to be an honest, non-confrontation discussion of what each person expects to be done and what they expect to do. Each person must contribute to the marriage, but they both need to agree what those contributions are. Good luck to them!
2006-10-17 10:19:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is stupid. The girl has just made partner in a high speed LA law firm? Then she should have the drive to cut loose this piece of driftwood and get a real man! Kids at home all day...he's at home and doing nothing other than watching soaps? This guy's an oxygen thief! Lead thearpy is the only answer for him!
Tell the guy that he needs to look in a southward direction to see if he has anything in view. If he sees anything then he needs to get participative in his duties as a husband, provider and a father. He's doing a disservice to his kids having them watch Daddy at home all day doing nothing?
This is stupid.
2006-10-17 10:26:43 · answer #3 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he should do the house work or get a job he should not be sitting around all day.But if I was a man I would not want my women wearing the pants in the family the man is supposed to earn the cash and the woman is supposed to care for the kid's and house I am old fashioned that way it is just not natural for it to be like that there is no love like a mothers love for children!
2006-10-17 10:40:20 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men have been complaining about their wives the same way for years. This must mean we are finally equal! If she hires a housekeeper she won't need him anymore, will she? Marriage is sharing. If he doesn't want to clean, he still has to do something.
2006-10-17 10:22:11 · answer #5 · answered by Karen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm lady and a housewife, I do ninety 9.9% of the house responsibilities, my husband works 11 hours an afternoon and that i protect the residing house, at the same time as he comes residing house there aren't any jobs to achieve this we are in a position to spend high quality time mutually, we are both truly happy with the problem - life is amazingly solid.
2016-12-04 22:35:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She really does not need him if he is not pulling his weight around the house. She has enough money to pay someone to take care of her home, children and a man that would appreciate her.
2006-10-17 10:24:50 · answer #7 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry dude, am a 'solid man' 3-1-1 and I just cannot picture what/how this is possible? Oh gosh, do we actually have men like this in the world for real?
2006-10-17 10:22:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick his lazy @$$ to the curb and tell him to get a housekeeper then. If he's home all day, he should be doing something productive, like keeping the household running. What the fruck do you think stay at home moms do?? Sit and eat bonbons all day???
2006-10-17 10:17:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think his shlonga donga justifies his existance if the housework is not done...same with men who marry dumb blonds who can't boil an egg, but MAN...they are HOT in bed...and the husbands go and hire a house keeper so that their barbie doll doesn't break her nails...
2006-10-17 10:46:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋