My best friend wants to know what to do about this situation. She was playing around with her man last night and found a condom in his back pocket. When she asked he said that he picked it up off of the dresser while cleaning. She said that she hasn't seen any condoms recently and they don't use them. Furthermore, prior to becoming her live-in man, she was having an affair with him for 3 years before he left his wife( and 5 small children, he has 11 total with 4 other women) for her about 6 months ago. He is a really good guy otherwise( I know that sounds stupid). He also told her that he may just move out before she puts him out but she thinks he's bluffing. She said that they didn't talk for the rest of the night and she hasn't said anything else about it yet. What should she do about this because she doesn't believe him.
2006-10-17 10:44:19 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She should tell him to keep his condoms in his car.
THE WEDDING TEST
My girlfriend and I had been dating for over a year when we decided to get married. My parents helped us in every way, and my friends encouraged me. My girlfriend? She was a dream! There was only one
thing bothering me.
That one thing was her younger sister.
My prospective sister-in-law was twenty years of age, wore tight miniskirts, and low cut blouses. She would regularly bend down when near me, and I got many a pleasant view of her underwear. It had to
be deliberate. She never did it when she was near anyone else.
One day little sister calls and asked me to come over to check the wedding invitations. She was alone when I arrived. She whispered to me that soon I was to be married, and she had feelings and desires for me that she could not overcome and did not really want to overcome. She told me that she wanted to make love to me just once before I got married and committed my life to her sister.
I was in total shock and could not say a word. She said, "I'm going upstairs to my bedroom, and if you want to go ahead with it just come up and get me."
I was stunned. I was frozen in shock as I watched her go up the stairs.
When she reached the top, she pulled down her panties and threw them down the stairs at me.
I stood there for a moment, then turned and went straight to the front door.
I opened the door and stepped out of the house and walked straight toward my car.
My future father-in-law was standing outside. With tears in his eyes he hugged me and said, "We are very happy that you have passed our little test.
We could not ask for a better man for our daughter. Welcome to the family!"
The moral of this story is:
Always keep your condoms in your car!!
2006-10-17 10:55:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is free soul. She can do whatever she wants. He had the condom /maybe for some security reason or another women/ who knows.? If he told her he is moving /he has already plans to move/ and the fight was to made this more reasonable. How much she loves him that's another story /how long she can wait to find out what is really going on/. She can give him credit if she feels so.
Fighting is the worse what could happened - there is no trust for good - is no mature communications and any responsibility to the future together. Just total disaster. Better she move on - and puts him out. But you never know how the love is blind, and they have been by a lot of thing to make better life for each other.???
2006-10-17 10:57:31 · answer #2 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK he is cheating and he's not stupid even though he left it in his pocket he is testing her to see what her boundaries are plus she is being very stupid if you steal another women's man your not actually steeling he was just making a back up plan for when his wife found out tell your Friend to be careful with this guy he sounds like the type that will make sure he gets his way no matter what she thinks or how nice he is he's a bad man and will do what he needs to do to stay under a roof she needs him out but to not do it by herself she needs backup trust me please
2006-10-17 11:03:12 · answer #3 · answered by Since birth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she was having an affair with him for 3 years before he left his wife( and 5 small children, he has 11 total with 4 other women)
2006-10-17 10:45:58 · answer #4 · answered by Karrien Sim Peters 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't be serious that he is a good man.He has 11 total children by 5 women.What is wrong with your friend?He was already cheating on his wife so why would he not cheat on his girlfriend?You need to tell your friend to lose this guy ASAP!!!!!This guy is a dog and out of control jumping from woman to woman he should be euthanized so he can no longer procreate.I can't believe women fall for pieces of s h it like this guy.Help your friend get rid of this dude.Also if he's talking about moving out he's got some other woman's house to go to.Also if she decides to continue a relationship with this piece of crap she should make him wear condoms because he will never be faithful and she don't want to have his 12th because she will be alone and it will seriously complicate her life.Unless this guy is extremely wealthy how can he possibly take care of 11 kids?He's really not that good of a guy seriously he's not!!!!!!!
2006-10-17 10:57:13 · answer #5 · answered by david r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you proof read your ? before you posted it. I must of missed something because you said something about him being a good man. What should she do, about what? she knew he couldn't commit anyway, so why is it shocking to her to find a condom in his pocket. She came between him & someone else, now it's happening to her. Isn't that the way it's suppose to go, oh she though she was the one that could change him. What she should do is, next time try finding another "good man" that doesn't belong to someone else.
2006-10-17 11:01:21 · answer #6 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy is a complete loser- God, what kind of idiot goes out and fathers 11 kids with four women? I am sure that being the upstanding paragon of moral goodness that he is, that he pays child support for each of these bastard children that he has condemned to a life without the stability that a true father can provide as opposed to a man who is only about getting his nut. She should dump him fast. I hate men like him. They give us all a bad name.
2006-10-17 10:47:56 · answer #7 · answered by Trip S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sure shes out the door. She was so niave in believing that he wouldnt do to her what he did to his wife, and its nice to see the other woman see what its like because she shouldnt have been messing around with a married man. Personaly she should suck it up because she got exactly what she deserved and mabye shell think twice about going out with a cheater. Oh in case I forgot to mention, hes out getting it from someone else and im sure hell leave her in due time too.
2006-10-18 07:49:41 · answer #8 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and confront him.
Get it all out in the open - if he has been unfaithful in the past he may be again, however, no-one other than him will know the truth.
If they arent in a relationship where they cant sit and talk openly and honestly then maybe they shouldnt be together any ways.
Good luck to your friend.
Your job now is to support her either way!
2006-10-17 10:47:03 · answer #9 · answered by *happyas* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess she either learns to believe him (HA!!!) or tells him to not let the door hit him in the butt on the way out. That's what I'd do and then think about how much you can trust a person who cheats on his marriage partner. What goes around comes around is more than just words strung together.
2006-10-17 10:59:59 · answer #10 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, did she recognise the brand of condom?
Has he been missing for any periods of time
had it been through the wash?
His comment about moving out sounds like he might be serious because he knows he's caught and doesn't want to make it rough on himself.
2006-10-17 10:48:05 · answer #11 · answered by b-rad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋